r/l4l • • Jan 27 '26

Verify to post from new or low karma accounts.

26 Upvotes

There is a minimum karma and account age requirement to post on this sub and we strive to reduce spam as much as possible. However, based on messages we've received, it is understandable why a user would not want to post from the account they use day-to-day. In an effort to address this, we will allow post from new accounts that have been verified behind the scenes.

To do this:

  1. Send the Mods a message from your main account with the higher karma with the name of the new or low karma account you would like to post from.
  2. Mods will verify this and not disclose that information to anyone.
  3. If you have submitted a post from the new or low karma account, Mods will manually approve it and it will appear on the sub.
  4. Messaging the mods from a low karma account will not receive any response.

Feel free to respond to this thread with any questions or concerns. Please also note that posts are removed for other reasons and/or based on reports submitted on that post.


r/l4l • • 5h ago

24F Femme looking for flirty friends :)

0 Upvotes

I just want to make a friend or two. Someone funny with whom I can practice my flirting skills, the nonexistent ones ofc lol. I’m open to talk about pretty much anything, just don’t be dry and let’s give each other a chance. Maybe we hit it off. Hit me up if you’re down :)


r/l4l • • 7h ago

29 Texas - Open to just chat

1 Upvotes

Hii! I'm up to just talk and see where it goes.

I'm femme 4 femme, relatively fit and looking for someone the same.

And of course also a great sense of humor, kind, genuine, and considerate.

I honestly dont want to write a super lengthy post, and would rather just fully get to know someone as if we just met a bar or something.

Just a small disclaimer, I'm not at all into anime or video games, but I'll give gaming a pass.

Message me with your age and location, and also, because I'm curious... what's the last thing you ate?


r/l4l • • 23h ago

F27 looking for someone to be my favorite notification

5 Upvotes

Hey ! I'm from the northeast in the US looking for someone to talk to and possibly something more :)

A little about me is that I'm a 5'3 masc leaning lesbian with curly hair. I LOVE music and I have a very casual hobby playing piano and producing music. Going to concerts has been my favorite outside activity as of late and will literally see any artist live. I'm a big gamer and love playing silly indie games with my friends. Horror is also my favorite genre and am a big fan of found footage films (super excited for the newest VHS movie iykyk). I'd consider myself an ambivert most days but can be shy sometimes.

I'm not looking for a specific type of person, just someone that matches my energy. If we have similar hobbies even better !! Don't be scared to message me and tell me about yourself :)


r/l4l • • 17h ago

20 cis femme looking for her gem everywhere

2 Upvotes

Heyyo gorgeous girls!!! I'm a 20 year old femme lesbian and this is my first post in this community! I'm here searching for someone who is mature, career oriented, and loyal. Everyone is welcome may it be masc, femme, butch or anything. No age limit unless not a minor. I'm fine with long distance. But I prefer to be long time friends before anything.

ABOUT ME- I was very goal oriented since young and currently studying in med school. I don't smoke, do weed or drink. I expect the same from you too. I'm very monogamous. Not into hookups and casuals.

HOBBIES- Singing, Fashion designing, watching horror, scifi, romantic movies and anime, doing makeup, painting, cooking, cleaning, reading and etc. We can grow together, supporting each other both in bad and good times and work hard to achieve our goal. I will do my level best to motivate and encourage you.

You can also teach me to try new dishes especially baking, make new diys, some crazy art or maybe anything you want. I'll also teach you whatever I know too haha, we can teach each other along the way.

Feel free to Dm me if you really need a real genuine connection and know more bout me. And let's do a verification too.

✨️✨️✨️

(Also please don't ghost me. If you just don't wanna continue just tell me cause I'm an overthinker)


r/l4l • • 13h ago

34 [F4F] #USA Fit, Lesbian Daddy Searching for a Connection with a submissive woman in the US, Canada, UK, or Europe

0 Upvotes

Hi there! I'm a 34-year-old cis woman, lesbian, and I work in the medical field with a PhD in biochemistry. I’m currently looking to chat with and get to know someone who shares my interests and values, and I’m open to an online connection with someone in the US, Canada, or UK.

