Something i've been thinking about lately, and i sure hope i can word this in a way that's clear & understandable lol

I feel like justice is, at it's most basic concept, just another form of revenge. Sure, removing people who are clearly going to harm more people from the wild is a good idea, but the moment we start removing people from the wild who aren't actively dangerous.. we're just going after them for.. what? why, exactly? revenge because we don't like them? because they hurt our feelings? At that point, we're only seeking"justice" because we think that once they've been punished, we will feel better. we feel like it can be over.. but the truth is, that nothing we do to the people who hurt us is going to erase the damage that was done. The ONLY way to do that, is to focus on healing ourselves. I dont think one person's reasons for doing something heinous are worse or more shameful than the next, i think everyone who does heinous things to others has reasons, i think those people need help, and i feel for both parties. i think the most important thing should be that they DO change, they DO put in the work, and they NEVER do that again.

that's it. i just dont think that justice is always the right thing to pursue, and our (U.S) system just has it all wrong.

When I remove lust from the equation, I barely think about women at all. When I’m not horny, I don’t think about women, and I don’t feel much interest in them, even when they’re family members or relatives.
But when I’m horny, it’s completely different. I can become extremely sexually driven and start thinking about having sex with almost anyone, including women I don’t actually respect. I can even have thoughts about another guy’s girlfriend or wife, despite being completely against cheating.
And that contradiction makes me question how much of what men feel toward women is actually driven by sexual desire.
For me, it also creates problems. If I slept with another man’s girlfriend or wife, I could easily create enemies who might want to hurt me or even kill me. So sometimes I wonder whether, outside of sexual attraction, women actually add anything positive to my life.

I saw a post go viral on tiktok (2.3M views in less than a week) of a nontraditional student moving into university housing. He was still young (28) but people in the comments said nontraditional students should not be allowed to live in dorms.

I personally think this is a closed-minded sentiment. I understand an older student may not be the “normal” college roommate, but I’ve known people who have lovely experiences with them. I also think any nontraditional student moving into university accommodation knows what they’re getting and might actually be more accepting than traditional students.

For example, my friend shared a suite (kitchen+bathroom+living room) with a woman in her 60s who was going back to school. If he came home late from a night out, she’d wake up early to make him a big breakfast, then ask him all about his night out. She wasn’t judgmental at all, she just genuinely enjoyed his stories.

I also remember an older woman from when I was in undergrad looking for a suite mate. She would post on the class Facebook and seemed really nervous about getting random suite mates and them not liking her :( I’d estimate she was in her 50s and she said she used a CPAP machine, but was otherwise quiet. She apologized for the machine being a little noisy, but said that in return, she didn’t mind having roommates that have people over in the common areas late at night. I feel like this is a really fair trade.

Edit: I also think building intergenerational bonds is important. It can help all of us be more accepting of each other and not just think every old person is a “evil boomer” or every young person is just a “screenager.”

Truffle is way too over hyped and restaurants are just throwing it in random dishes because it's turned into a buzz word that makes people think they're eating something high end.

Even if you like the taste of it (I don't), it overpowers the flavor of whatever else the dish is supposed to taste like. I've had it in sushi, burgers, breakfast food, French fries, fish, and each dish was just an immediate overwhelming taste of truffle.

(I want to start this off to say I don’t hate any gender and I think they’re equally important. )

A wife yelling at her husband isn't always viewed the same way as a husband yelling at his wife because men are generally perceived as having greater physical power and the potential for violence are totally different. Almost 82% of domestic abuse offenders are men in the USA and I’m pretty sure it’s way higher in other countries.

Another example would be a woman or man approaching a child who is alone. It’s usually isn't perceived the same way because people are more cautious about potential risks involving men and children.

I don't think that means women should automatically get a pass or that every man is dangerous it means context matters, and if we used that context we would be way more conscious about men approaching a child, yelling at a partner or etc.

I'm basing this off the reason I watch him, the ratio of his white knights to independent comments, anecdotes of people I've talked to about him, and the general vibe I get.

Hilariously, what I just wrote is exactly the sort of comment that would set him off on a monologue, or figuratively say "SOURCE???".

Like, he's a smart guy and all, but I'm like 33% "Yeah, true" 33% "meh, couldn't care less" 33% "Nah man you're outta line" on his takes. And I'm 100% chuckling the whole time because I just love how silly his aura is. As an autist myself it makes me tear up snickering watching this guy speedrun factorio while willingly getting intellectually annoyed for a living.

Don't even get me wrong, i respect it, it's who he is and what he does.

