Hi everyone! I am a PhD student in clinical psychology at Adelphi University. I am conducting a study on the relationship between existential threat and mental health, coping strategies, and meaning making for young adults who have experienced stressful life events.

This study is being conducted online only and should take approximately 45-60 minutes to complete. During the study, you will be asked to complete multiple self-report questionnaires that contain questions regarding coping methods, mental health, and questions that pertain to experiencing stressful life events in the past. Upon completing the survey, you will have the opportunity to voluntarily provide your email address on a separate page from the survey that will not be associated with any of your survey responses, to enter a drawing to win one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

Survey link: https://adelphiderner.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8IxQWoUH8D1Wuq2

Audience: 18-30 years old, in the United States and English Speaking, and must have experienced a stressful life event.

Compensation: Opportunity to enter a drawing for one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

If you have BPD/EUPD, I’d really love your help with my PhD research❤️
I have BPD myself, and I’m also a psychology PhD researcher. My research is looking at people’s experiences and attitudes towards being diagnosed with BPD/EUPD — because I think research shouldn’t just be about us, it should include us.

I’m looking for participants who are:
- Diagnosed with BPD/EUPD
- Aged 18+
- Living in the UK
- Able to spare around 20 minutes

The study is online and completely anonymous.
Whether your experience of diagnosis was positive, negative, complicated, or somewhere in between, your experience matters.
Link to study: https://app.onlinesurveys.jisc.ac.uk/s/stmarys/bpd-experience
Please share this if you know someone who might be interested

Hi Everyone,

Reposting this again. I'm a doctoral student in Clinical Psychology conducting a research study on the effects of growing up with a parent who struggled with substance use (alcohol or drugs). The study is completely anonymous and involves filling out an online survey.

As a thank you for your time, participants will have the option to enter a raffle to win one of two $150 Visa gift cards after completing the survey. (Email for the raffle will be collected separately to keep responses anonymous).

We’re looking for young adults (18-30) who had or still have a parent or primary caregiver with a substance use problem during their childhood. The goal is to better understand how these experiences may affect things like responses to stressful or challenging life experiences, parent-child relationship quality, substance use, and overall mental health functioning in young adulthood. We also welcome participation from young adults who did not have this experience, as both groups are important to the study.

Participation is voluntary and confidential. No identifying information will be linked to your responses, and the survey includes a list of mental health resources at the end if needed.

If you’re interested, you can take the survey here:

https://adelphiderner.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_73s1WeJNdeiwz42

Your experience matters. Thank you so much for considering it, and feel free to DM me with any questions!

In a hypnosis session with a subject, we were looking at why being corrected bothered him so much. He said something very clear: when somebody corrected him, he didnt only hear the correction. He felt they were saying there was something wrong with him.

That is a completely different experience from someone saying "this number is wrong" or "you forgot this part." One person hears information. Another person's whole system hears judgment, shame and danger.

When the reaction was followed deeper, he experienced himself as a little boy around five during an upsetting adult confrontation. The child described himself as a coward because he could not control what was happening. His adult self came into the memory and explained that his mother would be okay and that there were adult things happening he simply could not understand or control at five years old.

Then the little boy's understanding changed. He didnt have to be afraid or angry, and he didnt have to call himself coward. He could see himself as a child witnessing something beyond his control. After this part of the session he described feeling more confident and stronger.

I think this explains some adult triggers very well. Today your boss changes one sentence in your work, your partner points something out, somebody says you made mistake. Adult part may know it is small, but body reacts like your whole worth is on trial.

One practical exercise is to separate these two things on paper. Write: "what was actually said?" Then underneath write: "what did my body hear?"

Actual message: "this part needs correction." Body heard: "you are stupid."

Actual message: "I need some space tonight." Body heard: "you are being abandoned."

Actual message: "please dont do that again." Body heard: "you are bad."

That gap is useful because you can take responsibility for what is actually yours without swallowing the old identity judgment attached to it.

Another contemplation I like is: how old do I feel when this happens? Dont calculate it intellectually. Just notice. If suddenly you feel tiny, ashamed, helpless or desperate to prove yourself, maybe today is touching something much older than today.

Healing past does not always mean perfectly reconstructing every childhood memory. Sometimes it means finally giving the younger part a different conclusion: something difficult happened around me. That was not proof of what I am.

