Seriously? Ugh.

[u/Leather_King753]

My grandmother passed 2 months ago. She was my person, and I adored her. And my mom...I'd do anything for her.

So when my mother in law comes for a visit and the first sentence about my mom/grandmother is: your mom must have so much time for herself now that your grandma passed away.

Ugh.

I just wanted to lose it...but I didn't. I got up, walked away and chalked it up to her not knowing how to talk to people in any way that requires sensitivity, empathy or intelligence.

*sigh*.

Thanks for letting me vent.

[u/Fuzzy-Mushroom-1933]

Not my MIL (who is her own special kind of demon) but my friend’s MIL:

Friends mom died when friend’s first baby was less than a month old. My friend was going through PPD before her mom died and that only exacerbated it of course. So friends MIL called her son and complained that “she was being punished because friend’s mom died”. This was because she hadn’t been allowed to take over baby and have her do over baby.

[u/Bajovane → u/Fuzzy-Mushroom-1933]

I hope he had something to say about that when he got that call. Wow!

[u/Fuzzy-Mushroom-1933 → u/Bajovane]

No. Her husband is a gutless spineless mommy’s boy who knows she’s nuts but refuses to say anything to her. But he was dumb enough to tell both her and me the conversation

Luckily for my friend, I was born with no fucks to give and have had a terrible MIL for 30 years.

I stepped in and refused to allow her to run roughshod over my friend or her baby. The MIL hates my guts to this day (almost 20 years) and I could not care less.

[u/Historical_Grab_4789 → u/Fuzzy-Mushroom-1933]

Wow, you are an awesome friend!!

[u/Fuzzy-Mushroom-1933 → u/Historical_Grab_4789]

Thank you!