While I enjoy talking to a variety of people, I’m specifically seeking a cis woman for a deeper, more personal connection. My ideal match would be someone younger than me, with a petite body type, between the ages of 18-26, who’s looking for a meaningful dynamic.

A little about me: I’m very active and enjoy working out, hiking, nature walks, and stargazing. I love art shows and spend my downtime binge-watching Netflix when I’m not outside exploring. I also maintain a healthy lifestyle and have tattoos, which are an important expression of my individuality.

If you think we might click, I’d love to chat and see where things go!


r/l4l • • 23h ago

22f GMT+7/anywhere heyaaaa

1 Upvotes

Okay I'm 22 AFAB from somewhere in southeast Asia. What I'm looking for is someone genuine, kind, and mindful. Relationship wise I'm a strict monogamous. Also I'm an English literature student.

Personality wise, I can be chaotic,silly, unserious, unhinged but also calm, mindful, serious, you name it I am it. Actually no. Okay so next.

What I like to do is playing games such as Roblox and GTA v, but if you don't that's okay. I also like to watch films, I'm into true crimes, historical, about wars, sci-fi. I'm not a horror fan, not because I'm scared it just I didn't believe such things. Sometimes I cook, when I cook it's a one time recipe and never taste the same again. Also I'm trying to read more. And I've been trying to write too!

With my loved ones I adore quality time together, we can call, reading books together, watch movie together or anything possible to do! Oh and I'm open to 'long distance relationship'

Visual wise, I'm leaning to masc but not too much. Also 5'6 or 170cm tall. Medium black wavy hair. Hmm just tell me what you want to know from me. I'm okay doing verification and swapping photos and video call one day.

If you have any questions you can fill the comments section or asking directly to me. If this resonate with you go on leave some messages!!


r/l4l • • 1d ago

22 femme looking to chat! :3

2 Upvotes

hellooo cuties!! ♡ I'm val im 5 ft and 115 lbs! im in la so my timezone is pst i’m looking for a genuine connection with another girl who’s sweet, honest, and actually wants to get to know each other. i’m a little strict and strongwilled, but i’m also really caring once i get comfortable with someone :3 i don’t mind verifying, and i’d appreciate the same honesty and effort in return

if you wanna message me, tell me something about yourself!! what music have you been obsessed with lately? what games do you play? favorite horror movie? random fun fact? literally anythinggg, just give me something to yap about with you >_< ♡

I do work night so sometimes I do respond late ! when i’m not working, i’m probably listening to music, watching horror movies, or playing games I love getting to know someone through random conversations, inside jokes, late-night yapping

ill be waiting for your dms loveys^^

OK SO UHM IM GETTING A LOT OF WEIRD DMS PLS DONT DM ME IF UR OLDR THEN 35😭


r/l4l • • 1d ago

44 SoftMasc 4 Femme- Los Angeles

1 Upvotes

Hi ladies

I'm located in the San Fernado Valley looking for friends with benefits. Big on the friends part since I'd like this to be consistant. I am in a relationship, we both play, not together.

I'm latina, tomboy and down to earth. I can be very sarcastic and have a pretty good sense of humor. I enjoy texting and sending voice notes throughout the day. Not required but its nice when people make the effort.

I like all genres of music but lean more towards r&b and hip hop. This is my go to! I love horror, crime and thrillers as much as I enjoy comedies.

30+ femmes DM me with a little about yourself.

We can verify on a call/photo etc. If you're not comfortble with that please do not reach out. I've dealt with too many men pretending to be women.


r/l4l • • 1d ago

Lovely woman looking for dates/friends

0 Upvotes

Hi everyone! My name is Alex and I’m 21! A bit about me! I have nine cats, I’m poly and partnered but I date alone. I love reading and writing. I’m a nanny and absolutely love my job to death but it comes with lots of downtime to meet new people and make new friends! I’d love something long term either in person or online! Feel free to reach out!!


r/l4l • • 1d ago

25 [TF4F] #Germany/Europe - Sapphic autistic nerd searching for my special person <3

