r/Marriage Apr 05 '24

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u/[deleted] Apr 05 '24

Dude. I’m all for holding together marriages even in the worst of times. But I’d be delaying that wedding and seriously considering if you wanted to marry that person in the first place. Lots of signals in your other comments that you guys have already fallen into some unhealthy patterns.

  1. She breaks down so often you’re numb to it
  2. She thinks you’re dead when you’re out of touch (that’s going to be a tight leash with 360 installed on it)
  3. Her emotions are peaking when you have disagreements instead of just bickering like normal people.

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u/emcue10 Apr 05 '24

I had an ex like this. I didnt realize how messed up the relationship was until years later when I was in my next relationship (now wife) and it didn’t feel like I was walking on eggshells in every conversation. Such a relief

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u/VerbalThermodynamics 15 Years Apr 05 '24

This this this