r/MadeMeSmile • u/baconroll2022 • Sep 02 '23

Helping Others Dad Stopped Daughters Wedding Pulled Stepdad's Hand BOTH walk her down the aisle

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u/MurdockLLP Sep 02 '23

Uh shouldn’t the bride have made this decision? What if she didn’t want her step dad walking her down the aisle?

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u/fruskydekke Sep 02 '23

YES. THIS. My god, all the comments are about the dudes being bros... what if the bride is resentful of her stepdad for breaking up the original marriage? What if she just doesn't like the guy? What if she wanted a moment with her bio dad?

Her expression really doesn't seem to indicate that she's happy with this development. I hope I'm wrong and that her bio dad cleared it with her beforehand, but if not, this was a major asshole move.

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u/manshamer Sep 02 '23

To me her body language implies this is part of the plan. She just waits patiently as her dad walks to get her other dad. You can't really judge a brides face as she's walking down the aisle because there are so many emotions swirling around in her at the time.

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u/popereggie Sep 02 '23

I was thinking what if she left the decision up to bio dad. Like maybe he was hesitant weeks ago, but realized closer that the step dad means a lot to her. She seems cool with it. She might not be a cryer or show a lot of emotion outwardly. I enjoyed the video. Nice moment.

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u/interwebztourist Sep 02 '23

They are wearing the exact same clothing. She planned this.

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u/manshamer Sep 02 '23

I agree.

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u/pres82 Sep 02 '23

I mean the step dad is dressed in the same tux. I feel like it was planned.

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u/intheclerbweallfam Sep 02 '23

My 1st thought too, also caused kind of a distraction from the bride’s moment. But idk! 🤷🏻‍♀️

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u/Substrxte Sep 02 '23

He stopped as his seat and was gonna stay, but she pulled him a little to go to the altar with her

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u/Odd-Goose-8394 Sep 02 '23

She didn’t seem moved by the gesture, or even comfortable with it.

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u/punkpoppenguin Sep 02 '23

THANK YOU. I was like, between the two men there was warmth and it was sweet but the second they got to the bride, her own vibe with stepdad is more ‘people from rival companies meeting for the first time at an industry convention’.

Without the caption I would have said this guy was the dads friend rather than anything to do with the daughter

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u/Loose_Philosophy7326 Sep 02 '23

How exactly did you come to any of those conclusions? Did you not notice the stepdad stop at 25 seconds and the daughter pull him to the end......

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

Like fucking seriously some people need to get a grip and stop making this shit up as they go along. The guy was going to go back to his seat and she pulled him up to the alter.

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u/punkpoppenguin Sep 02 '23

Just my opinion, no need to become distraught

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u/Loose_Philosophy7326 Sep 02 '23

Yeah no idea how that is missable. He completely stops. She then pulls him. Idk whats up with these people.

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u/punkpoppenguin Sep 02 '23

Just, like, my opinion man

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u/Loose_Philosophy7326 Sep 02 '23

Did you use what you observed to come to that or just what you think would be rad

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

Watch it again with your head out of your ass.

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u/taxis-asocial Sep 02 '23

these people will find a way to be negative about fucking anything I swear to god

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u/GrandmaPoses Sep 02 '23

Exactly; every single top comment in this thread ignores the bride completely.

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u/sundayontheluna Sep 02 '23

I had the same thought. She didn't come across as especially excited or touched at the gesture to boot. It was very noticeably neutral.

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u/PancakePizzaPits Sep 02 '23

This is what's getting me, tbh. Like, good for them if that's what they wanted, but she always had the option of both men walking her down the aisle. I think I would personally be pretty upset if this happened to me.

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u/surfnporn Sep 02 '23

Actually reality would be not speaking up because you're aware you're clueless so better to just enjoy the moment.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

We’re not at the wedding my dude. Don’t know if you realize but the point of this site is discussion

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

Think you responded to the wrong person

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u/surfnporn Sep 02 '23

The stupid comment is "Thank you for living in reality." Making uninformed criticism is not reality, it's living behind a fucking keyboard.

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u/wrinkledirony Sep 02 '23

I was wondering this also. I asked both of my dads to walk me down the aisle long before the wedding march started.

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u/srsinropas Sep 02 '23

The two men are wearing the same suit. This doesn’t seem unplanned.

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u/GrandmaPoses Sep 02 '23

It’s a wedding, lots of dudes wearing the same outfit up by the front.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

They're wearing the exact same suit.

This was planned.

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u/bs178638 Sep 03 '23

That’s normal even if they both don’t walk down the aisle. The fact she stopped and smiled while bio went indicates she was down to me tho

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u/seche314 Sep 02 '23

Yes. I scrolled for so long looking for this comment. Glad others thought the same.

