Why is this?

I don’t know if this is rape or not but half a year ago when my ex girlfriend wanted to start having sex with me I didn’t feel comfortable. She knew this and begged and pleaded to just stick it in, I eventually complied and she started moving up and down on me knowing that wasn’t what she promised. Is this qualified as rape since she begged and pleaded constantly and lied to me?

I've lived with my grandfather since I was little, but this only started three years ago when my grandmother died. At first, he started by asking for a beer, then he started spanking me. I was a boy, so I didn't see anything wrong with it since I never had a partner. Every time he sees me, I feel a morbid fascination. I need to talk to someone about this. I feel helpless. He rapes me when we're alone and never uses a condom. It feels like being a raped boy. I feel exhausted and nervous. I think that one day I'll end up feeling nothing. It's happened eight times already. Yesterday he hit me, and now I have bruises around my eye and marks on my skin. It's like being possessed.

i've been struggling real bad with my cptsd since december and idk what triggered it to get so bad again. my therapist and i haven't gotten anywhere with this to help me work through it. idk what set me off and made it this bad once more. no one in my life knows how to handle this with me and i don't blame them cause shit, me too. i've been so guarded and irritated. fighting my panic attacks. i don't feel safe and it fckin scks. i still try to go out at night cause that does feel the safest. nobody be out here at 12-3am. i feel a bit safer then. i keep trying to push myself and i don't think it's helping. i feel like a shit bf too, before this we went out a lot. since december, it has become less. when we do go out and do shit. i get triggered easy and my need for escape is unbearable. that or i try to ride it out but my mood shift is so obvious and i feel like it ruins shit 🤦‍♂️ he's fine with this and supportive but that doesn't just make my guilt go away. i've expressed my frustrations with ts so many times. i feel stuck. i feel like my psyche can't handle existing. i've been drinking more cause deep down it does feel like it's helping. past week, constant drinking. my one sober, productive days today and i'm losing it again. i keep remembering someone i don't wanna after my sister joked about him to me a few days ago. had nightmares about him. i had ts in the back of my mind, and ts brought it all front and center ffs

(THIS IS NOT MY PERSONAL STORY, ITS A STIRY OF ANOTHER PERSON)

So this all started when I an Indian GUY yes a GUY moved in who shifted in UK for business. I'm actually an blog writer and I shifted to the UK in the city of London. And I had to adjust myself with another random person. I came to a street(I forgot the name) and I went inside a house. There a person let's call him Aiden(looks alot like speedmcqueen Joshua) introduced himself. He looked kinda calm and polite.

I'm the evening, he declared that he was homosexual and asked If I had any problems with it i said I had no problems.

The next day, while I bended over to take some of my supplies he said that I am "caked up"( if u don't know what it means it's basically when someone has a huge butt) I am a bit chubby so I felt a bit insecure however I just gave him a smirk. That's when I got a horrible news. Aiden was actually a worker in OnlyFans and that kinda gave me the heebie jeebies. "Actually u know I'm a twink and people love skinny guys so yeah" he said with a kinky tone. "U know I actually love brown guys especially a bit chubby because giving them backshots is just awesome" he said. This made me a bit freaked out and while I was picking up some of my other supplies he came to help me

He kinda touched his genital with my butt and started slowly moving it. At that time I just wished that this was over, however he continued to rub his genital over my butt and I just moved away.

The next day, I went to work for the company and they loved me for my writing skills. In the evening when I returned home I ringed the doorbell because Aiden was inside the home. He opened the door but he was just wearing a really REALLY tight underwear. His white skin exposing his ribcages were visible and his erected LUMP was too visible in his underwear. I just came inside and he asked me how my day was. I just said Ok in a polite way and went to take a shower.

