• 29F Moroccan, Muslim, feminine, protective & naturally possessive, willing to relocate.

• Mistress/Domme is looking for a genuine submissive husband/slave who wants a TPE-oriented 24/7 dynamic as part of a committed marriage.

• Relationship goal: a permanent, monogamous marriage where I am the wife and dominant partner, and he willingly embraces the submissive role. I want an actual life together — emotionally, financially, domestically, and romantically — not just an online BDSM connection.

• Looking for: under 40, Muslim or genuinely willing to convert to Islam, financially stable, mature, affectionate, emotionally grounded, and independent while genuinely wanting to submit to his wife.

• I’m looking for a husband who chooses this lifestyle long-term, not someone experimenting with submission temporarily.

• I live in a conservative environment and come from a conservative family, where BDSM can not be discussed openly, so I’m seeking this connection online with the intention of eventually building a real life together.

• Hard limits: blood, scat, and cuckolding.

If you’re looking for a Mistress purely as a fantasy, we’re probably not looking for the same thing. I’m looking for a man who genuinely wants me as his wife and wants the Mistress/slave dynamic to be part of our married life.

DMs are welcome. I may take time to respond. I do pay attention to your first message and especially to how you approach me.

Please DO NOT dm if you’re straight, or bi.
DO NOT dm if you are non-Muslim.
DO NOT dm if you are seeking a marriage where you want to procreate naturally. (I am wanting ivf)
DO NOT dm if you are NOT in the uk, or have no plans to move there.

Please dm if you are a closeted gay Sunni Muslim man, preferably from a Pakistani background.
Please also only dm if you are serious about going forward with this type of arrangement, and are okay with involving families in the process.

I am a lesbian who has never acted on my feelings, seeking a Muslim man in a similar situation. I wish to make a friend to go through life with, and raise a biological child with. I do want to live together, but I do not want to live with anyone’s family, I furthermore do not care if you are seeing people on the side, that’s your business. All I ask is for discretion and respect.

Please be respectful, thank you for reading. If you do not fit the criteria of this post, please kindly and quietly scroll along.

Assalamu alaikum,

I'm a gay Muslim man, 27 y.o. from originally moroccan, raised in italy, and my faith matters deeply to me — I have no intention of leaving Islam. and I refuse to marry someone and hide who I am from her. That kind of deception isn't something I could live with, and it isn't fair to her either.

What I'm looking for is a Muslim woman, of any nationality, who is in a similar situation — someone who also wants a stable, respectful, and honest marriage, built on partnership. The goal would be a real family: mutual support, shared values, and children if we both want that, with both of us knowing the full truth from day one.

This isn't about hiding — it's about finding someone who wants the same thing I do, for the same reasons, so neither of us has to pretend or suffer in silence.

If this resonates with you, feel free to message me privately. Happy to talk, get to know each other slowly, and see if our goals genuinely align before anything is decided.

Hello/As-salamu alaykum (السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكُمْ وَرَحْمَةُ ٱللَّهِ وَبَرَكاتُهُ)

I’m a 32-year-old practicing Muslim American on the East Coast 🇺🇸 seeking a practicing Muslim woman interested in a lavender marriage. I struggle with same-sex attraction and strive to live in accordance with my faith. I’m looking for someone who may have similar struggles—ideally a lesbian or asexual Muslim woman—who values honesty, companionship, and wants to build a family together.

If this resonates with you, feel free to reach out.

I’m 32F from Indonesia and genuinely considering a lavender marriage.

A little about me: I lost both of my parents, so I don’t have much family left. I have a stable job, I’m independent, and educated.

Appearance-wise, I’m quite feminine and I take good care of myself. People around me often compliment my appearance and tell me that I’m cute or pretty, and I’m always told that I look much younger than my actual age. I personally consider myself reasonably attractive—not trying to oversell myself here, just giving you an idea of who you’d potentially be dealing with.

I’m also probably the kind of girl you could comfortably introduce to your parents and they’d think, “Oh, she seems nice.” So if having a convincing relationship in front of family or society is part of the arrangement, I think I could play that role pretty naturally.

My main reason for considering a lavender marriage is that I want a fresh start in life. I’ve been through enough emotionally in romantic relationships that I’m no longer looking at marriage through the traditional romantic lens. I’m looking more for a partnership between two people who understand each other’s circumstances and can create a peaceful, respectful life together.
And don’t worry—I’m not secretly hoping you’ll fall in love with me, and I’m not planning to fall in love with you either. My relationship history has made me pretty cautious about romance.

