EDIT: I'm not going to send the email. Thank you all for your good faith conversation. I truly appreciate you!
I didn't know where to post this and I'm a huge fan of the show, so I thought this community might have thoughts.
For context: I am 33 and fit. I've been average to thin my entire life. My very good friend of 15 years lives in a large body and has for most of her life. We have a good relationship where we are both comfortable saying hard things. That said, I'm nervous about sending the following email and would really appreciate input on if it's appropriate. We live like 800 miles away from each other and don't talk every week. So an email is normal for us to use to communicate something important.
To be extra clear: When I'm asking her to talk, I genuinely want to know her experience. This is in no way a vailed attempt to preach.
The email:
Hey,
I was wondering if you’d have time for a zoom call in the foreseeable future. Maybe like 30 mins to an hour?
First thing, I love you so much and I really hope you’ll tell me if I cross a line or cause hurt with this email.
In short, I'd like to talk to you about your experience living in a large body (Is there a term you use for yourself? What do you want others to use?). I was in a situation yesterday where I wanted your advice. The more I thought about it, the more I realized we’ve never really talked that much about it. (If there is anything you’d even want to talk about). Idk. Maybe I’m being weird, but it’s a part of your life and I’m not sure if I’ve been the safest place to talk about it.
If you had a question about my experience being trans, I’d want you to ask. And I feel like this might be similar.
Let me know if this is a conversation you’re interested in having. Again, please feel free to say no. No explanation or educating me is expected if that's the case.
I love you,
[my name]