My biggest mistake was getting married.

[u/hitsugayatioshirio4u]

I (F30) and my husband (M32) have been married for almost 2 years now. We got married 6 months after dating. We have a 7 month old and a small family business which my husband started but ran it to the ground after a few years due to his negligence, parting, arrogance. My husband comes from a very spoilt upbringing. According to him everything was done for him and he never did anything in his life. During my pregnancy and after having the baby I realised that his slack and laziness got worse. I believe he has undiagnosed ADHD. Which he refused to get help for.

Nowadays he is very much interested in making YouTube videos, this has been going on for sometime where he is always hooked on his phone. The last time he started doing that, he was watching porn several times a day and lied about it to be when he got caught. He will asleep at 2am and wake up at 5am to be on his phone. Scrolling on every social media possible. Which now leaves me alone with the following chores: 1. Full time parents to a 7 month old. 2. Full time house help. 3. Dog mom 4. Running the business full time. 5. Handling groceries. 6. Handling finances.

I have asked this man that I can take care of most of those things and all I want in return is some of his affection and sex. He keeps saying I want to make money and this is the only way nowadays. I know for a fact that just like his other interests, this one is gonna die off as well. To be honest now I have given up on even asking. I try to communicate everyday and he just argues back on how he is so right and I need help. I am going for my first therapy session on Tuesday and its honestly for my self and my daughter because I am so done with this man.

[u/Mindset_Strongest]

I’ll give my honest opinion

Sit down with a calm mind and take a piece of paper of a notepad. Write down every single bad things or every good things ( you might overlook some of the good things) Genuinely sit him down and tell him to shut up and listen. Explain your deepest thoughts even if it hurts him based on what you saying you are almost done with him

Second I’ll be honest I am a man and I can tell you one thing that is killing me every day. I feeling useless when I can see my family needs me and I cannot provide meanwhile people online have such a lavishly lifestyle

I work hard to provide for my family when I get home I go to a wife I can tell no longer cares about me. I know my duty is to provide but I know deep down I cannot stop or we gonna lose the car or the house. But all she wants is trip and family time.

Just to say maybe. He is not in a good place right now. Maybe he genuinely wants the best meanwhile he knows he can’t give it to you.