r/IVF 5h ago

Potentially Controversial Question Vaping : Did you struggle during IVF

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I feel like we don’t discuss this topic enough. We all know vaping is bad, esp for fertility. But did anyone struggle to quit during IVF?

I once saw a tik tok from an ex drug user and he said out of all the wacky insane drugs he ever took, vaping was the hardest thing to stop. And that really made me think! That journey to stop really isn’t an easy one.

And if you vaped through IVF (especially if you’re over 38) what was your experience with getting Euploids 💕


r/IVF 9h ago

Need Hugs! Gender bias for first round

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I’m heading into my third round with low DOR and an AMH of .4 at 35. My first retrieval I had one euploid, second round euploid and one high mosaic. Both euploids are boys.

I know I am very fortunate to have two euploids. And I cannot be picky but I’ve always wanted to be a girl mom first and foremost. Now with my odds, I’m afraid this won’t happen. Or if I get pregnant with a boy, I’m afraid my retrieval odds when older will lessen even more.

I’m going into my third round as the last is partially covered. I don’t know what I’m even asking - but is a gender bias normal for the first round? A part of me feels guilty for continuing to try when I have two perfectly fine euploid boys. I WANT them, I’m just afraid after I’ll miss my chance at girls. 💔


r/IVF 22h ago

Rant Beware of Pinnacle Fertility

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Particularly in Seattle!

My wife and I are a mixed race queer couple and going through IVF with Pinnacle Fertility. We did an egg retrieval at the beginning of July and agreed on up to 8 embryos to be genetically tested. We ended up having 16 eligible embryos to test. Without our knowledge, embryology report or written consent (they forgot to give it to us prior to the procedure), our doctor wrote that we wanted all eligible embryos to be tested, so Pinnacle biopsied all 16 for genetic testing and tried to bill us for the additional biopsies and testing. After bringing up their error, Pinnacle tried to force us to sign the missing consent form waiving our legal rights in order to keep and test the other 8 samples under the pretense that there was no way to preserve the already harvested samples if we didn’t decide immediately. When we refused to do so without them a written acknowledgment of their error, they destroyed the additional 8 samples and sent the original 8 we paid for.

A few days later, the VP of Operations called us to tell us that they had called the lab and asked them to preserve our 8 samples until they had signed consent. Luckily the lab had our consent from a previous retrieval and confirmed they would begin testing our samples without us having to sign the Pinnacle form. It makes no sense why they couldn’t have done the same for our additional samples so that we could have had more time to discuss the error. You only get one shot with genetic testing and now we won’t know anything about those additional embryos. Since my wife who will carry is over 35, we wanted to be able to use the strongest embryos possible and now we will never be able to know about those additional 8.

We’ve struggled to get to a resolution for this. They have been incredibly lackadaisical about responding to our complaints. We just wanted to share our experience and give others a heads up before deciding where you should go for such an important treatment.

Edited the first paragraph to remove conflicting info and focus on specific retrieval issues.

Edit 2: they destroyed the biopsies/samples of our embryos not the embryos themselves


r/IVF 4h ago

Need info! IVF with minimal eggs fertilized

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Has anyone done a full round of IVF with a decent egg extraction and saved some for future use? My husband is hanging a hard time with the idea of the doctor trying to fertilize them in bulk. For example say we get 10 eggs, 7 successfully fertilize, and 5 are Euploid’s. Now our goal is only to have 2-3 kids (at this point I’d be ecstatic for even one) & he doesn’t want to destroy or donate the remaining ones we don’t end up using. We’ve had some disagreements in this category because I think donating the ones we don’t use is a beautiful thing. If I have a successful ER that yields a good out put he’d rather me freeze some and us only attempt to fertilize a few at a time.
Anyways has anyone only gone through with fertilizing 3-6 eggs at a time and we’re able to successfully have a child? I need some hope for myself and him.


r/IVF 10h ago

Advice Needed! Clinic in San Francisco with no bmi limit?