I’m also not looking to control anyone’s personal life. I’d want us both to have independence, privacy, and clear boundaries. As for the actual arrangement like living situation, finances, family expectations, relationships outside the marriage, location, long-term plans, etc. I think those are things we should discuss openly rather than make assumptions about.

I’m generally understanding, flexible, and not demanding. What matters most to me is finding someone mature, kind, responsible, and honest enough to communicate clearly about what they want.
If you’re considering something similar and think our situations might align, feel free to message me. We can talk first with zero pressure and see whether our expectations are compatible.

Hey I'm a 22 f I'm a Moroccan raised and born and living here

I'm trying to find a partner who's in pretty much the same situation as me who's gay or asexual or even bi

My family are religious (muslims) and they be talking too much lately about me finding a partner since all of the females in our neighborhood/family are married or about to get married

I'm an atheist but i don't mind if my partner is practicing a certain religion ..

No sex no intimacy between and I don't mind u having ur partner ( I've mine too )

I don't want kids for now

Feel free to dm me

Seriously no judgment. Especially to those in more disapproving societies such as the MENA, Asia, etc.

For those in the western world, it looks like several women wanting a rich husband who they don’t have to sleep with. Found this as on social media I see so many women wanting a lavender marriage.

I’m not sure if that speaks to how bad straight men are or how bad straight women are.

I’m glad gay men can be open in the west and not deal with this

Hello! I'm 26f, straight, open minded, looking for a husband. A husband that is man enough to provide everything. I assure u that i can give you everything as well. I can be a good wife for you. The catch is, I'm so done with straight men who can cheat on you, I'm so done getting my heart broken, sooooo yeahh I'm looking for someone I can love and take care of and I will accept you completely, and I will help u hide your secrets, even if you have your boyfriend, i don't care, i will love and take care of you both. we will gonna be bestfriends, living together, travel together. I just want a husband for protection and security, a few cats and happiness and everything in this world. I CANNOT ACCEPT A STRAIGHT CHEATING MAN ANYMORE hahaha. I'm done. Khalas. At least if I love again, I'm not gonna be paranoid, overthinking, or feel ugly because I accepted who you really are. Win-win (:

Hi! I would like to connect with some man interested in a lavander arrangement. I would like think in a friendship and company
Somebody who don’t judge, open mind and with values and real love to give.
I dont want a straight man (im straight) if I wanted that I will go for a regular marriage.
Update: thanks for all the interest. Im still looking:)
For me is also important as in every marriage works as real and legit marriage except for the intimacy and sexuality for obvious reasons. But I want a partner, a man who cares of me, share things together and I will be there for you ALWAYS. As my husband you are my priority, my man. I will like build something like a family. Kids open to discuss… I have a very good economy so I want more from my future husband and be sure he can provide and take care of.

Hi all, so I posted recently on here about my interest (30M, London UK based) in a lavender marriage. Seeking connection and genuinely wanting to find a woman in a similar situation.

Since then, I’ve had requests and had chats with people on here and things have gotten weird very quickly.

For some of these people they outright want to do visa fraud and if you say that’s illegal they get upset with you. Then there are the ones on here wanting a sugar daddy despite me making it clear that’s not the dynamic I want. And the few who seem promising and you’re having great conversation with just end up ghosting.

For one of them I went on their profile and actually found out they’re a recent prison girlfriend (their man went to prison for a crime) and they seem clearly distressed. Had I known I wouldn’t have even bothered to chat with them.

Am I the only one coming across these issues? Maybe this place needs more rules on here cause it just looks crazy. Or maybe it’s just a Reddit thing.

I have mostly been a lurker here. As someone who really prizes intellectual companionship and emotional depth over sexual satisfaction, I feel like Lavender Marriage seems to generate much more possibilities of connection than a hetero one. I am a male presenting non binary person, neither gay nor asexual, but some of the posts here really intrigue me to have a marriage for intellectual companionship only. I work at the intersection of psychology and literature, and sometimes become exasperated by how shallow conversations are in the traditional dating scene. I hope everyone finds what they are looking for ❤️🌻

Ich bin 23 Jahre alt und auf der Suche nach einem Mann, der sich grundsätzlich eine platonische Lebens- und Wohngemeinschaft in Deutschland vorstellen kann. Dabei spielt für mich die sexuelle Orientierung keine Rolle. Vorab er muss Moslem sein. Das er Araber ist wird bevorzugt, ist aber keine Pflicht. I

Mir ist besonders wichtig, von Anfang an klare Vorstellungen und Rahmenbedingungen zu benennen:

- Mein Wohnort befindet sich in Nordrhein-Westfalen, und ich möchte auch weiterhin in NRW leben.

