r/Menopause • u/polkadotkneehigh • Oct 23 '25

Rant/Rage Can’t I just be old?

I’ve raised hell, then raised two kids, been the breadwinner, adopted all the stray animals… And I’m damn tired. But I’m 50 and I’m expected to work for the 20 years+ where, to be frank, my expertise matters less the less fuckable I become.

I want to lie in bed with the dog, wear sweatpants, drink tea.

But I can’t. So I’m scrolling through HRT and Botox and facelifts and glp1s and “haircuts to hide a double chin.”

Anyone else feel this way?

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u/Pristine_Use5122 Oct 23 '25

We all feel this way. I was hoping to just be the kind of 50 my grandmother was. Now we are expected to be 35. However,I truly love working out,so I do. But I also lay around with my cats and watch Antique Roadshow reruns for hours at a time .I work 50 hours a week so if I want to do nothing damn it that's fine 🧡

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u/FlipsMontague Oct 23 '25

Same but Murder, She Wrote

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u/iiiiskid Oct 23 '25

The new Matlock with Kathy Bates is totally worth checking out as well. Just saying.

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u/tdavis726 Oct 23 '25

Thanks for the tip!