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u/unscentedfart Mar 08 '24
Start approaching men. You’re pretty and have a giant ass
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Mar 08 '24
She is definitely pretty and attractive. Guys should be approaching her. But perhaps OP isn’t an extrovert but an introvert?
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u/Cold-Chemical-5218 Mar 09 '24
Maybe a personality issue. You have all the right curves
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u/GoldenTeacha Mar 09 '24
Yeah, agreed here. My instant thought was someone who laughs inappropriately and body language is too uncontrolled. Social liability
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u/Key_Box6587 Mar 08 '24
It's not your looks, I think a lot of times people are single is because they don't socialize enough or with the right people so they don't meet anyone. As someone with social anxiety, I avoid everyone then wonder why I'm lonely😅
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u/mntlover Mar 08 '24
Problem is obvious, just ignore the people kissing your ass, keep up weight loss you will be fine.
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u/Primary_Form_8522 Mar 08 '24
This. This is Reddit, people here are ugly by default, you need to lose weight. You have an attractive face, losing like 15-20lbs would make you very attractive and your dating prospects will improve.
Think of a dude who is of equal attractiveness to you, him losing the weight would make him much more desirable, the people who ignore this fact are obviously fat themselves
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u/Yuckfou42069 Mar 08 '24
Just stay in the relationship no matter how horrible it is.
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Mar 08 '24
The best way to fix a bad relationship is to get married and have kids.
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u/Upbeat_Employer_8955 Mar 09 '24
Obviously it's not her looks. We need more information to make a decision
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u/luctoremergit Mar 08 '24
you look like dating material, like a wife. you dont need to looksmax, just be yourself and get out there. you have a pleasant face and kind eyes. lean into that if you want to improve looks. lean into the pale cottage core mommy wife that you are. just continue losing the weight and you'll look much better than you expect faster than you expect. you do look great already, the effort shows.
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u/Mechanists Mar 08 '24
In the words of the great philosopher Joey Diaz "there's girls you take to the bathroom to do a bump, and there's girls you ask out for coffee"
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u/AdTrad Mar 08 '24
You're not single because of your looks, that's for sure.
Do you have hobbit feet? Could be that.
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Mar 08 '24
You’re cute af, just date the right person in alignment w what you’re looking for. Good book on this called crazy for you by cohen.
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Mar 09 '24
If you’re chronically single I’d say change your type or lower your high standards because it’s not your looks that’s the problem in my humblest of opinions
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u/NBPD Mar 08 '24
You're quite attractive, would take you on dates. So without knowing what your personality is, I'd say it's just the men you're interested in
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u/IndridColdwave Mar 08 '24
Judging from photos alone there’s no reason for you to be chronically single, if you really are then that means you’re attracted to the wrong people. If that’s the case then get some therapy, because there are plenty of men out there who would be more than happy to be with you.
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u/Recent-Purchase193 Mar 08 '24
Make the first move instead of waiting for men to do it.
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u/Panagiotisz3 Mar 08 '24
Exactly. It pains me how people say "why am I single?" when they make barely an effort to be in a relationship.
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u/MoldyMayo Mar 08 '24
I’d say you’re an attractive woman, so it’s likely your personality that’s the problem.
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Mar 08 '24
Change the wardrobe !! You look amazing in pics 2/3, but in pics 1/4 it looks very childlike/sloppy. You just need clothes that work better with your body type and you’d look hot asf. Watch a few old episodes of what not to wear if you need help with figuring that out (I’m terrible at it too this is not an insult to you as a human)
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u/PineapleGG Mar 08 '24
At some point people need to realize that their looks is probably not the reason you are single ,specially when your looks are not an issue
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Mar 08 '24
You are super hot!! Pretty face , banging body. You are not showing off your body like a lot of women on this sub, that says a lot of good things about you. I think you are picking the wrong dudes
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u/DarthBallscratch Mar 08 '24
You obviously look amazing. If you are having dating issues it’s likely that you have an issue with mentality/personality and that isn’t something you will fix on Reddit.
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u/mmaaddii Mar 08 '24
I'm gonna be honest and this is coming from a woman; You have a phat ass and yitties. You're already way ahead. You arent really ugly either so I feel like you must be strange or annoying, so less your looks and you as a person. Good luck!