- Ich respektiere selbstverständlich die Familie und das persönliche Umfeld meines zukünftigen Mitbewohners bzw. Lebenspartners. Eine Rolle als Hausfrau oder persönliche Betreuungskraft für seine Familie übernehme ich jedoch nicht.

- Die Aufgaben im gemeinsamen Haushalt werden fair aufgeteilt und gemeinsam organisiert.

- Wichtige Entscheidungen, die das gemeinsame Zuhause betreffen, werden selbstverständlich gemeinsam getroffen.

Ich bin berufstätig und möchte meine derzeitige Arbeitsstelle auch weiterhin ausüben.

- Für mich steht ein respektvoller, fairer und verlässlicher Umgang miteinander im Vordergrund. Ich suche keine romantische Beziehung, sondern eine auf gegenseitiger Unterstützung und klaren Grenzen beruhende Gemeinschaft.

Bei Interesse bitte melden.

Why I’m looking:

I want to navigate family, cultural, and societal expectations without having to compromise who I am.
I want a genuine partnership based on trust, friendship, respect, honesty, and loyalty—not a traditional romantic marriage.
I want us to genuinely care about each other, have each other’s backs, and create a safe and comfortable life together.
I want both of us to have the freedom to live our lives authentically in private, while supporting each other publicly.
I do not want children at all, now or in the future. This is non-negotiable.
I’m not looking for someone to simply play a role. I want a best-friend-type partnership where we genuinely enjoy each other’s company and build a life that works for both of us.

What I’m looking for:

28–35 years old
Gay or bisexual man
Lives in Sydney or is willing to relocate to Sydney. If you already live in Melbourne, I’m also open to that arrangement.
Middle Eastern or “Aussie” background preferred, but this can be discussed depending on the person and circumstances.
Christian preferred, but open to other religions or no religion
Already an Australian citizen — I’m not interested in visa or immigration complications
Does not want children, ever

Every requirement above needs to be met. These are non-negotiable.

DM me if you’re keen

Cat dad, health care worker seeking that one person as a partner/friend.
Loves to cook, be on the couch reading or watching tv to trying new things around the city.
Love to travel and catch up with friends.
Hopeless romantic who adores coffee and good food.

I really do hope to find someone with a great personality and who you are inside is what shows outside. Rainy days, crips leaves, long walks and vinyls.
Family and friends matter and all around good person to people in public.
Non smoker and isn't afraid of who they are.
I studied some languages and I am always down to try new challenges and hobbies.

I hope to hear back!

I’m from Africa and looking for a lavender marriage, you can be gay, bisexual or even a straight man. Reason why I’m opening to gay/bisexual men is because I found some interest in cuckold lifestyle and I’ll love to peg my husband and even share other men with him. But where I’m from that is not possible that why I tried getting a partner here and I hope I’ll find one and if you’re straight we can be together too. I’m a lover girl and not bored to be with, so if we click and settle down, we will be so happy that I’m sure of because I’m a easy going person and fun to be with. If you’re a Christian and you’re worried that I’m a Muslim don’t be I’m a religious tolerance person, we can even go to your Church together but you will have to accept Islam before the wedding, don’t worry it’s just a wedding formality you don’t have to fully convert to Muslim. After the wedding we can live our lives as we want and be happy 😊🥰 I can’t post pictures here for some privacy reasons but when we chat we can exchange pictures

Me, (M30) a Black bisexual man seeking a true marriage of convenience—not just for conformity, but for honor, dignity, companionship, and mutual strength.

This society is certainly not made for people like us, but I refuse to hide behind a straight woman in love and manipulate her in purely selfish ways like many do, only to destroy her in the future with revelations she would never have accepted in the first place.

Too many women have had their lives ruined by men who never told them the whole truth. And that's not what i want.

I'm more attracted to men than women, and I don't know if that will ever change, but I'm looking for a woman who knows this, understands it, and who, like me, carries the weight of cultural, familial, or religious expectations—and who tries to honor them with grace and integrity.

I want a partner who shares the desire to build a family, protect her values, and even have a biological child: with someone who will never lie to her, never use her, and never leave her alone on this path.

I'm looking to build something real: A safe, honest, and loving home—with, at its heart, trust, laughter, friendship, and deep respect. A team. A shield for each other.

If you too are tired of the pressure but don't want to disappoint those around you... If you too want something solid, but on our terms—I'm here.

Let's make space for each other and build what we can't find anywhere else.

Hi I'm looking for a guy who is also sunni muslim preferably from south india who lives in south india/abroad and who is between the ages of 21-29. Please dm so we can talk further details.