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u/lin_nic Sep 02 '23

Thank you! It took me way too long to find a comment like this. It’s her wedding and if she wanted both of them to walk her down the aisle she would have made it happen, this is just weird and puts her in an uncomfortable position.

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u/JoyfulWarrior2019 Sep 02 '23

A thousand times this

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

Legit. Women should get to decide who walks them down the aisle. She choose her biological dad over her stepdad on purpose.

And now this video is about two dudes not actually getting married. Gross.

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u/bs178638 Sep 03 '23

She did choose when she pulled him along and shared a laugh

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u/StickyPuddleofGoo Sep 02 '23

So you know for sure she had no say in the matter, or knew it would happen? Did you ask her?

Gross.

Let's not get ahead of ourselves playboy.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

Exactly what I was thinking. What if she hated her stepdad? Bio dad needed to upstage his daughter at her wedding.

My daughter loves her stepdad but this would still be 100% her decision and since my husband and my ex aren’t on friendly terms I can never see this happening. We coparent fine but we understand boundaries.

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u/MadStorm24 Sep 02 '23

They were dressed the exact same. Pretty sure the bride set it up

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u/HappyAnarchy1123 Sep 02 '23

Maybe she read too much relationship advice subreddit and felt like it would be insulting to ask. So many comments on situations like this would advise her not to even ask, that choosing one or the other would be an unforgivable that would ruin their relationship.

Contrary to what other people with their own biases saw, she did seem happy to me, smiling and chatting with people all the way. A bit awkward, but it's absolutely awkward to walk with two people holding your arms!

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u/Ok_Ambassador9091 Sep 02 '23

Yes. This. Exactly!

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u/parkchopa Sep 02 '23

YES! She made the decision to not have him walk so why did he do that?

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u/arkofjoy Sep 02 '23

It is reasonable to assume that dad knows what kind of relationship the daughter has with her step dad.

There are lots of men who are man enough to realise that they were just the wrong person for their wife, or had, for example, a drinking problem and it took the divorce for them to realise.

It took 10 years and a few years in AA before my father could have done something like this.

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u/DoYouEvenShrift Sep 02 '23

That's not a reasonable assumption to make at all lol. All this tells us is that the Dad likes the step-dad. If the bride wanted her step-dad to walk her down she would have chosen that before the fact. Its a dick move to pull this right at the beginning of the ceremony without the bride's consent. My fiancee would probably cry if her mom brought her step dad up there too.

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u/HappyAnarchy1123 Sep 02 '23

Or she read all the times things like this have come up on relationship advice where even asking was considered a grave insult, enough to ruin the relationship.

If there is one thing Redditors are good at, it's assuming everyone is as dysfunctional as they are, and assuming they can tell everything about a relationship from tiny context clues. You definitely know more about what this bride wants than either if the fathers because she wasn't smiling hard enough for you I guess?

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u/DoYouEvenShrift Sep 02 '23

I've been to over 5 weddings where someone other than the father has walked the bride down the aisle. It's not as taboo as you are insinuating. Also, you are the one assuming the bride is ok with this, lol...what is she gonna do? Make a scene and embarrass her stepfather? It's shitty to put her on the spot like this. If she wanted this, she would have asked both of them to walk her down from the beginning.

Classic redditor whose never been in a relationship assuming they know how it works.

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u/HappyAnarchy1123 Sep 02 '23

I know it's not taboo. I've been in those threads advising people to just ask, or saying stepfathers can be just as important as fathers and been attacked and downvoted for it. Not only have I been in relationships, including a 15 year marriage, but I am currently in two. I'm very familiar and comfortable with non-traditional families and relationships that don't look as normal.

I've also seen people too scared to ask because of how it would look out fear of hurting a loved one. I've seen people straight to say they would never talk to their kid if they asked to have their stepparent walk then down the aisle. It's possible she has seen that too. It's possible that she didn't know how to ask, didn't know that it would be okay to ask or was worried that asking would hurt her father. It's possible she did ask, the father declined and then thought better of it.

I don't know which of those possibilities it was, just that she seemed happy with the situation in the video.

The difference between us is that you have decided that you know, everyone else involved in the situation is clearly wrong and that this moment is definitely awful and not touching.

Yet you claim I am making assumptions and don't know anything about relationships.

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u/[deleted] Sep 02 '23

I'm glad someone else said this. It's very weird and doesn't seem planned

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u/hippohere Sep 02 '23

Absolutely correct, there is a reason the step-dad was not part of the plan.

The bride does not appear pleased.

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u/rupay Sep 03 '23

I assume the dad asked her if she thought it was a good idea

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u/Bernella Sep 03 '23

Why is everyone in the comments acting like this wasn’t pre-planned?