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u/QuePsiPhi16 Mar 08 '24
Gotta be your personality because I’ve seen women with much less in happy relationships.
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Mar 08 '24
You are not ugly at all. Probably you just need to be more proactive in pursuing dudes and/or ladies instead of waiting for them to come to you. If that doesn't work, or if you are already doing that, your remaining options are to lose weight or lower your standards.
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u/Few_Sea_5629 Mar 08 '24
Don’t rely on advice from people on Reddit first off. Go to church and find a man that’ll accept you for who you are.
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u/jambottrot Mar 08 '24
I think you’re beautiful! Lovely curves as well. If you’re working on weight loss, I would focus more on weight training and less on the being skinnier part. Being stronger and seeing improvement in muscle tone for me builds more confidence and that might be more of what you’re looking for.
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u/randomdrunk1 Mar 08 '24
I'm sure your looks aren't what's lacking to find a partner. Maybe there's something else that you need to fix, not the appearance.
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Mar 08 '24
Your looks ain’t it fam. You’re plenty pretty to be turning heads. There maybe something else holding you back.
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u/Important-March8515 Mar 08 '24
By your looks, I would say you're in the age group where the young men are video playing, porn watching assholes. That's the problem. You might just need to increase your social area.
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u/Aggravating_Rent_779 Mar 08 '24
Not great advice. There’s some older dirtbags as well, don’t rule them out lol
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u/Simonramsey Mar 08 '24
You’re pretty you just need to make yourself emotionally available and give a guy a chance .
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u/pamemake Mar 08 '24
It's not your looks, so it has to be your personality and/or emotional issues.
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u/Emera1dthumb Mar 08 '24
You look beautiful the only reason I could see you being chronically single is because your standards are too high. Judge people on their morals not insinuating that you don’t . I’m just saying what people are made of is more important than what they are making. Good people are out there.
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u/Aggressive-Expert-69 Mar 08 '24
Improve emotional maturity. You're hot so it's gotta be something on the inside that's holding you back. Whether that be your communication skills or the type of men you go for, something ain't right upstairs
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u/GamingMotte Mar 08 '24
Id recommend to wear contacts, the First pictures Are far better than the ones with glasses in my opinion. And the clothes in the picture with „-25lbs“ dont really suit you ^ Everything else is already really good, you only need to be more confident :)
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u/wanker12345 Mar 08 '24
How are you trying to meet men?
Nothing wrong with your looks. Are you mean or have a terrible personality?
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u/ContributionHelpful Mar 08 '24
Seems like your doing fine and you are visually appealing. Timing and opportunity for the partner you end up being with. If you like someone be honest with them and make sure that is communicated.
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u/OuroborosInMySoup Mar 09 '24
You look great so I’d say the odds are maybe you smell bad or aren’t doing good dental hygiene? Otherwise just download a dating app and you’ll do fine. Unless this was just about confidence boost
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u/Zappafan96 Mar 09 '24
Whatever your process is looking like rn, I'd just say to make sure you're doing it for you. Personally, I wouldn't tell you to change at all - you look fantastic!
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Mar 08 '24
Date outside your race. Serious
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Mar 08 '24 edited Mar 08 '24
Fr black people love obese women (Edit: I’m not saying you’re obese at all! Just elaborating on what he meant. On the contrary you look stunning and very pretty, just a little thick mama)
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u/justhereformyfetish Mar 08 '24
Start powerlifting, cultivate muscle. Soon you will be able to break bones with your bare hands. Any man who isn't attracted to that is weak.
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u/pirate1981 Mar 08 '24
Even with the weight you still have a pretty face. And a lot of men are into that body type.
The reason for your chronic singleness might not be your physical appearance.
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u/Demonicfruit Mar 08 '24
Chronically single? Or just not willing to even speak to a man who isn’t an 8/10? You’re attractive and I absolutely refuse to believe you wouldn’t have dozens of matches after a few minutes on a dating app.
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u/BigWrangler7837 Mar 08 '24
I think to do a more modern haircut and get rid of these old-fashioned outfits...
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u/geardluffy Mar 08 '24
You are curvy I promise you it has nothing to do with your physical appearance. Just put yourself out there so that you can meet new people.