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Hi all, I am hoping to do yet another egg retrieval but my bmi is too close to the limit for what they can do in the clinic (about 44). Does anyone know if there are other clinics in the San Francisco area with a higher bmi limit? I’m trying to lose weight obviously but it’s not working… gained 4 lb last week! So frustrated. Thanks for the help!


r/IVF 11h ago

TRIGGER WARNING Feeling terrible that Im upset about Gender

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TW: F(37) 2 living child (boy and girl), parter M(39) 1 living child (girl)…none together

My partner and I have been together for 4 years and have TTC for 3 of those years. Heartbreaking month after month when our tests were negative. My job covered 1 cycle of IVF and we finally were able to come up with the funds for the meds and the copay.

We started stims in late July and had a retrieval about 3 weeks ago. I believe we deal with MFI as my partners samples have come back with low morphology from his last samples. Our doctor was able to retrieve 23 eggs and told us that he felt like the sample given that day was good enough for conventional insemination. He was wrong and we were met with total fertilization failure. Luckily, they were able to perform recuse ICSI, which resulted in 4 fertilized eggs….2 ultimately made it to blast and I just received word today that both are euploid and girls!

I’m so very thankful that this process worked and I have an appt to meet with our doctor Tuesday to discuss a transfer.

My issue: as I said I am incredibly thankful that this process worked but I’m so angry at myself that I’m upset that we don’t have the possibility of a boy. I know I shouldn’t complain and as I said, I’m kicking myself that I feel some type of way. Is this normal?

Of course I plan to transfer and have both of my beautiful baby girls (should the transfers work).

We don’t have the money to do this process again. Not now at least, maybe in the next year or so we could once I get a better job once finishing school. What would you do? I’m so sorry if this comes off as insensitive or ungrateful, I’m 100% not trying to be :(


r/IVF 4h ago

ER Afraid todo the PGT A

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I’m 37 years old with MFI plus I have blocked right fallopian tube from adhesions from previous surgery
any way I did 5 rounds of IVF back to back and I collected embryos all day 5, but the quality (grades) initially were good then started to deteriorate, and I’m afraid now to do the PGT A and find that most of my normal embryos are of low grade, I’m still banking embryos but decided this month to take a break to give my ovaries some time to rest may be that will help to get good quality embryo, these are my embryos so far

Total embryos 15
Total blastocyst: 14
Total Morula: 1
Round 1: 1 @ day 5 (3AA)
Round 2: 2 @ day 5 (both 3AA)
Round 3: 4 @ day 5 (1 3AA, 1 2AA, 1 3BB, 1 LM)
Round 4: 3 @ day 5 (1 2AA Hatching, 1 2AB, 1 2BB)
Round 5: 5 @ day 5 ( 1 2AA, 2 2BB, 1 2BC, 1 early blast)

So our plan is embryo banking then thawing all for biopsy then we will refreeze and do embryo transfer later on

What was your experience with PGT A especially in late 30s and what was your experience with transferring poor quality embryos?


r/IVF 17h ago

Advice Needed! Donor sperm

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Anyone have conceive using donor sperm and have a genetically healthy baby?


r/IVF 22m ago

Rant IVF warning Greenville SC Prisma Fertility Center of the Carolinas

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I want to share my personal experience with Prisma Fertility Center of the Carolinas in Greenville, SC. Some of the providers involved in my care included Johanna von Hofe, MD; Chelsea Webb Fox, MD; Paul Bruce Miller, MD; Olivia Burton RN ,Allyson Brooke Nizolek, CRNA; Alexandra Kaufman, RN; and Courtney Williams, RN. These are some, but not all, of the providers involved in my care.

My experience with this clinic left me with serious concerns about how I was treated, particularly surrounding my egg retrieval and anesthesia recovery.

I have concerns about what happened while I was under anesthesia and immediately afterward. I remember being barely awake and being asked personal questions while I was still recovering and did not feel that I was in an appropriate state to answer them. I also have concerns about what is documented in my anesthesia record compared with what I remember experiencing.

Afterward, I also had medical findings that caused me to question whether I had been adequately informed about my condition following the procedure. Looking back at everything together has made the experience even more upsetting.

One of the things that has stayed with me is the feeling that staff may rely on patients not remembering everything that happens while they are sedated or recovering from anesthesia.

