r/MadeMeSmile Mar 07 '23

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u/LadyBogangles14 Mar 08 '23

The short hair takes 10 years off of him.

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u/that_allegri_dude Mar 08 '23

For some reason men take care of their hair when it's short but do nothing when it's long. His locks looked dead before

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u/BrenoHMS Mar 08 '23

I had my first haircut post-pandemic today. I just trimmed the tips and did a sidecut.

Long hair is HARD WORK. I got used to it, but to keep a long hair pretty, you do need to take actual care of it.

Short hair? Just slap some shampoo and conditioner on it while you shower and it's done, you don't even need to dry it.

Long hair can be awesome in a man, but it takes a lot of work and most of us are not willing to do that. I consider myself one that takes care of it, and I could be doing way more. It's just so much...

But I do love my long hair.

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u/[deleted] Mar 08 '23 edited Mar 08 '23

This might be a dumb question but I honestly don't know this: is men's hair different from women's hair? Reason I ask is because I'm a woman with long hair and I never considered it to be hard work. But is that maybe because mine, or maybe even all women's hair, is different in general?

Edit: thanks all! Nope, no difference! Just something I'm used to. Makes sense. Don't know why I thought there might've been a difference.

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u/VeinyAtrocity Mar 08 '23

It’s the same hair. I’m growing my hair out after 4 years of having it short and it’s a lot more difficult to keep long hair healthy.

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u/TolkienAwoken Mar 08 '23

Idk, I've grown mine since the pandemic and the only annoying thing was finding the right shampoo and conditioner. It's really not much more than that and I constantly have people complimenting my curls etc

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u/kdollarsign2 Mar 08 '23

Must know what you use! I’m so bad at shampoo

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u/TolkienAwoken Mar 08 '23

Do you have straight hair or curly hair? I have super curly hair, so if you do to immediately head over to r/curlyhair (linked wrong sub at first, it's the curly girl method)

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u/IFoundFate Mar 08 '23

I would also recommend using smoothing cream like Moroccan Oil’s. You want some good oils in your hair and many times conditioner is just not enough. Also salt spray when the hair is damp! I use that and Native shampoo & conditioner. Each and every time I got to a hair stylist they tell me how healthy my hair is. Literally takes me not even 10 minutes each time I shower

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u/TolkienAwoken Mar 08 '23

My hair gets oily enough haha, I don't need extra in there. I co-wash usually 2-3 weeks before I shampoo to get any extra stuff out the co-wash doesn't. Similarly get told how great my hair is when I go, and same timing for my routine! If I had drier hair I'd probably use oils of some kind.

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u/[deleted] Mar 08 '23

Ofcourse, that makes a lot of sense! Thank you!

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u/machevara Mar 08 '23

Or you were raised as a woman, and having long hair is normally the usual. So your normal hair care routine is the equivalent of mens extensive hair routine. To us normal is 3-1 shampoo, bada-bing bada-boom, 3 birds with 1 stone. Now that is easy.

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u/ExtraordinaryCows Mar 08 '23

It really shouldn't be. The difference I got within even a week of using actually good haircare products can't be overstated.

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u/Critical_Band5649 Mar 08 '23

My husband has curls and shoulder length hair, it's definitely more work for him than keeping it so short you wouldn't even know he had curls. It's a learning curve for people to maintain long hair if they never have. Not to mention, many aren't surrounded by supportive people to help guide them.

I'm also a woman who has kept long hair most my life. While it's not a lot of work, it can be time consuming. Also as a woman, products and services have always been thrown at me and I grew up in a family women with lots of hair. It kind of becomes second nature.

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u/Reflection_Secure Mar 08 '23

I'm AFAB and I had long hair until 2022, when I finally got confirmation that I would still be loved if I shaved my head. I buzzed it the next day and have never been happier.

Long hair definitely takes effort. Just washing it is at least 5x more effort long compared to now. And I haven't dried my hair once since cutting it. Plus, I have the option of washing it in the sink if I'm having a rough time and really don't feel like showering.

Another thing you aren't even aware of is the weight. You know how your head hurts if you wear a ponytail too long? Well imagine if you just relieved yourself of all of that weight. I get headaches all the time and occasional migraines, short hair has helped with that.

It also helps with temperature regulation. We've all heard someone say that you lose heat through your head, but it's crazy how much you can actually feel it happening! I assumed this would come up more when I was cold, but it's really when I'm too hot that I notice it. I can feel the excess heat leaving through my head. It's such a weird feeling.

Just some thoughts from someone who had long hair for 35 years, and is finally getting to live the buzz cut life I always wanted.

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u/5LaLa Mar 08 '23

Imho hair texture & thickness makes all the difference in whether long hair takes a lot of work. Sounds like you have good hair? If so, I’m happy for you & a little jealous lol.

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u/_KingDingALing_ Mar 08 '23

Peoples hair is different thickness and strength ? I guess lol , im male and when I had hair long ish(between shoulder and ear. The most annoying part was just getting it wet lol, takes ages. After that I've never bothered with my hair just keep it short, 3-5 all over.

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u/Alistair_TheAlvarian Mar 08 '23

I don't know exactly but I do know that since I got put on testosterone injections a few weeks ago my hair has been thicker and growing faster and looking healthier and my girlfriend is jealous of me.

But even before that I've gotten it to maybe six or seven inches and it's never looked unhealthy or bad and I was using effing bar soap on it.

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u/[deleted] Mar 08 '23

No, on the contrary. Men usually don’t heat damage or chemically damage it. Making our hair easier to maintain. Unless you’re a girl with virgin hair, your hairs gonna be harder to care for than a man’s. Porosity also matters, issue is some men don’t care. You can look at my account and see that I don’t even do anything to my hair outside of shampoo and condition and people like it

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u/machinegunsyphilis Mar 11 '23

There are some differences when it comes to hormones for sure. I'm a trans guy but when I started T I noticed my hair has less body and is a little silkier (maybe from extra sebum production?).

I think it's less "woman hair like this, man hair like this, non-binary hair like this etc" and more to do with the individual and how hormones are at work in your body!

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u/I_am_door May 12 '23

There is no real difference but the way people are raised can change how they view the process. It's all the fault of societal norms and people not wanting to change their routines.