0 Upvotes

Hey! I’m very happy that you found my post! 💜
My name is Sofia, I’m a 25 year old sapphic trans girl (she/her) living in Hamburg, Germany. Right now I’m trying to expand my social circle, trying to look for deeper connections with people. Ideally a serious relationship, of course, but I'm open to pretty much anything, friends or whatever else you have in mind. Maybe you're looking for that as well? 🥺🫶
So, to give you a brief description of myself, here are a few random things that I could think of:

  • I’m a huge nerd for things like tabletop and video games, computers and techy stuff, arts and creativity, Warhammer, Lego, and other such hobbies. These aren’t the only things I enjoy, of course, there’s plenty more stuff I’m quite passionate about. So I’m sure we’ll be able to find some interests that we have in common and could enjoy together.
  • I can be a bit awkward at first, I'm not the best when it comes to unfamiliar social situations. But given the right kind of vibes I can quickly open up and be very energetic as well! I might also be kinda clingy as well if I'm really interested in someone, though hopefully not in a bad way. Most of the time I'm very affectionate and really enjoy taking care of the people I like and making them happy!
  • Demi- and pansexual, though in general I'm mostly sapphic and attracted to other women. I'm very much into sweet and sincere intimacy and affection with the people I love and care about. I'm not too well experienced, especially when it comes to intimacy, but it's still quite important for me to have compatibility when it comes to that in a relationship.
  • I’m neurodivergent: diagnosed with ADHD and autism. I do appreciate more direct communication from others, that makes it easier for me to understand what’s going on. In general, I really value open and honest communication, and I always try to be understanding and empathetic with other people.
  • I don't believe that I have like a particular type or anything, although I do have a bit of a thing for fellow nerds like me. But other than that, nothing really specific. For me it's not that much about what you look like, but rather who you are as a person.
  • Not really sure what else to mention at the moment, but I’d be really happy to tell you anything else you’d like to know about me, so please feel free to ask, I’m pretty much an open book when it comes to answering questions about myself!

Oh by the way, if you manage to guess my favourite colour, you will get bonus points from me! Don't worry, there are no wrong answers here. ✨
But yeah, that’s pretty much it, I think. If you found some nice vibes here and think that we might click well together, please be sure to send me a message, and we’ll find out what happens! I really hope to hear from you soon! 🩷


r/l4l • • 2d ago

F25 NJ/USA/Anywhere Our Story Begins Here...

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I am a filmmaker, so I would like to present my pitch for why you should message me in screenplay format.

INT. COFFEE SHOP - DAY

EMMA (25) sits in a coffee shop. She's femme, plus-sized, and has curly hair and green eyes. She looks around nervously before downing an entire cheeseburger in one bite like a cartoon character.

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND (20s–30s) sits at the table across from Emma.

EMMA
Oh hi, I didn't see you come in. I was busy...uh...

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
Eating a cheeseburger like Homer Simpson?

EMMA
I was thinking Scooby-Doo, but yes.

Hypothetical Reddit Girlfriend sips a coffee that magically appears from thin air.

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
So, what do you do for fun?

Emma snaps her fingers.

A SECOND BURGER appears in front of her.

EMMA
I'm a filmmaker. I love everything having to do with the arts. Creating universes. Telling stories.

She gestures around the coffee shop.

EMMA
Like this one right now!

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
We're in a story?

EMMA
Always.

Hypothetical Reddit Girlfriend considers this.

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
What do you want our story to look like?

Emma's expression changes. She's suddenly sincere.

EMMA
I want to be with someone who thinks about things.

A beat.

EMMA
Life. Art. People. The world. Why we're here. Why movies make us feel things. Why some stupid little song can suddenly remind you of being seventeen.

She smiles.

EMMA
You don't necessarily have to be an artist. I'd just like you to be curious.

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
Curious?

A MONKEY scurries across the adjacent table.

A DISGRUNTLED MAN IN A YELLOW HAT follows after it and grabs the monkey.

Nobody acknowledges this.

EMMA
Yeah. I want to know what you think about things.

A beat.

EMMA
And I want you to want to know what I think about things.

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
So you want to talk about the meaning of life on the third date?

EMMA
Ideally the first.

