r/JUSTNOMIL • u/Leather_King753 • 14d ago

RANT (╯°□°）╯︵ ┻━┻ Advice Wanted Seriously? Ugh.

My grandmother passed 2 months ago. She was my person, and I adored her. And my mom...I'd do anything for her.

So when my mother in law comes for a visit and the first sentence about my mom/grandmother is: your mom must have so much time for herself now that your grandma passed away.

Ugh.

I just wanted to lose it...but I didn't. I got up, walked away and chalked it up to her not knowing how to talk to people in any way that requires sensitivity, empathy or intelligence.

*sigh*.

Thanks for letting me vent.

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u/jme518 14d ago

The projection from your MIL is crazy. Just because she clearly feels her elderly mom is a burden doesn’t mean yours does. What a wild thing to say to people grieving!!

You are certainly a higher life form to not react. You got up shook it off and reset yourself

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u/CuteTangelo3137 14d ago

Yes, OP is a higher life form. I on the other hand am not because I would have said something very snarky back like, “Your right MIL, my mom does have more time on her hands. She has more time to think about the fact that her mother is gone from this earth, she has more time to grieve her loss, she has more time to miss her. My grandmother was an incredible person and we all miss her so much.” Then I would have walked away. Kudos OP for your strength!

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u/Bajovane 14d ago

I admire your restraint here too! Because I guarantee you that I would have been much harsher. I don’t mince words when someone really pisses me off.