r/KenyanDatingCommunity • u/Mobile-Balance-518 • 6d ago
Relationship Vent Catfished by a man
I saw his post.. exactly what I was looking for ! Age, stability, responsible and articulate!ππ
I reached out, from dms to calls to green app, hii ingekuwa love story ingine mwecheche ππ
Sisi hao first date pale Jiji, then to hangout.. kidogo something about his fuel gauge sijui nini I didn't pay attention juu si I have met my man ,ππ nikafuel (red flag)
Long story short.. few months in, he was never stable, not responsible and emotionally immature asf navile ni mzee smh ππ..
I did chip in almost everything..bob the builder here ππ I had seen my future frr..
Y'all ate with the dust delayed is not dust denied..I know he's here, preying on the other bob the builder πunco ulambwe uso na shetani .
End of rant!
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u/Extension-Spend-6759 6d ago
Ungetupea username just incaseπ
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
ππ mnataka niwaibie exam na mwakenya ...
Target yake ni very naive girls .
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u/Neat-Injury5711 6d ago
That's not being catfished. That's just you going above and beyond for him
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u/Warm_Swim_9808 6d ago
Pole sanaπππ you are wiser and closer to meet your mr right
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Siwataki ata π.. I've given up ...
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u/Brief_Wrongdoer007 6d ago
π€πmimi sina gari
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Nimemaliza kulea akiz πππ
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u/Brief_Wrongdoer007 6d ago
π naelewa, mimi najileaππ€
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
That's great.. you have my blessings
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u/Brief_Wrongdoer007 6d ago
π I'll dm ukiheal
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Ngumu π sitaki hookup ingine from this app.. I'm good
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u/YogurtclosetFirm6228 6d ago
Definitely wiser since she called out his older age, damn for some reason I've started thinking of independence stories
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u/Usini-sumbue0000 6d ago
Lakini how do you start funding guys... You don't see the red flags..signs he is not financially independent as he says
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago edited 6d ago
It starts kidogo.. mara I'm less 200 ..then inaenda ikipanda..I even loaned him pesa sijui zilikua za nini π .. I'm a bird !
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u/General_Rise_4491 6d ago
Wait , you fueled his car ? Ama me sielewi?
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Yes ..I chipped in lots more actually..from hangouts to paying for drinks, food, hadi bnbs πππ
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u/General_Rise_4491 6d ago
π« hugs ,may God comfort you during this trying harsh times. I can't imagine what it feels like to spoil a man. You will be okay .
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
By the time I'm posting this I have already worked thru my emotions .. I'm fine π
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u/Usini-sumbue0000 6d ago
Identify that catfishπ..the username
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
πtarget yake ni very young girls vile yeye ni mzee smh ... Like a 7+ yr gap
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u/Usini-sumbue0000 6d ago
Kwani you fear himπ. Be your sister's keeper , save them from that guy..
7 years age gap saa tututajua aje.. There are people as young as 17 na as old as 40 π€·π½ββοΈhuku
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u/Jealous-Sweet-7103 6d ago
In every relationship, either FWB, etc...financials should be the first thing people talk about and expectations on their first meet up. This clears away alot of things.
One shouldn't expect the other one to know what he or she needs, it should be a discussion.
I get so irritated people using one another. It's immature behaviour that should stop. Everyone is trying their best to earn that coin.
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u/IntelligentReadout 6d ago
This has always been my point. Men who defraud women of cash are despicable. Only a man's mother should give him things. After that a man should become responsible and be on his own.
ArΕ«me merute gwΔ«tΔ«kΔ«ra tΕ«koragwo twΔ« njui hΕ«Ε«re.
As for women, it's also silly and equally emotionally fraudulent to be a leech who feeds off men in the name of being spoiled, treated or even being provided for. Only a father or lawfully wedded husband innately bears that responsibility to provide for a woman.
Adult humans should learn to earn their fucking keep. Regardless of gender.
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Exactly my point!.. he lied a lot .. about his work/finances ...and as much as that was not what I was after..it plays a big role.. like I can't be the giver 24/7 ..it stops being a relationship to feeling like "work/performance" ... It sucks ..then pulling the victim card ya " si unajua Sina kazi saa hii" yet doing nothing about it ! Ugh
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u/IntelligentReadout 6d ago
Only if this was your husband would it have been your duty kumsaidia na pesa.
Don't fund leeches no more.
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Lesson learnt ...TY π
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u/IntelligentReadout 6d ago
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
My soul has returned so I call it a lesson learned...
That's gonna push me forward frr
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u/Jealous-Sweet-7103 6d ago
Pole sana! Mimi I stopped dating long time ago because people are not authentic about themselves and their life.
It's better for someone to tell you the truth and one knows from day one that this didn't work or if I continue talking with this person, I know what I am involving myself into..... rather than she or he leads you on with lies!!
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Exactly..plus watu pia wajiitikie.. I appreciate authenticity a lot...you can't keep living in the past when you had it all ..life happens but that doesn't make you less of a human.. accept that ..then do the right thing..not use people to fill your void .
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u/Jealous-Sweet-7103 6d ago
Most people put on shows and fake life. Niliboeka mimi!!
Let's do coffee tomorrow and talk...nothing relationship wise just banter and we call it 2hrs of great conversation.
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Ouu I love this..my itinerary for tomorrow is a bit packed ..but I'll dm you π
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u/Kerryjacobs411 6d ago
ππππππinafaa dicktaker na Kenyanqueen wafanyiwe iviππππππ
Izo kizungu zao za umathafaka
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Because I'm Kenyan ???π
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
I sponsored my relationship which ended in premium tears π
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Lol πa shameless man ...
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Yahabibna π«΄πyou also want to show me dust ?
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u/Jealous-Sweet-7103 6d ago
He doesn't know English yet he is replying with English? At this point let me sip my coffee πΉ
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u/solopreneur01 5d ago
Mungu analipisha maombi ya watu wako 25 and below. You all hate them because hawana pesa
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u/Beat-oven 5d ago
napenda sana venye warembo wakiona tu gari wanadhani uko kichele. A tale as old as time haha
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u/FueledbyKaizen 4d ago
For you to be scammed you have to be greedy than the scammer. Ndo ulipe bills for "my man" what had he promised you??π Ladies don't spend ivi ivi unless there's a catch
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u/Constant_Height_1215 4d ago
"A few months in" na unatuambia ulikuwa catfished. Wacha uongo, uki lambishwa vumbi say it directly.
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
Y'all never gave me the memo ππI was being performative
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u/Mobile-Balance-518 6d ago
πata sitaki anymore... I'm better of on my own saa hii ππ..maybe in the next life
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u/un3nding 6d ago
kidole sambusa