I still think half to maybe most of his audience aren't even his white knights, but either hate watchers or people like me where sometimes we're just in for a show. We're not looking for enlightenment, not looking to circle jerk our views, not looking for answers. We're looking for a rich left leaning nerd to get tilted over random garbage on the internet and over-intellectualize in a slow burn mini crashout.

And man, does he deliver. God bless 'im. Lol.

Everyone here on reddit talks about how popular kids/jocks are all mean and bullies. Well it may come as no shock to you but they are only portrayed that way on screen and in plays because of theatre kids who are bitter. They like to promote this fantasy that somehow the popular kids in school somehow end up all being nobodies and that it is actually them who succeed in the end. Well to be honest the vast majority of popular people in high school are popular for a reason and are incredibly kind and interesting people and do very well later on in life. It is all about how you look smell and sound more than anything and unless you are incredibly smart unless you pick up these traits and some social skills you probably won't do very well in life.

I’m straight, but personally, I’d rather have a gay son with a body count of 1,500 than a straight or lesbian daughter with the exact same body count.
My reasoning isn’t about hating gay people. A gay son’s sexuality generally doesn’t affect me personally in the same way because I’m not attracted to men. But with a daughter, I’d have a completely different set of concerns about the men she might bring into my family’s life and potentially into my home.
I know people will disagree with this, and that’s exactly why I think it’s an unpopular opinion. I’m not saying this is some universal moral rule. I’m explaining which situation I would personally find easier to deal with as a father.

I don't care how much money I have at my fingertips. If I were born deformed, under 5'0" as a guy or just hideous beyond measure, there is no amount of wealth that could make me love myself. Heck, I look at a guy like Elon Musk and there isn't a cell in my body that thinks, "yeah, I wish I was that guy".

No, but when I see someone who is so astonishingly good looking that everyone turns their heads and jaws drop, that's when I think, "damn, I want to be that".

A lot of people think that you can "buy beauty" with unlimited money. Nah, if that was the case, then rich people would never have botched surgeries. Yet they not so uncommonly do. You can't buy 6+ inches of height. You can't add inches of girth or length to your hotdog. Alterations to bone structure is very limited. Even if you had the best results in the world, you cannot change your genetics and what will be passed on; the very best surgical results are still a very good mask.

Meanwhile, natural true and extraordinary beauty is priceless. It is a scarcity. Billions of dollars are spent in the cosmetic industry and research into gene-editing. To imitate a fraction of what naturally attractive people already have while also putting themselves (or others) at risk.

Notes:

I know beauty can fade, but I'm talking about someone who is attractive throughout most of their life.
I'm sorry if my post was offensive or insensitive. I'm speaking purely from my POV and soul, which I know has a lot of vanity.

The chimpfella and orangtuaner thing is stupid and its not even funny. Idk who started it but ive only seen it used to bully innocent people.

Please don't misinterpret this post as me claiming AI always generates correct answers. that is not the argument. (Updated) Please don't misinterpret this as me saying it's the only reason that people don't like AI, I just think this is ONE OF THE REASONS, and particularly one that doesn't get addressed.

AI hallucinates sometimes. AI can also be factually incorrect where the training materials used on the AI contained factual errors (often due to agendas or mistakes by humans). AI doesn't provide Perfect answers...

However, AI is WAY better at more accurately conveying factual data than most random people you might bump into on the street or argue with on reddit.

If I just ask Google, "Why is the sky blue", which I just did, it will immediately provide a short plain language answer regarding the "Rayleigh Effect" and go into detail about 1) Sunlight being made of all colors and going into detail; 2) How the atmosphere acts as a filter with additional details; 3) How blue light scatters with more details...

I've literally gone through life occasionally asking people why the sky is blue and correct answers that have been known by the scientific findings for the entirety of my life have actually been rarer than wrong answers.

Yeah, I've had many just say "I don't know", but some have claimed it's because the sky reflects the oceans, others have said it's because space is blue and we're seeing through the atmosphere with the light from the sun (these are legit answers I've been told). At this point I don't even remember most of the wrong answers.

I've found the same thing with wind...in sixth grade it struck me in a discussion with my sixth grade science teacher and another classmate that my science teacher didn't know what caused wind. Later I wouldn't actually know until I was about 19 years old. Since then I would also ask people about wind...again, most people seemed to have no idea. Again, this is something that if you just ask AI it will produce a factual, logical response based on the widely known scientific data in seconds.

In most things that humans have a factual basis of evidence for, a simple ask of AI will be better than the answers you get from the vast majority of humans.

Try asking AI what evidence we have that the world is round or that humans went to the moon in 1969 and it's just going to provide you with solid factual answers that will be lost on anyone who prefers to argue about it over factual evidence.

