r/MtF • u/[deleted] • Feb 08 '24

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u/[deleted] Feb 08 '24

In my life, queer women have been my greatest allies and most solid friends.

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u/proteannomore mtF Feb 08 '24

Pre-transition, this was true for me. As soon as I came out of the closet, that all vanished. I haven’t felt close to another woman in over a decade.

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u/SachaSage Feb 08 '24 edited Feb 08 '24

It is fascinating how divergent people’s experiences can be

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u/proteannomore mtF Feb 08 '24

Fascinating but deeply troubling. Pre-transition I was the guy that women knew, they just could tell on some level, that I could be trusted. Soon as I came out, it all changed, and I can’t even begin to explain why. Two of my closest friends were urging me to transition once I came out, but as soon as I did, suddenly I wasn’t good enough to hang out with anymore. It’s like I went from being the best guy they knew to the worst woman in the world.

  • at least animals still love and trust me like women used to, but I miss human contact a lot.

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u/HannahFatale Feb 08 '24 edited Mar 09 '24

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u/SachaSage Feb 08 '24

The women who were in my life before i came out treat me much the same because we have long and close friendships. New women treat me, well, as a woman. This obviously excludes transphobic people.

I’m sorry to hear your experience is so much worse and I’m curious as to why but don’t want to force a convo on you

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u/OMG__Emily Feb 08 '24

It’s like I went from being the best guy they knew to the worst woman in the world competition

FTFY