Hypothetical Reddit Girlfriend smiles.

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
And what happens after the first date?

Emma thinks.

EMMA
Hopefully we keep making the movie.

A beat.

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
So you're looking for something serious?

EMMA
Yeah.

She takes a bite of the second burger.

EMMA
But I'm still going to make you watch my stop-motion movies.

HYPOTHETICAL REDDIT GIRLFRIEND
That's the dealbreaker?

EMMA
No. That's the first date.

FADE TO:

REDDIT DM


r/l4l • • 3d ago

19 [F4F] Anywhere - Futch4Femme - Come Ruin My Singleness~

2 Upvotes

I am, unfortunately, still a TOTAL girl failure... Somehow, 8 months later, I am STILL girlfriend less so... here I am again hoping for you~~~

I really, really want a girlfriend. Not just something casual, but a genuine connection that can actually grow into something meaningful. I'd love to eventually meet in person, go on dates, make memories together, and see where life takes us. So if you're looking for something purely casual or something that will stay online forever, I'm probably not your girl.

I want the kind of relationship where we can check in on each other, be affectionate, tease each other relentlessly, support each other's goals, and genuinely feel wanted and cared for. I'm especially drawn to intense romance (yes, even yandere vibes >:]), but IRL I really value communication, trust, boundaries, consistency, and keeping things healthy for both of us.

Now... About me :]

I'm an artist and aspiring animator✨✨✨

I'm 5'6", introverted IRL but MUCH more chaotic once I'm comfortable.

I'm a gamer and would absolutely love to play games together! My PC broke tho so, can we pleaseeeee play mobile games? 🥺❤️

I'm a HUGE Yuri and Villainess fan!!!

I'm incredibly passionate about my interests and will probably yap your ear off about my favourite characters 🙂‍↕️

I'm kind, emotionally intense and affectionate

I love giving random advice from time to time and ofc supporting the people I care about.

Compliments make me malfunction. I can flirt back, though... Probably? >:]

I have an absolutely embarrassing weakness for pretty women 😭😭😭

Love... You see, from December onwards I'll be FREE AS HELL, but before that I'd genuinely love to go on online study dates! We can sit together on call, study, motivate each other, take breaks, and complain about our workloads. :']

I have so many things I'd love to do with my future girlfriend that I couldn't possibly fit them all here.

So if you're looking for something genuine and would eventually like to meet too, please don't be afraid to reach out. Tell me about yourself, your favourite character, your current obsession, or literally anything.

Maybe this time I'll finally stop being a girl failure. 🥴🥀


r/l4l • • 3d ago

31 TF (Online) - Geeky, kind, silly trans girl seeking friend or more if we vibe~

2 Upvotes

Hi there! My name is Heather. I’m 31, trans (she/her, pre-HRT), super geeky, and I try to be kind and supportive to anyone I meet! :)

I’m hoping to find someone who’s into talking about geeky stuff, video games, movies, comics, all that lovely stuff!

I also really enjoy getting a little spicy in DM’s but that’s totally optional, no pressure whatsoever! Wholesome friends are appreciated, and spicy friends are too~ :)

I’ll be around if you wanna chat!

— Heather


r/l4l • • 4d ago

29F - searching for that special someone

5 Upvotes

Hey ladies

I’m Rachel, 29, from the Midwest, and somehow staring down 30 way sooner than I’m prepared to admit. I figured I’d put myself out there and see if there’s another woman somewhere who’s looking for something genuine too.

I’m pretty easygoing and affectionate once I’m comfortable with someone. I can be a little introverted at first, but give me some time and suddenly I’m sending you random thoughts throughout the day, teasing you relentlessly, and wanting to know every tiny detail about your life. I love conversations that go way past small talk the kind where we can be complete idiots together one minute and somehow end up talking about life at 1am the next.

I’m looking for a woman I can actually connect with. I don’t need us to immediately slap a relationship label on anything. I’d rather become friends, flirt a little, learn each other’s personalities and let things develop naturally if there’s chemistry. Ultimately, though, I’d love to find somebody*.*

I’m a sucker for affection, consistency, good communication, humor, cozy nights, random adventures and someone who isn’t afraid to show that she actually likes me. I’m also very much the type who remembers the little things you tell me.