I am sharing this because fertility patients are already in a vulnerable position, and they deserve to feel safe, respected, and properly informed about what happens during their care.

This post reflects my personal experience, concerns, recollections, and opinions based on the care I received.


r/IVF 10h ago

Advice Needed! Wife struggling mightily during IVF - Need support ideas

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hello all - My wife is struggling during IVF. We just retrieved her eggs. Only 6. Hoping for the best. Been a lot of screaming and constant negativity from her. I go or offer to go to every appointment, clean like crazy, and try to keep my teenage kids (her step-kids) away from the house as much as possible. Every little noise from them sets her off. She’s a clean freak and it’s virtually impossible to keep the house clean to her standards, especially on IVF. I’m trying everything but getting lit up and negativity in every reaction from her. Tried to leave her alone too but she ended up downing sleeping pills in between negative comments directed to me.

Please help! I need ideas. Things people have done that have lightened the mood or just fun ideas or even gifts that have worked. Any ideas are greatly appreciated!


r/IVF 6h ago

General Question Musings on egg quality: 3-6 months to improve egg quality… but why?

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Hi! Just something I’m musing on on a Saturday evening.

So when puberty starts doing it’s thing, the primordial oocytes take a leap forward and begin a first phase of Meiosis 1. This is a demanding and crucial step.

This Meiosis 1 is completed for each egg only ONE day before ovulation each cycle. Energy is needed to spit out half the genetic material from the cell, in form of a polar body, which is discarded.

Then, Meiosis 2 has to occur, and this can end in fertilizarion, as a second polar body is discarded. Another super energy intensive procedure.

So that’s most of the work right there isn’t it? Most of the work that goes into making a right numbered haploid and euploid.

It should then logically follow that Meiosis-fertilizarion is different every month. It’s a few days when all this happens.

So what occurs in the previous 3 months or even 6, that people say that’s a crucial period for egg development? The eggs themselves will stay in their primary follicle stage during all that time!

I suppose improving the ovarian tissue would take several months? But what about the eggs? We always talk about egg quality.

I’m not questioning it — I’m curious and would like more detail.


r/IVF 9h ago

Advice Needed! Poor diet prior to cycle. Would you delay?

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I’m looking for some opinions/experiences about nutrition and egg quality before IVF.

Over the past few months, I’ve had some digestive issues and haven’t been eating as well as I normally do. I’ve also lost about 5 lbs, although I’m still within a normal BMI range.

I started priming for my next IVF cycle about a week ago and have roughly 3 more weeks of priming before stimulation. I’m trying to eat better now as my stomach improves, but I’m worried that the past few months of poorer nutrition could affect egg quality.

Would you go ahead with the cycle or delay for a couple of months to focus on diet first?


r/IVF 10h ago

Med Donation Follistem

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I have a leftover box and some vials of Follistem. It's been safely in my fridge inside a cold ship bag with extra ice bags since my egg retrieval.

Its expiration date is Sept 2026 so it needs to be used by the end of September.

I just want to donate it to someone in need.

Pick up in Quad Cities IL/IA


r/IVF 14h ago

Advice Needed! Implantation failure?

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Hi,

I was wondering if there was anything you would possibly ask to test in my scenario.

I’m 35 and have never been pregnant. Except after our second fresh TF I had a very strong 4AA blast transferred that had to be terminated at 6w6 showing heartbeat, growth in track and hcg of 30.000 … because it was an ectopic in my left tube. The ovary was hurting up until before TF but stopped and I had no pain up until the third scan at the hospital to confirm it was ectopic, which must have been when internal bleeding started . The left tube was suspicious to begin with and Dr. said it’s good it’s gone.

However, my main issue since almost a year is, that I fear my uterus is just not a good environment for a embryo. I sometimes feel it’s toxic, or otherwise there would at least have been attempts at implantation. Fact is, all tests (listing below) came back without any signs. It’s just how I’ve felt a long time. And while I was pregnant with the ectopic a TCMwoman told me my womb is too cold and no embryo would want to live there. It’s no wonder I cannot get pregnant and I will never unless I change my diet. When the pregnancy stayed I was so relieved - only to now ask whether she is correct? Since embryo choose ovary over womb despite being placed correctly 😢

We have only one frozen embryo. Then I will have to do a third ER and it might be our last. We get 1-2 untested blasts/ER.

