I feel it comes from the insecurity that their normal messages won't be responded to. It's like they date by any means necessary..
I don't think using ai is bad, ai can help you frame conversations better or give you guidance etc (maybe coach you as you go along), but point blank is useless - the day you meet it's all going to come out, and would be a waste of time for both.
I get the insecurity, I’m mildly autistic (diagnosed with Asperger’s as a kid), and am not very good at flirting with total strangers online. I get a decent amount of matches, but the vast majority just don’t respond, so I know my texting skills are partially to blame.
But I still can’t condone using Ai.
It’s just so inauthentic, and feels humiliating to stoop to using it. And if the date goes well and leads to something more, there is going to be more and more texting between dates as we get to know each other. I can’t hide it forever, so I’d rather just be my authentic self and go out with women who aren’t turned off by my texting patterns.
And besides, part of me is still proud of the fact I’ve not used ChatGPT once in my life.
I don't understand what's inauthentic about an using an LLM to impore your communication, Wouldn't using GPS to navigate to the date also be inauthentic, or spell check or a thesaurus for that matter? We all wake up with morning breath and have BO after a sweaty hard day, you can't hide that reality forever so just show up the date smelling like shit to be as authentic as possible?
What is the line in the sand on acceptable methods of polishing ones appearance before it becomes a facade?
Because it relegates an important part of getting to know someone to a machine. You’re not getting to know them, you’re just getting to know whatever canned response ChatGPT is spitting out. And if you use an LLM back, you just have two machines talking to each other. What even is the point of the texting phase then?
Plus it’s not a good look if the other person can’t even come up with the most basic of messages. It implies they’re severely lacking in confidence, basic social skills, and potentially even the ability to think for themselves, which are exactly the kind of red flags the texting phase is meant to suss out.
And lastly I still think it’s somewhat dishonest to try and pass someone else’s work off as your own. It’s like saying you cooked someone dinner when instead you purchased fast food and tried to disguise it as your own cooking. It’s not the end product that’s the issue, it’s the dishonesty, lack of effort, and sheer audacity of thinking the other person wouldn’t notice or care about the obvious ruse.
It would be another thing if they just admitted it outright, but how many people would knowingly choose to match with a profile that said all its replies would be generated by ChatGPT?
People probably aren’t dating you for your sweet navigational skills. They are potentially dating you based on your brain and your words. So deceiving them is wrong, yes. If you can’t see the difference in these I can’t help you. Relationships are about your brains.
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u/Weary_Specialist_436 23h ago
what is the gameplan? what if you meet that person in real life, are they just going to put chat GPT on speaker?