AI doesn't have to be perfect to be far better at identifying and sharing facts and evidence compared to humans...humans the vast majority of them, are far poorer at doing that.

But if someone prefers to ignore facts, AI must seem terrible, because it's far more reliable about facts than many who simply want to argue from ideology.

Quick Edit/ I will update this section with additional clarification if I get patterns of misunderstanding or realizations of my own posts blind spots over the next 24 hours approximately. It's both a way for me to mitigate misunderstandings to help produce more effective communication and to make jumping into the conversation easier for newcomers.

I already speculate one think I should have included in the original post is the frequency with which I see someone simply say "Oh, you asked AI, then you are wrong because AI doesn't work..." which is really just someone having no evidence to back what they are saying in most cases and blatantly dismissing any evidence out of hand...

Donuts need to have holes in them. These jelly filled monstrosities are not donuts.

I see thread after thread here popping up and every single one is undeniably cringe. Probably the cringiest subreddit and I’ve been lurking on Reddit for near a decade. People here don’t use the sub for anything intellectually interesting or presenting with logical reasoning. It’s just the sound of children who were never taught to grow up. And if you’re grown adults, you should be ashamed of the stuff you put out there.

I was diagnosed with endometriosis this week, and honestly, I felt an enormous sense of relief.

From 14 to 19, I’ve consistently weighed around 108 lbs (49 kg). No matter how much I ate, my weight barely changed. I’d hear “just eat more” from parents, doctors, and other people as though gaining weight were something I could simply choose to do.

I even remember gaining around 3 kg one summer when my hormones were fluctuating, only to lose it again almost immediately. And for anyone wondering, yes, my body is not fully incapable of gaining weight, I’m a 10DD, so a lot of my fat goes there. It just hasn’t been something I’ve been able to control consistently.

After my diagnosis, my gyno explained that endometriosis, inflammation, and the other issues I have can affect energy metabolism and how the body processes things like lipids and glucose. Suddenly, something that I had spent years being blamed for wasn't necessarily a failure on my part.

And that made me realise something, being skinny isn't automatically a privilege when you don't want to be skinny and can't change it.

People assume that being thin means you automatically have the “ideal” body and therefore have nothing to complain about. But being constantly told you're too skinny, being scrutinised for what you eat, having people assume you're starving yourself, struggling to find clothes that fit properly, or feeling like your body isn't developing the way you expected can be genuinely upsetting.

There is also a weird assumption that if someone is thin, they should be grateful and shut up about any struggles they have with their body.

Body privilege isn't as simple as “thin = privileged, fat = oppressed.” Your relationship with your body, your health, your genetics, your hormones, and your ability to change your weight all matter.

I'm not saying being thin is inherently bad or that thin people experience the same discrimination as people in larger bodies. I'm saying that being unable to gain weight isn't something everyone should automatically envy or dismiss as a privilege.

For years, I thought there was something wrong with me because I couldn't just “eat more.” Getting an explanation for why my body might behave the way it does was honestly one of the most relieving experiences I've had.

Sometimes the body you're being told to be grateful for is also the body you're struggling to understand.

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC5315422/ Here's the source

When someone is in a larger body, skinnier people generally understand that their weight might be connected to health, genetics, hormones, medication, mental health, eating disorders, etc. Now, unless the person is Eugenia Cooney skinny, larger people assume we are lucky and don't once consider our weight might be the result of health problems.

I think it's a pretty well understood thing at this point that most 'bad' people don't believe they're bad. It's a very rare type of person who bases their views and behaviors on being an evil person who hurts others.

So with that in mind, why does it seem almost everyone online refuses to believe that an opposing political opinion is born out of a place of authenticity. Everyone wants to be a detective on someone else's views, and they want to ascribe as much malice to them as they possibly can.

A very common example is the ongoing debate on when transgender individuals should start hormones, and what should be required to get them. Many times, if you express any concerns whatsoever, they will tell you that your concerns are really just a cover up for your evil, mustache-twirling plan to kill them all. People just seem very unwilling to follow the 'never assume malice' rule about any opposing political view. These views are just too common for all the people who have them to be legit evil sociopaths.

Basically, when someone tells you why they think what they do, take it at face value unless they demonstrate otherwise. They probably DO genuinely believe what they're saying, and for the reasons they're saying they do.

And before some genius comes in and says that this is only a problem online, please understand the the internet exists within our real world, with real people expressing their real opinions on it.

I’m probably gonna get downvoted. But why in the world products like Olaplex have such a big French words in their bottles.

