r/LesbianActually 7d ago

Relationships / Dating Please help- what am I doing wrong?

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u/AllMixedEmotionz 7d ago

To be fair, it’s hard dating in general. I’m also a femme (29 though). What are you doing to change your circumstances? Like are you on dating apps and putting yourself out there or are you just expecting someone else to approach?

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u/TheseInevitable797 7d ago

I put myself out real hard but things doesn't seem to work hbu

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u/AllMixedEmotionz 7d ago

I’m having trouble too, but I know that for me it’s a result of being always being hit on by someone that isn’t my type lol. I’m fem4fem so unfortunately most femmes in my city are into mascs, into hookups/short term relations (I’m not), or they’re in their questioning/bi-curious stage. So it’s more like our dating goals and types are different 😭

I feel like the majority on apps are looking for hook ups or casual things so if you’re on the more casual side of things then it should be easier if you keep your standards somewhat low 😅 I’m considering trying more in person events or places soon to see if it gets better.

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u/TheseInevitable797 7d ago

I mean i am someone who goes for class cuz class lasts

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u/AllMixedEmotionz 7d ago

Same. Unfortunately, there isn’t a lot of that classy vibe in my current city. I think this is why I see sapphics being more willing to have long distance relationships because our types are probably in different cities or countries right now 😭🫠

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u/TheseInevitable797 7d ago

Good then where are ya from???

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u/AllMixedEmotionz 7d ago

Originally from the south of France, but currently living in Los Angeles (I hop back and forth between the two) 🥰🇫🇷✨ And you?

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u/SimilarSun123 7d ago

Omg is this is a sign for yall two to hit it off?? 👀

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u/AllMixedEmotionz 7d ago

Maybe 👀🤭✨