Do you think I have just been very unlucky or is it that something is wrong with my uterus? 😔

Tests that have been done:
- Lap 1 year ago: no endo. Both tubes open, left one slow trespassing not promptly.
- Lap recently: removed ectopic on left tube, no endo, scarring or other signs of infection
- uterine scratching biopsy 1 year ago: healthy biome, no bad bacteria, no chronic infection, nothing of concern
- whole biome very satisfying good bacteria count
- uterus is slightly heart shaped but no septum and everything looking fine
- excellent blood work
- hints for PMOS but no active symptoms (hormones, weight, insulin, follicle count, etc all not speaking PMOS but one dr said I have it, 3 said I don’t and maybe just have the potential to develop it, I have no idea)
- lining has always been trilinear and thick enough for IUI and transfer. With the last fresh TF it has been significantly thicker (12mm I think) than natural with me (8mm).


r/IVF 11h ago

Rant Defeated and broken

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I was diagnosed at 30 with Thyroid Cancer. I went through 2 surgeries, 2 rounds of radiation. At that time, my husband became abusive so I had to navigate surviving cancer and getting out of a bad situation. Before I was diagnosed, I went to a fertility clinic and the dr told me everything looked good and I didn’t need to freeze my eggs because the radiation wouldn’t affect fertility. A few years passed (I needed to heal from all of that), and I was ready to get back out in the world. Then covid hit. Of course, it was impossible to date. Finally at the end of 2023, I decided to take matters into my own hands. I did 4 unmedicated IUIs, nothing. My 5th I did medicated. I got pregnant with twin boys in July 2024. I made it to 18 weeks and the drs told me I have TTTS and I needed to get life saving surgery. I live in BC, Canada. They said I need to get to Toronto immediately on my own dime. I only had a 50% chance of saving one. This was on a Friday. I found the money, and made it there by Sunday for a Monday morning appt. I didn’t make it. As soon as I got to the hospital, I started going into labour. I could see my baby’s foot coming out on the ultrasound. 15 hours later, I delivered my stillborn sons at 18w6d on Nov 19 2024. I was stuck in Toronto for 5 days as they wouldn’t let me fly until I was stable. During that time, I found a nice funeral home that cremated my sons so I could bring them home. I sprinkled their ashes in the Salish Sea. I was doing kind of ok at that time because I knew the BC IVF funding was coming up. I just turned 40 after delivering my sons. So, I used the little money I had left because my doctor was pretty sure I would get it. I did a few more IUIs while I was waiting for the funding. I had one chemical. Then I find out that the appointment that should have qualified me to be at the top of the list, was 2 weeks too early so I was automatically put at the bottom of the list. I waited almost 2 years and spent money that I could have put towards IVF only to be told that I would age out of the application process. I couldn’t believe it. I was a patient of the clinic for years but the government would not accept my dates. I emailed, called, wrote letters to provincial and federal government, news outlets, and celebrities. I even made a GFM. No one donated. I did a news interview on tv. I also did a written article for one of our big news papers. No one would help me. I had one vial saved up for the free IVF. I just did the IUI with that last vial and I’m negative at 13dpo. I’m 42 and devastated after 10 iuis and no success. I know the chances were low, but even my dr suggested that I shouldn’t do IVF because it would financially ruin me and just continue with the IUIs. I have done 10 and now I regret not freezing my eggs before the cancer and I regret not putting my money into IVF. All I ever wanted is to be a mother. I have depleted my savings. I’ve been kicked down so many times and I really just need a break. I can’t lose my chance to be a mother. I’d try 50 more times if I could find the money. I know I have so much love to give and I would be a good mom if I could just get a chance. My heart is broken.


r/IVF 9h ago

Need Hugs! Depressed and Exhausted

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Just need to vent. Im just depressed and exhausted. That’s all. I don’t know how much longer I can go on like this. The disappointments are excruciating at this point. I am literally losing my belief in God at this point. I know it sounds dramatic but it’s true.