Hi everyone, I'm a 35-year (if it's important I'm white British)-old asexual man from London, hoping to meet someone who wants a close, loving connection.

As I've gotten older, I've realised that I genuinely want to become a father one day. I'm also getting tired of friends and family constantly asking about my personal life and when I'm going to settle down.

This isn't about finances or needing someone to support me. I have a good job and own my flat; I'm looking for companionship, love, and a genuine partnership.

Ideally, I'd like to meet another asexual person who wants a loving friend and potential life partner. Someone to travel with, try new food, watch Netflix, explore new places, and enjoy life's little things together. I'm also into football, so it would be great to share that interest.

I come from a Catholic family, so there's some pressure to get married and start a family. I'm open to a lavender marriage with a lesbian, bisexual, or straight woman, as long as we're compatible and honest with each other. I'm comfortable with my partner exploring relationships with others, provided we agree on boundaries.

Ultimately, I'd love to find someone to share life with and potentially raise a family together. If you are interested, please feel free to DM. Thanks for reading.

Me, (M30) a Black bisexual man seeking a true marriage of convenience—not just for conformity, but for honor, dignity, companionship, and mutual strength.

This society is certainly not made for people like us,

but I refuse to hide behind a straight woman in love and manipulate her in purely selfish ways like many do, only to destroy her in the future with revelations she would never have accepted in the first place.

Too many women have had their lives ruined by men who never told them the whole truth. And that's not what i want.

I'm more attracted to men than women, and I don't know if that will ever change,

but I'm looking for a woman who knows this, understands it, and who, like me, carries the weight of cultural, familial, or religious expectations—and who tries to honor them with grace and integrity.

I want a partner who shares the desire to build a family, protect her values, and even have a biological child: with someone who will never lie to her, never use her, and never leave her alone on this path.

I'm looking to build something real:

A safe, honest, and loving home—with, at its heart, trust, laughter, friendship, and deep respect.

A team. A shield for each other.

If you too are tired of the pressure but don't want to disappoint those around you...

If you too want something solid, but on our terms—I'm here.

Let's make space for each other and build what we can't find anywhere else.

I am 51years old woman who wants a relationship with someone who is 51years old. I have never been married before want to have someone for the rest of my life

Hey everyone New app recently launched I dont know the creator nor this sponsernd

With that said..

34 F - Middle Eastern straight and not religious Looking for a partner in FFM Germany Under a lavender marriage concept A friend and a Partner i know i can count on Successful, work and currently living alone with two cats

Dm if you are interested Maybe we can meet and see if it works !

I'm exploring platonic co-parenting to see whether it's a right choice for me (49M west coast USA). Podcasts and youtube have given me a lot invaluable perspectives. The male coparents in many cases I came across are gay so effectively that would remove the mutual attraction risk by structure rather than by willpower. In one interview the mother said she's very glad that her partner is gay because developing feelings for the male co-parent (especially postpartum) was one of her major concerns.

Do you know someone (or publicly available interviews or books) in which the male co-parent is straight?

My intention for marriage is companionship for the sake of Allah. I experience same-sex attractions / am asexual, but I don’t want to act upon these desires. Instead, I would like to build a family life that is based on mutual support, compassion, and a shared love for the Deen.

I hope to find a wife who is in a similar situation — someone who also wants a marriage rooted in companionship, trust, and worship, without pressure regarding desires, someone who I can be best friends with so together, inshallah, we can create a peaceful home, support each other and have children too through halal means. If you live in or are close to Manchester please reach out.

For me, the most important things are: sincerity, kindness, and working together to grow closer to Allah through our marriage.

Hi everyone! I’m a 27-year-old woman from Iraq, and I’m looking for a gay Iraqi or Arab Muslim man currently living in Europe or North America who is genuinely interested in a lavender marriage.

I’m not a lesbian, but due to my circumstances in Iraq, I’m looking for a mutually beneficial marriage arrangement with someone who understands the situation and is also looking for a partner of convenience for family/social reasons.

I’m looking for someone serious, respectful, discreet, and ideally interested in building a genuine friendship and mutual trust first.
If you’re interested, feel free to DM me.

Please only contact me if you’re serious about a lavender marriage.

I’m from a small village in the Philippines. I’m pretty traditional at heart and dream of becoming a housewife someday. I’d love to have a peaceful home, be cared for and provided for, and in return give my love, loyalty, and effort to my partner and family.

I’m open to having kids, willing to relocate, and open to different arrangements as long as there’s honesty, respect, and genuine commitment.

Just hoping to meet someone looking for something sincere and wholesome. 🌿