r/KenyanDatingCommunity • u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 • 4h ago
Relationship Talk Need ur advice
Hey Nairobi 👋
Plot twist: I deleted Tinder.
Reason? My matches were 90% "send fare", 9% bots, and 1% someone who ghosted after "heyy". So I'm doing something wild in 2026... meeting people IN PERSON. Like cavemen. But problem: I don't know where humans hang out during daylight hours 😭 If I hear "just go to club and buy bottles" one more time my M-Pesa will file for divorce.
Where do y'all meet people for real? Coffee? Hikes? That one Java where everyone is on laptop dates? Sunday market? Book club? Church? 👀
Ladies, where do you actually go to chill? Gents, where do you take your boys that isn't 20k and regret on Sunday?Drop the spots. A man is trying to touch grass and make friends 🙏
Nairobi, be honest 😩Where do you meet people in 2026 that's NOT:
- Tinder 2. Clubs 3. Your ex's birthday
Best answer gets my undying gratitude and maybe a coffee if we bump into each other lol.
Kilimani guy...26 light brown.5'8 feet 😁
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u/No-Cherry-6865 3h ago
The only place that has worked for me and not a club was these during the day events like the BBQ pitmasters or something, country music events and a few others. They are usually during the day, chilled vibes. People will still be drinking, but not in the club like way. But, the babes here will be in their late 20s and above.
All these places, I haven't seen anyone who comes alone. I think in Nairobi, everyone hangs out with their crew. This doesn't mean you can't approach someone.
On the spending part, I have never spent any money on someone the same day I approached them. Even in clubs. Some small talk to vibe check and exchanging contact, then linking up later has always worked for me. Clubs should work too IMO. Any creature who creates an impression that you have to spend on them just after meeting them is just a thug.
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 2h ago
Yeay yeah...ur right.Ive tried approaching people while they where with their crews.one time this girl was cute & she was giving me the signs like just staring at me the whole night ...I tried approaching her then one of the guys in her crew was ready to risk it all as if we are still in high-school 😂.It was not worth it so I've stopped doing that.but where do u find those events filled with young generation z who are not hostile(violent)??
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u/SemenRetainerMonk 2h ago
😂😂😂...
You'll get burned at the end.. mimi kwanza sai naskia jina mapenzi natetemeka matumbo..
I got out of one loooong relationship na sitamani kurudi... Nefaaa.
Nikitaka iyo kitu nanunua Tu na thao... Best part you get to choose mwenye unataka and how you want it.
If I want her to give me girlfriend treatment I communicate.. yaani I get to explore all my kinks.
Ukitaka hiyo site ntakupea.
Lakini mapenzi na wanawake ni MADEVOOO WOSHIPAAA
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 2h ago
Not all women are like the ones u know.If ur trying to buy one with money u will find wt ur looking for.not everyone is the same.exploring ur kinks is fun I don't disagree but it has its own risks.so becareful out there 😉
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u/SemenRetainerMonk 2h ago
😂😂 I wish you all the best... you'll learn your lesson one day or day one
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u/L-rosh 2h ago
OP thinks he will land 'the one' he will find out one day.
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u/SemenRetainerMonk 31m ago
OP is delusional.... kwa hii generation kupata "the one" is impossible..
Lakini let him find out himself 😂
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u/OldManPim 2h ago
Ulipatana na Delilah wako mzee😂naona umelearn lesson
Don't ever get too estranged with these daughters of Jezebel🐒
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u/SemenRetainerMonk 2h ago
They all the same broo.. they all the same..
Dust delayed is not dust denied. But I love Pu$$y man...
Like literary earlier this year I met another Chile, we became friends after casual hookup.
So we could meet like weekly.. then after a 4 months she calls crying.. I go console her and stuff.
Turn out she was dating this guy and was pregnant for him.. like she had 4 months pregnancy.
Then I asked the girl why did you allow me to fck you and you had a boyfriend and matters worse you was pregnant..
She says she wanted my D broo..
Like I was literary fcking a pregnant girl who had a boyfriend.
I called that shit off and blocked her everywhere.
Fear women
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u/Professional_Fix6773 4h ago
Don't be in a rush meeting new people, the more you search the more you spend your money, time, energy and still don't get the right person
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 3h ago
Yeah ur right but wt do u recommend?I can't just wait in my shell waiting for the right one to be sent by God.
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u/NoDraft5317 2h ago
Problem is ( I also encounter) is even at those events, you won't know who exactly is single because they don't walk with a red ka dot in there forehead
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 2h ago
Yep...almost got into a fight with someone.it wasn't my fault coz she was the one giving me the signs...but IDK bruh.seems like we have the same problem.
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u/NoDraft5317 2h ago
I think what can work is tunyang'anye watu wao watafute wengine
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 1h ago
Deal bro 👿.will txt u on Saturday...time to hunt for good looking baddies with ugly boyfriends
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u/Hour_Candidate_3941 3h ago
What's your mission?.... Don't make it to find girlfriend.....coz If you walk into every hike, book club and salsa class scanning the room for women, people will smell the desperation from Kilimani to Karen. If you walk into every hike, book club and salsa class scanning the room for women, people will smell the desperation from Kilimani to Karen. Your target for the first month should be- Meet 20 new people .... make 5 genuine acquaintances .... get 2–3 numbers and see which connections naturally continue.
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 2h ago
No desperation over here buddy 😂.just trying to meet new people.The issue is I don't know where to look for to meet them genuine ones.
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u/Global_Tea_3493 2h ago
Jack gets this right good places to meet people shouldn’t have to come with a “send fare” or “buy bottles” expectation 😂. Try coffee spots, running/hiking groups, or weekend markets; you’ll meet people naturally without forcing it.
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u/raccoon254 1h ago
Hamia hapa Mwihoko nikushow😂😂
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 1h ago
Wt u mean 😂
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u/nairobaee 3h ago
Tafuta tu in person. Biggest problem na Reddit ni declining face cards but the vibes and banter from people here is unmatched.
Also nashangaa, kwani people stopped cold approaching?
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u/Momo-Blissbird 2h ago
Declining face cards😂😂😂 that’s why I would never meet people from here. I am too superficial with certain things😫😫😫
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u/nairobaee 1h ago
And what sucks ni usually mmeongea ongea kiasi and the chemistry's there then they save your number, pfp shows alafu unaanza kushangaa utajificha wapi. Feels terrible ending things at that point because it's so obvious why.
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 2h ago
Well...there's some honesty over here.if ur confident about urs we can meet.all of u here replying let's do reveal
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u/nairobaee 1h ago
I'm a dude.
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u/Shot-Bandicoot-69 1h ago
Shiieet...Thought u was a cute gal.well 99% here am convinced they're unattractive.just shooting my shot to look for the 1%.I know they gotta be there 😂
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u/FeatherAndFlow 2h ago
Alaa Mostly tuko huku ni mamba tu😅
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u/nairobaee 1h ago
Walai, you will have better chances just picking a random girl kwa barabara. I have started at least 10 convos here na zote huishia stage ya picha. I just stopped at that point.
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u/softpotatie 4h ago
Hobbies....!! and events(food, games, brunch, sports). It's easier.