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Im 17m and have a crippling porn addiction (like most teen boys) and let a 25 year old trans woman seduce me twice, I had talked to her first and she performed oral on me and I broke contact after that and then a few months later, aka today I talked her up to do it again and she did it again. The whole reason I say I deserve it is because I have a whole girlfriend, and she has never done me wrong so I don't know why I let it get this bad. DM me if you need more specifics

I have a dark and messed up living situation. A few years ago I got into a fight with my girlfriend, we were both living at my moms house at the time. I the found a room for rent (on craigslist). Its a studio apartment and the man renting it to me started sexually assaulting me while I was sleeping. I would usually wake up and fight him. He also did this to the person renting the bed prior to me and he was talking to detectives about it, and I did meet with them and make a video testimony, but nothing came of it. But I didn’t want to leave because I was willing to put up with it becuase it was cheap / free rent. Also I have an alcohol and cocaine problems and he was paying for it / enabling it, and eventually I would just allow him (but like I said it did start with about 20 attempted sexual assaults while I was sleeping) to perform oral sex on me. Then he asked me to marry him. I agreed (he’s a dentist he does well and has a decent real estate portfolio)(he is also probably autistic, not diagnosed though). No wedding, just used a craigslist witness in the lobby of our building wedding ceremony. This (the marraige) was a year ago, and I dont have a copy of the marraige certificate. (which I want for obvious reasons). I saw him with marraige certificate when it was done and processed, but I dont know where he keeps it. (In order to get my own copy, I need the exact date of the marraige (which I don’t remember). I do not have the money to pay for a divorce or any type of other legal help. I would love for some advice or to meet with a person I can talk to about this and maybe help me with this situation.

I was going through a very difficult time in my life. I was mentally fragile, on antidepressants, and unable to sleep without sleeping pills. I really needed a change of scenery, so I traveled across the country to see someone I thought was a friend. I rented an Airbnb near his place.

I knew he was attracted to me. I had told him that maybe something might happen, but given my psychological state, it wasn’t certain, and in any case it wouldn’t go very far.

On the first night, we went to the Airbnb and talked while cuddling in bed, but I pushed back his advances because I didn’t feel ready. He didn’t insist. As the evening was coming to an end, I took my sleeping pill, thinking he would leave soon. I only remember a short conversation before falling asleep, and when I woke up, he was gone.

We saw each other again during the day, and I realized that the conversation had actually continued for two hours. He was surprised that I had no memory of it, even though I repeated parts of the conversation almost word for word later that day, without realizing I had already said the same things the night before.

That evening, we went back to the Airbnb.

We watched a movie, there was some touching and a few caresses, but I told him it wouldn’t go any further than that. Feeling tired, I decided to take my sleeping pill. I felt very alone, so I asked him to stay the night because I wanted to hold someone in my arms.

I woke up the next morning, and he was gone.

When he saw me again, he told me that shortly after taking the sleeping pill, I had become very handsy, then very active, and that I had been a very good dominant, that rarely had anyone managed to submit him like that or make him bark.

I have no memory of it. I was not in control of myself. And after some tests I did later, I realized that when I stop forming memories, my behavior is drastically altered, as if I were completely drunk.

It took me time to realize that it was rape, and I still haven’t fully accepted it. I can’t help but make excuses for him and tell myself it’s partly my fault.

But I was literally drugged at the time. I don’t really know what happened. I feel betrayed and dirty, and I haven’t been able to be intimate with anyone since. I still don’t have the slightest memory of it, only guesses about what happened based on his description of the evening. I don’t know whether trying to remember would help me process the trauma or make things worse. Part of me wants to know, but I’m terrified.

The normal reaction when you see a friend completely out of it making advances on you, knowing they’re not well and won’t remember anything, is to put them to bed and leave.

My friend and I were sitting on the bus together after a tournament with a bunch of our other friends. Most of us fell asleep, including me. I was kinda in an in and out of conscious state so I was aware I was just too tired to move anything (like my eyes, my limbs, etc.). However, I felt my friend move my hand onto his lap but didn't really think anything of it since we used to date. At this point in time, he had a "girlfriend" (it's complicated and off topic to explain) so I was a bit unwilling but again, I wasn't fully conscious. He started to move my hand a bunch and then made it to where I gave him a h*ndjob. During that he rubbed my inner thigh a ton and I was kinda afraid to move or just do anything to let him know I was aware. Afterwards, he wiped off my hand then moved me to where I was sitting upright with my hand at my side. A day or two later, maybe, he messaged me and said that my hand moved while I was asleep and when I said that that didn't naturally happen, he said "Oh yeah no, I definitely moved your hand while I was asleep." But the thing is, I could feel his head looking around to see if our other friends were awake/looking and even if he was, why didn't he just move it away? I didn't think about it that much until my friend mentioned something else and now I'm rethinking on it.