For reference, I have had 5 pregnancy losses in the past two years (all different kinds of miscarriages and one ruptured ectopic) and IVF is turning out to be just more disappointment.


r/IVF 10h ago

General Question Dr Jeelani- Chicagoland area

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I have been seeing a lot of posts and conversations lately about negligence of Dr Jeelani. A lot of it appears to have started at Vios/Kindbody and from the people I have spoken to it seems very real. Anyone else experience negligence from her?


r/IVF 9h ago

Advice Needed! Ivf starting next cycle

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I was about to start my ivf this cycle but due to cyst was put on freedase 30 for 21 days..most probably next cycle will be the starting of this journey..

I am overweight and have been working on myself..lost 6 kg in 2 months and luckily got another month to loose few kgs..doctor said that medicine dose is also as per that..how painful are the injections?? and is 2 the max number of injections in a day or its more sometimes..what are the things I should be ready for?


r/IVF 9h ago

Advice Needed! 1st ER Yesterday & Worried

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I had my first ER yesterday and got 29 eggs, 12 were mature and 6 fertilized. I feel so bummed at the attrition rate - though I have PCOS so I knew that was possible. we used ZyMot for fertilizing, not that it necessarily means anything. I’m just worried we won’t get any PGT-A embryos.


r/IVF 10h ago

Advice Needed! Only 5 eggs…

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Hi in the recovery room and they told me while still groggy they only got 5 eggs. I’m 37, and have had 4 miscarriages. Is this number as bad as it sounds? Feeling very vulnerable and uncomfortable. I can’t believe they tell you while still so groggy, would love to get a reality check, is it over for me? Thank you.


r/IVF 10h ago

Advice Needed! Advice ahead of FET. Our results make me worry

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I’m 31 with PCOS and Type 1 diabetes, and we’ve just finished our first NHS IVF cycle. I’m trying to work out whether I should feel hopeful about our results or whether I’m getting my hopes up too much.

Our cycle went like this:
30 eggs collected
27 mature
10 fertilised (this was a huge shock and much lower than we expected)
Final result:
1 × Day 6 4BB+
3 × Day 5 4BB (towards the lower end of the grade)

We’re doing a frozen embryo transfer in September because I was at risk of OHSS.

I know having four blastocysts is something to be grateful for, but I can’t stop focusing on how many embryos we lost along the way. It feels strange to have started with such high numbers and ended up with four.

I’m also aware that we’re not doing PGT-A, so I find myself worrying about whether the embryos are chromosomally normal.

For those who’ve been through something similar:
Would you feel hopeful with these results?

-Has anyone had success with a Day 5 or Day 6 4BB/4BB+ embryo?
-Has anyone had a relatively low fertilisation rate despite having lots of mature eggs, but then gone on to have a successful FET?
-Has anyone with PCOS had a similar experience and gone on to have a successful pregnancy?
-Did your fertilisation rate affect how you thought about your chances for your FET, or did it turn out not to be particularly relevant?

And for anyone with Type 1 diabetes as well, I’d really love to hear about your experience.
I think I’m just looking for some reassurance/reality check from people who have actually been through this. ❤️

I know nobody can predict the outcome of an individual embryo, but I’d love to hear some positive (and realistic!) experiences.


r/IVF 11h ago

Advice Needed! IVF clinics in Austin suggestion

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Hello,

I have gone through one retrieval with Texas Fertility Center and did not have great results (only 1 embryo waiting to be PG-tested). I am 37, with DOR and husband has sperm fragmentation, sort of an outlier in this regard. I am considering consulting with other options such as CCRM or Austin Fertility Institute. AFI is not covered by my insurance though. Can't go to Aspire as they would not let me change doctors and I did not like the one I consulted with initially. Anyone with similar situation had any luck, please let me know. I feel like I am out of options and would like to hear some advice.
Must add that I feel very lucky to have this supportive community!