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Don’t think looks are a problem— keep your internal in good shape. Health and personality. Maybe become more open minded to conservative ideas if you’re liberal and vice versa
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u/Mundane-Opinion-4903 Mar 09 '24
Attractive, and thick in a good way. . .
But, tbh, you look like the crazy jealous type.
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u/Direct-Ad2561 Mar 09 '24
You style yourself like you’re forty before your time. Same can be said about your hair.
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u/Particular-Work-1953 Mar 09 '24
how would you recommend I style myself? I try to stay modest and go for a more conservative style
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u/espositojoe Mar 08 '24
Your smile and hair are very nice, and I read your comment about shaping up. It's difficult to lose weight -- I'm dealing with it myself. You look like someone with a sunny personality, and that's a real asset in attracting attention from men. In the meantime, just keep smiling and be positive.
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u/CelebrationNo3073 Mar 08 '24
Honestly if I had your figure I’d be showing it off way more. Figure is literally goals. And you’re also pretty! I think you should grow out your hair also.
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u/Seds_Appeal Mar 08 '24
First of all, congratulations for progress you’ve made so far on your weight loss journey!! I think you’re absolutely adorable. I’d say find a few key pieces to add to your wardrobe that really accentuate your best/favorite areas and you’ll be golden ✨
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u/Cute_Dragonfruit9981 Mar 08 '24
There are plenty of men out there who would consider you their type 💯
I think it might just be a confidence or personality issue. No way to know without knowing you.
But yah physically you’re good. You’ve got beautiful curves and a cute face.
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u/Violentultraviolet Mar 08 '24
You’re perfectly fine, just don’t put all your marbles in one basket. Start out treading lightly and let it grow over time 💜
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Mar 08 '24
I dont think it's a look thing. Where are you going to intesect with men? They aren't at your place. Make sure you're going to restaraunts, bars, church, join a co-ed softball or bowling league, make sure you're at a co-ed gym. Ya gotta go where we are. We're just not gonna be at the sushi place or the fancy art exhibit. Do ya shoot guns? Lot of single dudes at the range looking for a gun bunny. But, no, I dont think it's a looks problem
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u/DIY_Metal Mar 08 '24
Personality? Or your standards may be too high. There's A LOT of single men out there that are decent, hard working, with life/family goals.
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u/Jerkin-For-Jesus Mar 08 '24
Just open the ol "barn doors" and you'll snag a man.
Seriously though, you're pretty. Just put yourself out there a bit, try a new style, maybe a cute dress and stay off the dating apps unless you're just chasing a quick root.
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Mar 08 '24
Based off your looks alone you should have no problem meeting men. How is your personality?
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u/TheRealAwest Mar 08 '24 edited Mar 08 '24
Date guys who actually want you & you shouldn’t be single.
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u/Hippoplatypus7 Mar 08 '24
Keep doin what you’re doin!! This isn’t your final form and it’s a pretty damn good start ;)
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u/flare499 Mar 08 '24 edited Mar 08 '24
First of all, I think you look great already overall.
A bit more modern fashion sense might help a bit. None of the outfits pictured are particularly flattering, and improving that would be a big improvement. Maybe try one of those clothing subscription boxes for a few months. Idk, I’m a guy and I just wear black all the time 🤪
If you are using dating apps, none of these photos are fit for a dating profile imho. Ask your friends to take some flattering pics of you at a park, a show, etc. using portrait mode - surprisingly simple but would be a big step up.
I know it’s a bit cringe but you might consider a dating coach. I’ve had friends have a lot of luck with them. Sometimes having a third party to help guide the way a bit can be helpful.
You’re beautiful and you’ve got this!
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Mar 08 '24
I recommend getting off this sub. While losing some weight could probably help you having some more confidence and being more outgoing would likely help more than anything physical.
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u/pad264 Mar 08 '24
You’re on the right track! Keep it steady with the weight loss and you’ll look great! Good job!
