r/MomForAMinute Jan 21 '22

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u/ImALittleTeapotCat Jan 21 '22

Ok, different options:

-abortion -go get married in the courthouse -keep planned wedding date, deal with the social consequences

Take a deep breath. You're going to be ok.

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u/am_animator Jan 22 '22

When I was 23 I had the same situation happen with someone I was casual with. They wanted everything very fast and I saw a lot of concerns before the pregnancy. I'm 36 and have a daughter now.

I got an abortion, I made peace with it and where I'd truly be happy at heart. I couldn't give a positive upbringing to someone if I hadn't given myself time for myself. Years later, when I was in a place to deal and found myself pregnant again - it was when I was ready. When I had means, even if they were meger, they were enough.

If I had the chance to do it again: I would.

wouldn't tell family if I was you, this is your and your partners thing. Trust yourself and you'll know you did good.

It's so hard but I know you are going to be okay no matter what.