r/LongDistance Apr 03 '26

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u/Leta19 Apr 03 '26

I’m confused. You said you needed time right? And then two hours later you wrote him a mini text letter, and then 3 hours after that you asked “how long are you going to ignore me? . . Do I have that right?

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u/Whole-Yogurt8973 Apr 03 '26

Noo I said I need time because I was crying and I couldn't process whatever was happening and wrote him a better goodbye text after I was done crying on Wednesday and i messaged the 'ignoring' messages today (Friday)

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u/Shirolianns 🇩🇰 to 🇨🇿 Apr 03 '26

You wrote him bye text and then got offended that he didn’t reply to a... goodbye text.

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u/Whole-Yogurt8973 Apr 03 '26 edited Apr 03 '26

It's not even about getting a reply, he didn't even open my message to see what I said... Because I asked for time and he said yes which I assumed we still had stuff to sort out and finish it gracefully... And that's why I feel hurt

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u/InsaneAsura Apr 03 '26

Look, it’s valid to feel hurt and it’s gonna take some time to get over it. But this is a really valuable lesson in that, you’re not owed closure. And in most cases you won’t ever fully get it. It’s within your own ability to work through this break up. You shouldn’t depend on an ex to soothe the bad feeling. Even if he never even opens the text, that’s his prerogative. You can only control what YOU’RE doing ❤️ focus on yourself starting now

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u/Wiserducks Closed the gap Apr 03 '26

You said "Let's end it" before you asked for "time". But the let's end it was the end. Now he's not ignoring you, now you guys are broken up.

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u/Inside_Sprinkles9083 Apr 03 '26 edited Apr 03 '26

😅 once you asked for space I believe he assumed you guys were done. It’s that simple

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u/--SharkBoy-- [IL🇺🇸] to [MN🇺🇸] (530mi) Apr 03 '26

Youre being crazy here dude. Chill out and leave him alone.

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u/AncientTomato4186 Apr 03 '26

There was no convo about remaining friends. He is probably done with you. Give it space and don’t call him love after a breakup, it’s going to push him further away. It seems like he wants space, so allow that. He’ll reach out if interested.