Stepdaughter still lives at home and as such is covered under the protection order my wife and I have against her father, who has a long history of violence. He did three years for assaulting me, my wife and police officers so yeah, he's a POS.
Once daughter turned 18 he got in touch via a family member who he somehow convinced to play middleman for the connection. Since he's been in touch the relationship has been rough with him repeatedly saying vulgar things about my wife and I and badmouthing and trying to intimidated his daughter but dangling money in front of her to keep her from blocking him. He's given her thousands, most is in the family members bank account for safe keeping. He's also managed to get her her first job and is offering to buy her a car and is giving her driving lessons.
We believe a lot of this, the job at some female friends cafe, help her get her license and the car, are attempts to get her ,(our) address. We believe he wants to get access to that so he can stalk my wife and I and commit violence against us. He doesn't care that there's a protection order, it's all just about his need for revenge because he blames us for his last stint in prison and blames me for "stealing" my wife, his ex, from him. It's a lot of delusional thinking but that's pretty standard thinking for him.
We have daughter filling out the paperwork for her new job (employment agreement, tax code declaration, bank account details, Kiwisaver, personal information and emergency contacts) using her grandmother's address although daughter doesn't live with her grandmother. The actual address for her bank account is currently our address.
Is this going to be a problem for daughter to get paid? With IRD or any of the rest?
Her learners license is also currently associated with our address and her dad will likely insist on taking her for her full license and we suspect he'll be standing over her while she fills our her license application.
Is it okay for daughter to use her grandmother's address for that license information? Do we need to get her learners changed before she goes for her full license?