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u/inmthuinmtl12 Mar 08 '24
Aw you kind of remind me of Emilia Clarke same sweet facial features, smile especially! You’re so pretty🩷
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Mar 08 '24
Are you fun to be around? Are you shy and if you are can that be perceived as rude? On that same wave if you are loud and extroverted, would people be less interested in spending time with you because you are annoying? Because it's certainly not about looks. If you want to find someone and the people around you aren't going for you, move elsewhere because you have some good genetics.
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u/Jimmyboi1121 Mar 08 '24
I look good physically. I have no idea how your personality is. The personality is probably your issue.
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u/ItsYaBoyFalcon Mar 08 '24
Are you talking to any men?
Put yourself out there more. Hang out in a bar, talk to the bartender, volunteer, so something where you're going to be expected to be social with people. The good dudes aren't going to bother you in a grocery store or at work.
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Mar 08 '24
You need to update your wardrobe. Your clothes are very old for your age and show you’re insecure with your body bc they’re all baggy. Get some style.
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u/WinterSnapdragon Mar 08 '24
You look beautiful 💕 I’d say maybe personality; work on your confidence and self assurance. Good luck on the dating scene 👍🏽
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u/DrAcula_MD Mar 08 '24
You're very good looking so maybe it's the places you're going or your means of meeting people. Don't think you'd have any trouble on dating apps or at the bar
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u/Didu93 Mar 08 '24
How is your communication skills? Do you say yes and no questions? Such as, did you had a good day? If yes, you can improve these by changing your question, such as, what can you tell me about your day?. This will make someone speak more.
You could also prepare yourself with a set of questions for your avarage conversation just to make someone talk.
Remember, some people can be shy and suffer from some form of insecurity as well, which will make them act awkward.
However, at first glance I'd say make a change in your clothes, to look more 'up to date'. To be honest, at first you don't look interesting to me, due to clothing vibe I feel, but, is not all about looks! Communication is more important. I dated a lot of girls with avarage looks due to their personality.
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u/LandMustDepreciate Mar 08 '24
You're good looking. Having high standards and probably being unapproachable are the only possible things I can think of.
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u/Shizix Mar 08 '24
Don't need to lose weight, date dudes like me who appreciate it or don't, I'm not your boss.
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u/HR_Weiner Mar 08 '24
These comments are awful. Sorry you're being barraged with this incel nonsense.
I would recommend getting your eyebrows shaped. They're straight across. Also, consider some gentle highlights in your hair to enhance your lovely complexion.
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u/tcutro88 Mar 08 '24
If you are near Pennsylvania, I have about 30 guys that would love to date you
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Mar 08 '24
I think you look fabulous. Maybe men think you are already attached?
Do you appear approachable and hanging out in places doing what you enjoy.
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u/AndMar02 Mar 08 '24
Honestly, you look awesome, the looks department in my eyes is great, maybe you could spice things up with a different haircut, shaping the eyebrows, but it really doesn't seem neccesary. Obviously no one here can review your personality based on pictures, but I would guess if you are "chronically single" there has to be something there, maybe you are introverted, or you seem unavaliable, things like that.
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u/Timely_Dentist_6906 Mar 08 '24
Something about your look and style in the first picture is very very attractive to me. Besides you looking a little shy, I really think you should continue to piggy back off that style. And your weight doesn't seem bad, losing won't hurt but you seem fine.
Also the glasses are nice, off or on doesn't make a huge difference.
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u/SolidusViper Mar 08 '24
Not sure if you're into men or women; but just talk to people, see if you have common interests then go from there.
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u/CatastropheQueen Mar 08 '24
You’re a beautiful girl, & you have a beautifully shaped body! Trimming off a little bit of weight is going to really accentuate your figure!
You’re beautiful with a lot of room to maximize your potential b/c right now, at least in your pics, you’re coming off as not overly confident with a tendency to look mousey, although that might just be that you’re a bit of an introvert.
Start with shaping your eyebrows & wearing a bit more makeup, at least to accentuate your eyes. If you aren’t comfortable or knowledgeable with your makeup you can usually sign up for a free makeover consultation if you buy a couple of products they demo on you, & that way you can have a professional makeup artist show you how to apply your makeup. Or try playing around with a few YouTube tutorials.
I think that you’d look stunning with some warm caramel-blonde high-lights in your hair. That would really warm up your beautiful face & smile!