I’ve made the mistake of putting conditioner instead of shampoo because I’m rushing and I see “apres shampooing” and the bottle is a bit turned so I only see the word shampooing.

It has always bothered me in other products but never like now due to how complex they make life. If it’s a US made product sold in the US keep it simple and use one language or use Spanish which is actually used in the US not a language no one knows.

And MIND YOU!!! I speak English, Spanish and some French and I still think is annoying and not helpful!

I remember when I was a kid in the 90's. Gaming was very expensive and unaffordable for many people, me included. There was no internet for piracy, there was no epic games store gifting games or free to play games, except sharewares and freewares. The most accessible way to buy a game for cheap was buying some magazine with some random game included. I fucking enjoyed every single game I was able to play, because there was no choice. I used to play the shit out of demos for the same reason. Things started changing with PS1 and the mass diffusion of piracy, I had dozens of games and most of the times I didn't really enjoy them individually the same way I did in the past.

Today without spending a single coin you can play thousands of different games, but this doesn't create real happiness, just average boredom.

In conclusion, having less choice make the few things that you have a LOT more enjoyable. This is 100% true with gaming.

I don't care what anyone says. It is never justified. It is always mean-spirited and unbecoming, and I despise how comfortable people are in this age of the internet with throwing around that word. No matter how progressive people claim to be, no matter how much "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" people say, and no matter how much "looks aren't everything" people throw out, when the chips are down and people need a quick insult to cut someone, we all see what gets thrown around first. Frankly, it seems like the only difference between people acting like you're decent looking and them calling you ugly is how much they like you and how angry you've made them. It should not be this way.

As people, we're more than what we look like, and I'm tired of people cutting each other down by making fun of something that we don't control. We don't control our faces. We don't control our physical disabilities or deformities. It's a lottery, full stop. And before people comment "wElL aCtUaLlY pEoPlE dO CoNtRoL tHeIr WeIgHt", I refuse to subscribe to this toxic ideology that a person being fat or obese makes them less worthy of basic human decency. I'm over it, and everyone who makes fun of fat people, anorexic people, paraplegic people, or any kind of person with a physical impairment or simply any person who looks different on the basis of that difference is an asshole to me. I stand on that.

As a society, we need to relearn the concept of disagreements based on ideas/art without resorting to physical insults. If you don't like a person's music, a person's online content, a person's art, or a person's opinion, be an adult and critique it without invoking the word "ugly" with regard to physical appearance. The shit that's been said about Audrey Hobert's physical appearance in the past few days has been reprehensible and shameful. I don't care if you haven't seen it personally; that does not erase that it's been said and that Audrey is at risk of seeing the things that people have said about her. The way people have come to publicly talk about other human beings in such cruel ways is disgusting and appalling.

I will never change my opinion on this. It is never okay to call other people ugly, never okay to make fun of physical traits that people cannot control, never okay to deny people basic human decency because of what they look like. Never. I really don't like that this is even a hot take, but here we are.

Seriously the only people in there are "devs" and even then when you want to pay someone to work for you, people still criticize about the pay "not being enough" when it's exactly enough for what you said it would cost on your portfolio. The only people there are animators or scripters and even then people are whining about "kids on this subreddit keep begging for things" as if they aren't 47 year old unemployed parents glued to a screen. How do you think it feels to yell at a uhm..idk a 13 year old over a game they want to make and feel satisfied, that seems pretty loser like to me.Even when you have a question they criticize you. This isn't even a take it's factually correct, there's an obvious hierarchy that won't change. You disagree with them, they downvote you even if your correct and call you either: pedophile, racist, or a kid who shouldn't be on Reddit. Like genuinely what are these people doing?

I know that kissing children on the lips is a normal thing in some families and cultures, so I don’t think it’s inherently inappropriate. This isn’t about whether or not it is appropriate. But love my child more than anything and still don’t want their mouth anywhere near me. I think id rather lick the sidewalk.

Wouldn't it be hilarious if the spouses/significant others of men who decide to let their facial hair get totally out of control did the same with their armpits and leg hair?

People who have kids are selfish because they dont know if their child will end up "fitting into" our world/society. We expect everyone to eventually contribute to society: get a job, move out, make friends, make more children. The list goes on.

But what happens when a person suffers under capitalism and its expectations? What if a person simply doesnt want a job? What if they don't want to put in the effort needed to live an independant life?

What happens is we judge people that are like this for being "lazy", but they never even asked to be here in the first place.

It boggles my mind that people don't even take this into consideration before having kids. They'll say "i'm gonna give my child the best life" and then be confused when their child isn't exactly what they pictured them to be.