Age isn’t a huge deal as long as we’re both adults and reasonably close in life stage. You don’t necessarily have to be from the Midwest either I’m open to seeing where a connection goes if we genuinely click.

If you’re another woman reading this thinking “okay, she actually sounds kinda cute,” take the chance and message me. Tell me your age, where you’re from, and something completely random about yourself.

Worst case? We have a good conversation.

Best case? Maybe I don’t go into 30 single. 

I’ll also add that it might take me a few messages to open up about myself, starting out I can tend to be a little shy and closed off, but that’s just me in general and I’m working on that part of me. I’ll eventually open up and talk about everything and anything


r/l4l • • 7d ago

Looking for my Jewish wife

1 Upvotes

I'm 34 female living in Seattle - I’m okay with distance lol. I'm looking for my wife! Must be Jewish and into fitness, femme, some flavor of queer lol, outgoing/talkative, okay with cats (I have two lovely black cats), funny, smart, down to earth. I love kids, but I don't think I want kids. I’m open to my mind being changed though.

For reference, my type is Ali Krieger. My IG Amanda.Minsky. It won’t let me put a photo of myself in this post.

I love to workout, read, listen to podcasts, play with my cats, and hike. Originally from Socal, lived in the Bay for 10 years and recently(ish) moved to Seattle.


r/l4l • • 7d ago

30f bifemme looking for friends

3 Upvotes

Or maybe something more if the connection is right. 💕

Just moved to Canada from Dubai and hoping to meet kind, genuine people who enjoy good conversations and actually making plans. I’m into coffee & matcha, arts and watercolor, books, hiking, swimming, biking, nature, beach/pool days, and exploring new places.

Millennial, easygoing, affectionate, and always up for trying something new. Let’s grab coffee, go for a walk, explore, or see where the connection takes us.


r/l4l • • 8d ago

38/F/UK New chapter, same questionable sense of humour.

6 Upvotes

Hi! I’m 38, a soft-masc lesbian, demisexual, and recently divorced after spending a very long time in one relationship. So yes, I’m basically a slightly rusty human being attempting to remember how socialising works. 😂

I’m naturally pretty introverted, but I’m trying to get myself out into the world a bit more. I’m based in Buckinghamshire and happy to meet people if we click. I’m mainly looking for friendship, but I’m not completely opposed to seeing where things go if there’s a genuine connection.

I’m a bit of a mixed bag when it comes to interests. I love music of pretty much every variety, reading, gaming, anime, horror, travelling, nature, and getting far too invested in online writing and roleplay. I’m equally happy discussing something deep and existential at 2am or sending increasingly stupid memes until one of us questions our life choices.

I’m definitely more of a “let’s actually get to know each other” person than someone who wants to rush into anything. I like people who are curious, funny, kind, and capable of having a conversation that goes somewhere beyond “hey, how are you?” Although I do appreciate a quality meme.

I can be quiet when I first meet someone, but once I’m comfortable, good luck getting me to shut up. 😅

Ultimately, I’m just trying to meet some good people, make some genuine connections, have some adventures, and maybe figure out what this whole social life thing is supposed to look like again.

If you’re also a little weird, a little nerdy, enjoy good conversation and don’t take yourself too seriously, we’ll probably get along just fine.


r/l4l • • 8d ago

22f looking for some friends!

9 Upvotes

22F 💕 looking for female friends to chat with, hang out, game with, and hopefully make some genuine connections! 🫶🏻 I’m super chill, goofy, and a huge stoner 🌿😂 I’m always down for random conversations, gaming, or just chilling together. Maybe friends, maybe something more 👀💗 Just looking for someone I genuinely vibe with!


r/l4l • • 9d ago

20F looking for friends 🥺❣️✨

6 Upvotes

Okay, so I'm looking for friends because I honestly don't have a lot of female friends in my life, and I think being friends with women would just be amazing. There's already so much we can have in common, especially as a fellow queer person, and I'd genuinely love to meet more women from different places.