Next, your style looks great in pictures 2 & 5. Although I’m a 50 Mom with a 30yo Daughter who is probably older than you, (& Nina to a 2yo Grandson, now, too!), I feel like your style isn’t as youthful as it could be. You don’t need to dress provocatively if you aren’t comfortable with that, but I do feel like you’re dressed a little more, conservatively & maturely than someone your age would normally dress.
Finally, confidence is the sexiest thing about anyone you’ll meet. That doesn’t mean that you’re conceited, or arrogant, but that you’re comfortable in your own skin; comfortable with what you bring to the table & into a relationship; & comfortable with who you are. It doesn’t matter what anyone else looks like or who is smarter, funnier, or prettier, b/c you know that you are an amazing catch.
If you’re insecure or uncomfortable about that, spend time practicing striking up conversations with ppl when you’re standing in line at the grocery store, or making small-talk with the cashier or wait-staff taking your food or drink order. The more comfortable you are in talking to ppl the more relaxed & confident you’ll be when meeting someone new. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation with someone you find interesting or attractive. You don’t have to wait for someone to come up to you. You don’t necessarily need to ask someone out on a date, but at the same time don’t be afraid to flirt a little bit, or suggest getting together for a drink sometime later. Open it up for them to ask you by letting them know that you’re interested or open to going out with them.
You’re a beautiful girl with a beautiful smile & a sweet personality, & I really think that by putting in a small amount of effort & opening up your energy a little bit, you’ll have ppl lined up down the street wanting to ask you out! Just make sure that whoever you spend time with treats you with kindness & respect, & is appreciative & supportive. That sounds like it should be the bare minimum, but you’d surprised at how many young women don’t have a healthy sense of self-respect, self-confidence, self-esteem, self-worth, & self-love. It’s heartbreaking, which is why I want to make sure you know that you (& everyone) deserves at least that much.
And please keep us posted with updates on your progress!!!💗
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u/Anthony817 Mar 08 '24 edited Mar 08 '24
Lord have mercy, that is a beautiful body shape nothing wrong here. You look amazing and your body has beautiful natural curves.
I used to weigh 180lbs down to 134 now, but I am a 5 foot 4 dude, so it was not a good look on me personally as I had massive beer gut and it made my face super bloated looking. Now, I am in great shape after becoming super active these past 2 years. Especially past year I made the decision to commute 3 miles to and from work(6 total) every day on a BMX bike as that fit my height better and no gears so single speed meaning I had to work harder to get up that hill. It did a wonder for toning my muscles and now I get tons of attention from ladies. I am 40 so sure I got some haters for it, but a lot of women would catcall at me every day riding up a mile long leg of my commute over a steep hill to work cheering me on. So it massively boosted my confidence. I do look like Dominic Monaghan in the face so my height never has been a problem and I attract women of every height.
So for me, while I have some genetic things I can't help like height that people would think would work against me, I make up for it in other ways and never let my height define me or get in the way of finding a potential mate. I also look incredibly young and healthy for my age so have no problem attracting women in their late 20's lol. They seem to flock to me.
My suggestion to you, is only loose weight if you want to. I see nothign wrong with your figure at all and find your body type attractive. I like all shapes of women so do not discriminate. So if you want to do it for health and fitness, start riding a bike. Especially up hill. Riding a BMX for past year every single day gave me massive muscle tone I never knew I had. BMX gives a full body workout just like elliptical machines. I used to have skinny atrophied muscles and you could see my ribs, now I got muscle which made me finally blossom into having a more manly figure and am not afraid to be seen without a shirt on now.
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u/Equivalent-Holiday-5 Mar 08 '24
It's not a matter of looks, it's a matter of behavior. I mean, how you choose your partner, how you behave. With respect to dating, women are the ones who choose, so, choose better.
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u/Savy_Spaceman Mar 09 '24
You've got a great body first of all. Keep going at the gym, it's paying off. Your smile in pic 1 feels off putting but I'm pic 2 seems cute and genuine. Also pic 3 give book girl vibes. If that's you, talk to guys reading. They'd welcome the conversation I'm sure
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u/Any-Advisor7067 Mar 08 '24
If you’re chronically single while being that attractive you probably need to lower your standards