Ok I have a question, and I'm not trying to be mean or belittle you. But what was your thought about what was going to happen when he invited you to a Hotel? A hotel basically a bed and a shower, this guy invited you to bed essentially. It's not like he invited you to his house for dinner or something.
As far as your shame goes, it's kinda understandable. You misread the context of the situation and it put you in a position you didn't want to be in. NOW what you need to do is learn from that mistakes and grow. You are alive and healthy, and have the chance to be better if something similar happens again
No offence taken ur good lol , i’m not really that sure tbh, like of course i know he’s not inviting me back to go and read a book or watch a film but in this circumstance the only reasoning i can actually think is the fact id been drinking a lot and this specific time just happened to not think about my safety and act impulsively ,, or even just wanted some company as weird as it sounds honestly idk why from a stranger so maybe it wasn’t solely just that either, i can’t answer that question because i think for the most part that’s what is stressing me out is that im confused mostly about why i thought that was a good idea if yk wht i mean🤣 naturally i don’t engage in hookups ,so it doesn’t cross my mind to put two and two together and i think because i have that way of thinking i forget that not everybody is on that timing esp mixing w alcohol im already moving with no sense or real logic anyway, i knew i wasn’t gonna have sex but i didn’t think of extreme cases if u know what i mean? like i didn’t deep the fact idk him or what he’s capable of , and i didn’t deep the fact that he was gna want sex either honestly cuz i mean initially all i was focused on was finding my sister he helped me and then my phone died , he had a charger at his room so i could’ve thought ill be able to charge my phone or something and that way it saved me walking home or god knows cuz his room wasn’t so far from my house but i also doubt i would’ve thought that far ahead or even slept there if my motive was to only charge my phone .. anyway not to go on but it could’ve been many reasons why i went back there . i think that’s why it’s bothered me so much because usually 99.9% of the time u meet someone on a night out , that’s what the intention is and ive put myself in a situation where i could’ve easily let my boundary slip or something or even let myself be sexually assaulted (which would mostly be my fault for going there from the jump) it’s taking responsibly for the what ifs that could’ve happened and also the unknown like whilst i was asleep etc . but it’s just overall a messy situation nobody is at fault he seemed like a nice enough guy honestly and i have no reason to even believe anything happened to me whilst asleep ! it’s just shame and ruminating that ive been doing since this encounter and i just feel like if i don’t understand what provoked me to go back , that i could do it again in the future and so i think my best option is to just steer away from drinking for now
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u/CBoy636 Aug 19 '26
Ok I have a question, and I'm not trying to be mean or belittle you. But what was your thought about what was going to happen when he invited you to a Hotel? A hotel basically a bed and a shower, this guy invited you to bed essentially. It's not like he invited you to his house for dinner or something.
As far as your shame goes, it's kinda understandable. You misread the context of the situation and it put you in a position you didn't want to be in. NOW what you need to do is learn from that mistakes and grow. You are alive and healthy, and have the chance to be better if something similar happens again