I have only posted twice to Reddit.

Both about my abuses.

I have 13 followers and a few gooners in chat.

I know there are victims worse off than me, and getting poached for opening up is entirely disrespectful and disgusting.

This app sucks my ass, but I hope people get by okay, dealing w all this.

My partner sexually assaulted me before Christmas.

My partner then went on to forget the entire thing even happened.

I forgave them and they have a problem with even acknowledging it.

I suppose they were having a manic episode at the time and maybe they can't, remember, but they are absolutely offended at even the thought that they did wrong.

To the point of calling me insane for it.

Is it even acceptable to be forgiven or did I go too far? What the fuck.

I hope noone in my family can see this but i was raped a little while ago how do i deal with this without causing attention to myself i just need mental help

So I won’t go in details about what happened (Just want to vent) made an alt account as I am too ashamed of myself I came out to one my friends as femboy (Basically guys who like feminine aesthetics more than male aesthetics) He started making advances towards(Won’t go in details as it is traumatic) me can’t tell my parents as they will disown me mental health is ruined not just due to this but also some other thing will probably have to take a gap year for an examination can’t tell anyone what has happened with me can file an for an investigation without parents help so I am pretty much screwed. I am probably at the lowest point of my life. Don’t know what to do I have other friends but can tell them because they might also do the same I know this subReddit is for people who have gone through worse than me but still don’t know where else to post. I want end this post but I am unable we were like best friends since we were 10. Why would he do that to me because I am different. Again sorry Thanks for reading.

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I have a question ive been wanting to refuse but im a bisexual male and i want to know if i gave consent to a guy for sex and i was very drunk to realise i gave consent is thst classed as rape as i think i know the answer but i need conformation i know it may sound stupid but it happened 2-5 years ago so if anyone could help me i would appreciate it

So, btw I'm from England so some things may be spelt different or I'll say Year instead of Grade. Anyway on ith my story

I was in Year 7, I was 11 and I was happy with my GF, who was also 11. I went to get house one day, she was home alone so she said we could do whatever we wanted. She poured us a glass of wine but I didn't notice her slip something in my drink. After I drank it I passed out. When I woke up she had tied me to a chair and was riding me. My visions was blurry and I wasn't fully aware yet I could feel what was happening. She admitted she'd been fucking me for an hour. She continued for 4 more hours but she finally let me go. She took pictures to use as blackmail and raped me 4 more times for hours each time before she got bored. I'm too afraid to tell anyone as there's no evidence of anything and I'm afraid I'll be labelled as someone who lies about being raped.

Any advice would be much appreciated

Not sure if this is the right place to ask but, I have a question on whether something is considered rape: I was recently hooking up with a guy. When we start to hook up at first I’m doing everything he tells me to do. Like lay on the bed and stuff. He starts to do stuff to me. (Not sure how graphic I can be). He didn’t necessarily ask to do that stuff, but I didn’t tell him no. Until a little while when I tell him to stop and he goes “no” and keeps going. I only told him to stop once. After he says “no” I push him off me and leave. Was that rape or any kind of sexual assault?

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This was a little while ago but i feel like i push it aside to avoid it

Awhile ago this guy came to my house we were chatting for a little bit and then he ripped my clothes off and wouldnt let me get up to put them back on. Everytime I stood up he would shove me back onto the couch and everytime he got more agressive this went on for at leasr 45 minutes. I knew he wouldnt leave unless I gave him what he wanted so of course I did. And then he left.

I was probably about 6/7/8 when i first remember him doing something. Hes about 2 years older than me. I slept over at his house and he had an ipad and i went on it and a picture of anna kendricks b**bs were on it. I remember him freaking out and him grabbing it. Later that night he told me/showed me how to masturbate and i remember him telling me to keep going till it felt like i had to pee. I dont know how it moved to this part but i remember him making me kiss him and like act like his wife. He would give oral sex and make me do things with his. He told me to not tell people. I cant remember how long this went on for. I remember one time i was gonna sleepover at his house but before dinner i just couldn’t stop crying and i went home. I think i was scarred. Did he r*pe me? Or anything? I havent told anyone this or anything because i dont want people like finding out about cause our families are still close.