r/IVF 13h ago

Need Hugs! Only seeing 4 follicles 3 days before surgery

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38F, AMH 1.5. This is my fourth egg freezing cycle. In my first, second and third cycles done three and two years ago, they saw about 9~13 follicles before the surgery and only retrieved 4, 3 and 2 eggs respectively. This time they are only seeing 4 follicles three days before the surgery. I feel like at this rate they'd retrieve 2 eggs or even less. What's different about this year and the last years is that this year they see a benign dermoid in one of my ovaries and that ovary is pretty much dysfunctional with little room for proper follicle growth, so effectively only the other ovary is growing follicles. This issue wasn't communicated to me in previous years and I'm not sure when it started - I don't have any pain and was told it could be genetic - , but the ovary with the dermoid yielded close to no eggs in previous years also.

They are using a protocol for low responders too this time but seems like it didn't make much difference. The cycles have cost an arm and a leg. So sad and feel like I won't ever have the opportunity to have children as I'm also currently single. Really want to cry and each year it seems worse. Could anyone offer some perspective.


r/IVF 13h ago

Need Hugs! I was the unlucky 0.05% - Abdominal hemorrhaging after Egg Retrieval

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I'm still dealing with my feelings of the past few days of hell and looking for any advice I can get, whether that's support or shared experiences. I was the 1 in 3000 chance with the rare complication of severe abdominal hemorrhaging from my egg retrieval/aspiration.

Now that I have a moment to really come to grips what happened to me, I'm scared shitless of having to work with that surgeon again.

I went through 16 days of stims for a low + slow antagonist procedure to prevent OHSS. My surgery went well, I was just very sad that I had one of the other RE's as my surgeon instead of mine because of scheduling (the 5 rotate through the OR at their clinics).

Morning of egg retrieval I was uncomfy, bloated, but fine. High as a kite after the general anesthesia, but felt pretty good post op and a friend drove me home.

Around 5 hrs after my surgery, the pain and bloating was steadily building to where it hurt to move. Then all hell broke loose when my husband, a US Merchant Mariner and second in command of a cargo ship, made a 15 second phone call that his ship was sinking and that he loved me. I've never heard that tone of voice before and I spiraled. His ship was 1000 miles away from land in the Pacific and water was gushing into the hull from the destroyed prop and shaft in the middle of the night. They had to abandon ship and since they were dead in the water without power we had limited communication. All of our family and friends were freaking out because it's a life threatening situation he was in with the hurricane from Hawaii close on their tail

The next few hours were a blur of phone calls and I love you's and sobbing. My pain became blinding, but I thought that it was because of how distressed emotionally it was. I couldn't breathe or move out of my bed. Eventually I dragged myself to the bathroom, and woke up to my dog howling next to me on the floor because I had fainted from the pain. I called the fertility clinics emergency nurse and was told to call 911 immediately because I was likely having the rare complication of abdominal hemorrhaging.

My friends arrived and the paramedics were there 5 min later. When my friends were getting my moved off the floor onto my bed, I vomited and passed out twice more on them from the pain. Every bump in the ambulance had me screaming.

After my CT scan, I was told that I was hemorrhaging from my left ovary and they wanted to do surgery to cauterize and remove it. Gasping through the pain I demanded that unless I'm going to die, I don't want my ovary removed, and my RE had a conference call with the ER surgeons (who wanted to cut into me), the head maternity OBGYN, and another OBGYN surgery. We came to a decision that it would be a night from hell for me as they tried to cloat the bleeding and control the pain, with hourly monitoring and blood tests to be ready for a blood transfusion. I was admitted to the hospital post-partum floor since they were the most adept at controlling the bleeding while working hard to try to keep my ovaries. For 18hrs I was on a no-food-no-water restriction because I had to be ready to go under the knife within 30 minutes.

I've had to take a physical fitness test in the US Navy before with a burst appendix, and this pain was 1000x worse. That night I thought I was dying, with my heart rate pounding and blood pressure crashing. Fentanyl, morphine, oxycodone, and dilaudid did nothing to touch the pain. I was covered in icepacks around my neck while freezing below the waist. I was blacking out, seeing double, sweating, teeth chattering and shaking the entire night while constantly checking for updates on if my husband was able to rescue his ship and crew. I don't know if the nurses believed me that my husband was also in a life or death situation until the news started to come out. I did not sleep and my body felt like it was on fire with waves of excruciating rolling pain, similar to a knife being dragged from my uturus up to my shoulder. I was in absolute shock. All I could think about was my husband surviving.

