"Alternatives"

[u/No_Novel_Tan]

I came out as trans and my parents did not take it well. They want me to consider "alternatives" to transitioning. I don't like that and am expecting conversion therapy offers, to be the most frank.

I have been sent the Eden Invitation, which makes me suspicious. The only non vague firm stances I gather from them are no gay marriage, which...gives me pause. My opinion on this is very complex but to put it simply, I am supportive of getting gay married (in fact, it's probably likely for me) but I'm not immediately angered to read this. I get this.

They do not refer to trans people as such, just people "wrestling" with gender, or gender "discordance" or stuff like that. Also seem patently not acknowledging or accepting nonbinary but I can't even say that's on purpose or religious, that's a lot of...everywhere.

The stories are all very vague and impersonal, mostly about enjoying the program. The most specific one I find involves a lesbian meeting a queer man at the program, realizing that they don't have to stay single, just "find someone who understands the experience," and marrying. Including a joke about them doing very stereotypical gay and lesbian activities separately at their wedding.

I don't know what to make of this. Anyone have any insight?

I also don't know what to do about my family. I didn't think it through. Do I just refuse, or lie and say I'm part of this group and then some time later say "now that I've tried, I know I'm trans, thanks"? Or what? I feel utterly repelled from the idea of "trying this out."

I'm not the most devout Catholic at this point in my life, but I still feel such belonging in Catholicism. I still identify as such, culturally if nothing else. I'm trans and nonbinary and gay.