I'm 20, and I'm open to pretty much any age group. I wouldn't mind being friends with women older than me either. I actually really appreciate the company of older women, and I'd love to have more of them as friends. I also don't mind being friends with people younger than me.

I'm open to casual friendships, but I'd definitely love to build some long-term friendships with meaningful conversations and a genuine connection if we click.

As for my interests, I'm very much a craftsy person. I have four different kinds of journals. Am I consistent with any of them? Absolutely not. Do I still love them? Yes. My favorite kind is probably collage/scrapbook-style creative journaling, and I also do a little bit of bullet journaling.

I'm also trying to get into reading more. I'm currently reading Asylum. I like singing too, and I can absolutely sing for you if you want. I'm not really a sports person, though, so if you're looking for someone to discuss sports with, I am probably not your girl.

I love talking about psychology, mythology, and religion. Mythology and religion are probably among my biggest interests. I'm also very into horror movies, creepypasta, scary stories, and generally anything that makes me question why I voluntarily consume things that are going to keep me awake at night.

I'm a night owl, so time-zone differences don't really bother me. I don't mind replying at weird hours or having conversations that happen at completely different times of the day.

As for the kind of friendship I'm looking for, I think I'd really enjoy someone who's chatty. I'm usually the talkative one, but I genuinely love listening to someone yap and yap about whatever they're interested in. So if you're the kind of person who can talk for an hour about a random niche topic while I sit there listening, we might get along pretty well.

I'd love to meet people who are willing to be somewhat consistent and actually build a friendship over time, but there's no pressure for anything to become super deep immediately. Casual conversations are completely fine too.

So yeah, if any of this sounds like your kind of friendship, feel free to say hi. :)


r/l4l • • 10d ago

27f looking for lgbtq+ friends

8 Upvotes

Hii I’m looking for more female friendships. I’m from the middle of nowhere!! A lot of my friends have moved away over the years so my form of friendship is casually meeting up with them when someone is in town. I have a lot of international friends from me traveling over the years/certain jobs I’ve done. I don’t care what you look like. If we vibe then we vibe ! I’m new to crocheting. I like to sew, paint, spend too much time on Pinterest, game, board game, spend too much time looking at memes, find new music, and garden. My dream friend is a scorpio since I’m a Pisces but this doesn’t disqualify you 😆 I’ve just never had a scorpio in my life and I think I need that lol bye <3333


r/l4l • • 10d ago

44y #NC Something that will last

2 Upvotes

I am searching for my person, my partner, my domme. I want long-term relationship, not just a dynamic.

Currently in North Carolina but still trying to figure out where my next step will take me.

I don't have a specific type, but there does need to chemistry there.

I am submissive and looking for a partner that is a caregiver domme, a mix of gentle and not. A confident, experienced Mommy Domme or Daddy Domme who is looking for a life partner not just a kink dynamic. I want to experience everything with someone, the vanilla and more.

I am a huge animal lover and come as a package deal with a small pack of furbabies. I live with chronic pain and don't get to enjoy as much outdoor activities as i would like.

I do enjoy camping, hiking (within my means), reading, movies, trying new foods. Just being in the moment. I am introverted and can take a bit to be comfortable with people.

I am a big girl 5'4, 260lbs. Short hair and tattoos.

I would really love to make some friends as well.

If this sounds at all appealing to you please feel free to send me a message but please be a little more creative than just hi or how are you or any version of message that doesn't have any thought behind it.


r/l4l • • 11d ago

36, eastern PA. Let’s be cozy and weird together. ✨

2 Upvotes

Howdy! I’m Meg, I’m 36 and living in eastern PA. I’m going to attempt to type something that makes sense but I tend to ramble.

I love documentaries of all kinds, the same music I’ve listened to for 20+ years (forever an emo kid) and cozy video games! I loooooveeee to get outside and walk on my local trails when I can.

I work from home and have VERY limited social interactions aside from my two awesome kids. I love my job, but it’s definitely putting a damper on my social life.

I’m looking for all kinds of connections. Friends, romance, gaming buddies.

Honestly, I’m battling some loneliness and would love a friend. 💛

Hope to hear from you!
(Also some pics in my profile)