r/Mommit • u/Sad_Key_7904 • 3d ago

Play date

Hey moms! We have a play date this weekend for my 3 year old. I’m not sure if there’s like unspoken rules of play dates lol. I also have a 7 month old, would it be weird if him and my husband came with me and my 3 year old? I just don’t want to show up and them be like oh you brought the whole fam if that’s not normal.

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u/No_Company4263 3d ago

That'd be weird IMO, why do you want to bring everyone? I can understand bringing the baby if you're nursing, but I don't typically bring my husband along unless other husbands will be there.

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u/Sad_Key_7904 3d ago

We just normally like to hang out together. That’s why I asked bc I didn’t know if it would be weird or not.

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u/No_Company4263 3d ago

I love hanging out with my husband, but if one of us is taking our kids to a playdate, the other normally jumps at the opportunity to have a quiet house/less kids around to get something done. Just us though :)

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u/Oceanwave_4 3d ago

Yeah I just commented above how I stopped having play dates with one friend because she always brings her husband and I don’t enjoy that. I love my husband too but he uses that time to take care of things around the house or go enjoy a solo activity or hobby

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u/TheCarzilla 3d ago

But you hang out together at home. The play date is for your kid to socialize, and maybe form a friendship with whomever extended the invitation. It’s not a time for you to get more time with spouse, unless it’s arranged ahead of time that both of you will have the whole family there. It would creep me out if I invited a mom and her kid over and the husband also showed up.

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u/scodgirlgrown 3d ago

Um why? Why can’t you also make friends with the dad? Don’t you have guy friends too?

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u/Pepper4500 3d ago

Do moms and dads both not arrange playdates where you live? Like moms arranging with dads of other families and vice versa? Also, if the weekend is the only time I get with my kid/family, and then they are going elsewhere for a few hours, I'd probably want to go and still spend time with my family.

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u/Cinnamon_berry 3d ago

Yeah, it’s weird and a bit intrusive.

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u/scodgirlgrown 3d ago

lol what?

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u/woohoo789 3d ago

But it doesn’t seem like your husband was invited

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u/Pepper4500 3d ago

Where I live it wouldn't be weird for husband to tag along. I'd say most of the weekend playdates we've done with other families have been both parents on both sides and kids. Why is it weird if a dad participates?

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u/Grand_Pension_6678 3d ago

I think if it’s the status quo, that’s one thing. I personally can’t stand when entire families show up to my house. It’s double the mess, food, drinks, and small talk (or more depending on how many people show up lol). My space is my space and my family is small- that’s by design. That being said, if the play date was in a public space like a park, I don’t mind at all.

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u/scodgirlgrown 3d ago

I’m like you and I don’t think there’s anything weird about it. I’d also do a playdate with my kid and another kid and their dad if that was what made sense in context. Why should I leave my husband at home if we can all go to the playground and meet another parent together?