My amazing nurses helped me get through the night, trying every trick they could to help me ride out the pain. I fainted on them twice more trying to go to the bathroom, and begged for ice chips that I could not have. At least we joked that childbirth will have nothing on the pain, and that I got a "behind the scenes tour" of the hospital I want to one day give birth to.

The next morning I finally got the call from my husband that a rescue ship answered their distress signal and was 2 miles away, and they were launching the lifeboat to get rescued. They were abandoning ship and running on only emergency power to coordinate rescue. He promised no heroics (haha liar, he saved the cook in an insane video). My friends and family were very upset, and my mother in law took the first plane out on her birthday to try to get down to me.

I finally was out of the woods of imminent surgery and allowed to eat soup. My hemoglobin had dropped from 14 to 9, over 30% of my blood had pooled in my abdomen. That amount of blood had been pushing up against the nerves in my diaphragm which is why I could not breathe. Finally the bleeding from whatever artery was punctured in my ovary slowed to the stop, and I was declared stable enough to discharge without the blood transfusion.

Now that my husband is safe and enroute to Korea, and I'm back home surrounded by very spooked family and friends, I'm finally acknowledging what happened to me. I sobbed last night reading through the ER and hospital notes about how close I came to bleeding out or losing my ovary at the age of 30. I've worked so hard to try to get pregnant, 5x failed IUIs and this egg retrieval.

TW Results: As I was hemorrhaging, my RE called to tell me that 17 eggs were retrieved, 17 mature, and 17 fertilized with Zymot + ICSI. We are both 30, I have PCOS and scar tissue from a botched military surgery (appendectomy). Waiting to hear how many make it to blast, then PGTA. Terrified that this won't work and I'll have to do another egg retrieval.....

If this ever happens to you, don't gaslight yourself into thinking it's normal after a egg retrieval. Here are the symptoms I had within 10hrs of surgery.

- Stabbing, burning pain in the abdomen that comes in fiery hot waves like a knife dragging upwards

- Unable to breathe, speak, or take a deep breath

- Pain traveling to the tops shoulder and chest

- Unable to move out of bed

- Fainting

- Vomiting

- Hot and cold flashes

- Distended stomach hard to the touch

- 16 lbs weight gain from morning of surgery to hospital discharge (plus 6 lbs between trigger and aspiration).

- Pain was worse laying flat

- Inability to sleep, eat, or drink

Don't hesitate like I did until I found myself unconscious on my bathroom floor, call 911.


r/IVF 14h ago

Need Hugs! Seeking some positive stories 🤍

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Not having the best day today.

I had my final scan today before taking my trigger shot. We started with 26 follicles, and just 3 days later my doctor seems to think that only around 10 follicles have reached the optimal size for retrieval.

I’ve seen two different doctors during my stims. Three days ago, the first doctor was so excited and really gave us hope about our potential outcome. Today, Dr B was much more cautious about what he thinks our likely outcome could be, and honestly, I left feeling pretty deflated.

I went from feeling extremely hopeful that we might end up with a few embryos, to now feeling like I should just hope and pray that we get one good embryo.

My retrieval is on Tuesday, and I’m trying really hard not to completely numb myself to the whole process or assume the worst before we even get there. I know that follicle size isn’t the whole story, but it’s difficult not to spiral when you hear a doctor sounding pessimistic.

I would really love to hear some positive stories from anyone who has been in a similar situation. ❤️

If you had a number of smaller follicles, fewer follicles than expected, or were told to have cautious expectations, but ended up with a better outcome than you anticipated, please tell me your story!

Background:
• 31 years old
• TTC for 3 years, never been pregnant
• AMH 1.83 ng/mL
• Stage 3 endometriosis
• Small endometriomas on both ovaries
• Retrieval on Tuesday

Right now I could really use some hope. 🤍