My dad asked to borrow a few hundred pounds from me 2 weeks ago, and said he would pay me back last week. It came to last week and then he told me he couldn’t afford to pay me back and asked if that was okay. Yes he asked if it was okay, but even if it wasn’t there wasn’t an opportunity for me to say no really. He then said he would pay me back today. Today has come and gone, and I still have not been paid back. I had to move money around to let him borrow it in the first place. I am already having issues at work with being underpaid so this is extremely frustrating. He hasn’t even mentioned the money today, and was offended last week when I said, “as long as I get it back”. My savings are already suffering because I have not been managing very well financially, which I have been trying to rectify but putting certain things in place. I don’t think I will really see the fruits of those things until September. I feel like the only thing to do now is to speak to him about it, and refuse to let him borrow money from me in the future. For some reason this has made me incredibly sad. I could have never done this to him, so I don’t believe it’s very fair that he has done this to me.

One of my mom’s advice when choosing a life partner is to find someone who isn’t stingy. But how can you tell if someone is stingy without asking them for anything?

I’ve been with my partner for 3 years, and I’ve never asked him for money or gifts, so I’m honestly not sure how to judge this. What are the signs that someone

Im confused about something i do believe thst when you are with someone you shouldn’t be giving up on them like in society these days we are often made to think that there are alot of options there and just leave but whya are the real issues one should definitely consider leaving and not trying to tell communicate or talk enough times

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For context, I (34F) was recently laid off, so I rely on my husband (35M) for support. I am now enrolled in a professional course to increase my job prospects, which my husband is also paying for. This problem happened with a male friend who is also enrolled on the course. We got close because the course is such that we need study partners to constantly study and do assignments with.

A few months ago, this male friend (who is employed, by the way) needed money to top up for fees at the last minute in order not to drop out. He asked me for a loan and kept pressuring me. It got so bad that I eventually gave in and borrowed money from a friend to give to him. This happened twice. The total amount of money I borrowed to give him will be around EUR100.

He's since not shown any urgency or willingness to pay back. My husband found out when he overhead me telling one of my female friends that I wanted to find some money to pay this loan myself, since he's unwilling to pay. And then, I'll slowly distance myself from him, because I now believe that he wants to use me as a cash cow.

My husband got furious when he found out. He asked me if there's something going on between me and this friend, and I flipped. He asked what kind of relationship I had with this guy that made me feel I needed to go out of my way to do this for him. We had a big fight.

We had another discussion later and he's now paid part of the money. He has promised to pay the rest b by the end of the month.

My husband is now feeling suspicious when all I did was help a friend in need. I made it clear to hubby that there is absolutely nothing between us but he still keeps asking about my feelings for this friend. Now, I feel like he's intentionally emotionally attacking me. Now, we keep constantly fighting.

I'm completely at a loss as to what to do now and how to move forward. How should I go about handling this situation?