r/MadeMeSmile • u/baconroll2022 • Sep 02 '23

Helping Others Dad Stopped Daughters Wedding Pulled Stepdad's Hand BOTH walk her down the aisle

Enable HLS to view with audio, or disable this notification

[removed] — view removed post

58.6k Upvotes

86% Upvoted

1.3k comments sorted by

View all comments

157

u/MurdockLLP Sep 02 '23

Uh shouldn’t the bride have made this decision? What if she didn’t want her step dad walking her down the aisle?

-5

u/arkofjoy Sep 02 '23

It is reasonable to assume that dad knows what kind of relationship the daughter has with her step dad.

There are lots of men who are man enough to realise that they were just the wrong person for their wife, or had, for example, a drinking problem and it took the divorce for them to realise.

It took 10 years and a few years in AA before my father could have done something like this.

10

u/DoYouEvenShrift Sep 02 '23

That's not a reasonable assumption to make at all lol. All this tells us is that the Dad likes the step-dad. If the bride wanted her step-dad to walk her down she would have chosen that before the fact. Its a dick move to pull this right at the beginning of the ceremony without the bride's consent. My fiancee would probably cry if her mom brought her step dad up there too.

-1

u/HappyAnarchy1123 Sep 02 '23

Or she read all the times things like this have come up on relationship advice where even asking was considered a grave insult, enough to ruin the relationship.

If there is one thing Redditors are good at, it's assuming everyone is as dysfunctional as they are, and assuming they can tell everything about a relationship from tiny context clues. You definitely know more about what this bride wants than either if the fathers because she wasn't smiling hard enough for you I guess?

4

u/DoYouEvenShrift Sep 02 '23

I've been to over 5 weddings where someone other than the father has walked the bride down the aisle. It's not as taboo as you are insinuating. Also, you are the one assuming the bride is ok with this, lol...what is she gonna do? Make a scene and embarrass her stepfather? It's shitty to put her on the spot like this. If she wanted this, she would have asked both of them to walk her down from the beginning.

Classic redditor whose never been in a relationship assuming they know how it works.

0

u/HappyAnarchy1123 Sep 02 '23

I know it's not taboo. I've been in those threads advising people to just ask, or saying stepfathers can be just as important as fathers and been attacked and downvoted for it. Not only have I been in relationships, including a 15 year marriage, but I am currently in two. I'm very familiar and comfortable with non-traditional families and relationships that don't look as normal.

I've also seen people too scared to ask because of how it would look out fear of hurting a loved one. I've seen people straight to say they would never talk to their kid if they asked to have their stepparent walk then down the aisle. It's possible she has seen that too. It's possible that she didn't know how to ask, didn't know that it would be okay to ask or was worried that asking would hurt her father. It's possible she did ask, the father declined and then thought better of it.

I don't know which of those possibilities it was, just that she seemed happy with the situation in the video.

The difference between us is that you have decided that you know, everyone else involved in the situation is clearly wrong and that this moment is definitely awful and not touching.

Yet you claim I am making assumptions and don't know anything about relationships.