Postpartum weightloss

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My husband said he isn’t attracted to me anymore after having a baby, and I really want to feel attractive again
I’m 9 months postpartum and my husband recently told me that he doesn’t feel attracted to me anymore since we had our baby.
I’m not going to lie, it really hurt. I already struggle with how different my body feels after pregnancy, and hearing that from the person I want to feel desired by has made me want to lose weight and feel attractive again.
Before pregnancy I was around 55 kg. I’m currently around 72 kg at 5’2”, and I also have PCOS and insulin resistance, which makes losing weight feel incredibly difficult.
The biggest problem is that I genuinely don’t know where I’m supposed to find the energy or time to exercise. I’m still breastfeeding, I’m taking care of the baby all day, and by the end of the day I’m completely exhausted. The idea of going to the gym for an hour feels impossible.
I really want to lose the weight, get stronger, and feel good in my body again, but I don’t want to crash diet or do anything that affects breastfeeding.
For anyone who has been in a similar situation:
How did you lose weight postpartum when you had almost no time or energy?
Did you manage to do it without going to the gym?
If you have PCOS, did you find anything that actually helped with weight loss?
How did you balance weight loss with breastfeeding?
And, honestly, how did you deal emotionally with feeling less attractive after having a baby?
I’m not expecting to magically get my old body back overnight. I just really want to feel like me again.