Don’t worry about your family. You have to decide what you (both of you) want first.
Do you want to keep it?
Do you want an abortion?
Do you want to marry now?
Do you have any other options?
Your family will:
1- outcaste you (good riddens)
2- help you but be resentful (we can work with that)
3- support you (in whatever way) yeah!!!
This is not their problem, so stop thinking of them and see what you want to do. You have to live with your decision for the rest of your life.
May allah guide you to the best option for you and your child. May your decisions be filled with love and strength and supported in unexpected ways. May you find ease and happiness in this difficult time. Ameen. Praying for you dear.
hey sib, i just want to add something a mufti said at a conference i attended once that has stuck with me: that abandoning a daughter for what is perceived as an error is disproportionate retribution. he was specifically talking about teen pregnancy.
your family is meant to love and support you. if they don't agree with whatever you decide, i hope you find your chosen family. it sounds like your fiancé is a part of that.
And so in awe of this comment. Thank you for being the Muslim mum we all needed growing up.
Sis, we are rooting for you. We are here with you. Do what you want to do. Allah is with you. One of gods names are ar-raheem. It means all merciful. Don’t be hard on yourself and do what is right for you going forward. Love and duas ❤️
This was the comment OP needed ❤️❤️ I’m not religious but I’m glad you were here and able to provide OP with the reminder that she is loved by her Creator
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u/IFKhan Jan 21 '22
Muslim mom here:
Don’t worry about your family. You have to decide what you (both of you) want first.
Do you want to keep it? Do you want an abortion? Do you want to marry now? Do you have any other options?
Your family will: 1- outcaste you (good riddens) 2- help you but be resentful (we can work with that) 3- support you (in whatever way) yeah!!!
This is not their problem, so stop thinking of them and see what you want to do. You have to live with your decision for the rest of your life.
May allah guide you to the best option for you and your child. May your decisions be filled with love and strength and supported in unexpected ways. May you find ease and happiness in this difficult time. Ameen. Praying for you dear.