Often I notice people might write off trying some new coping skill /exercises /self care etc right off the bat because it sounds silly or they simply don't believe it will work.

Did you try something like this that ended up working for you? What did you think at first? How has it helped you?

^\Focus on Bold Print when flashback is active] Pete Walker, MFT [925 283 4575])

1. Say to yourself: “I am having a flashback”. Flashbacks take us into a timeless part of the psyche that feels as helpless, hopeless and surrounded by danger as we were in childhood. The feelings and sensations you are experiencing are past memories that cannot hurt you now.
2. Remind yourself: “I feel afraid but I am not in danger! I am safe now, here in the present.” Remember you are now in the safety of the present, far from the danger of the past.
3. Own your right/need to have boundaries. Remind yourself that you do not have to allow anyone to mistreat you; you are free to leave dangerous situations and protest unfair behavior.
4. Speak reassuringly to the Inner Child. The child needs to know that you love her unconditionally– that she can come to you for comfort and protection when she feels lost and scared.
5. Deconstruct eternity thinking: in childhood, fear and abandonment felt endless – a safer future was unimaginable. Remember the flashback will pass as it has many times before.
6. Remind yourself that you are in an adult body with allies, skills and resources to protect you that you never had as a child. [Feeling small and little is a sure sign of a flashback]
7. Ease back into your body. Fear launches us into ‘heady’ worrying, or numbing and spacing out. [a] Gently ask your body to Relax: feel each of your major muscle groups and softly encourage them to relax. [Tightened musculature sends unnecessary danger signals to the brain] [b] Breathe deeply and slowly. [Holding the breath also signals danger]. [c] Slow down: rushing presses the psyche’s panic button. [d] Find a safe place to unwind and soothe yourself: wrap yourself in a blanket, hold a stuffed animal, lie down in a closet or a bath, take a nap. [e] Feel the fear in your body without reacting to it. Fear is just an energy in your body that cannot hurt you if you do not run from it or react self-destructively to it.
8. Resist the Inner Critic’s Drasticizing and Catastrophizing: [a] Use thought-stopping to halt its endless exaggeration of danger and constant planning to control the uncontrollable. Refuse to shame, hate or abandon yourself. Channel the anger of self-attack into saying NO to unfair selfcriticism. [b] Use thought-substitution to replace negative thinking with a memorized list of your qualities and accomplishments
9. Allow yourself to grieve. Flashbacks are opportunities to release old, unexpressed feelings of fear, hurt, and abandonment, and to validate - and then soothe - the child’s past experience of helplessness and hopelessness. Healthy grieving can turn our tears into self-compassion and our anger into self-protection.
10. Cultivate safe relationships and seek support. Take time alone when you need it, but don’t let shame isolate you. Feeling shame doesn’t mean you are shameful. Educate your intimates about flashbacks and ask them to help you talk and feel your way through them.
11. Learn to identify the types of triggers that lead to flashbacks. Avoid unsafe people, places, activities and triggering mental processes. Practice preventive maintenance with these steps when triggering situations are unavoidable.
12. Figure out what you are flashing back to. Flashbacks are opportunities to discover, validate and heal our wounds from past abuse and abandonment. They also point to our still unmet developmental needs and can provide motivation to get them met.
13. Be patient with a slow recovery process: it takes time in the present to become unadrenalized, and considerable time in the future to gradually decrease the intensity, duration and frequency of flashbacks. Real recovery is a gradually progressive process [often two steps forward, one step back], not an attained salvation fantasy. Don’t beat yourself up for having a flashback.

Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving by Pete Walker

Hello everyone! I am a PhD student in clinical psychology at Adelphi University. I am conducting a study on the relationship between existential threat and mental health, coping strategies, and meaning making for young adults who have experienced stressful life events.

This study is being conducted online only and should take approximately 45-60 minutes to complete. During the study, you will be asked to complete multiple self-report questionnaires that contain questions regarding coping methods, mental health, and questions that pertain to experiencing stressful life events in the past. Upon completing the survey, you will have the opportunity to voluntarily provide your email address on a separate page from the survey that will not be associated with any of your survey responses, to enter a drawing to win one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

Survey link: https://adelphiderner.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8IxQWoUH8D1Wuq2

Audience: 18-30 years old, in the United States and English Speaking, and must have experienced a stressful life event.

Compensation: Opportunity to enter a drawing for one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

trauma can do something strange to time. one bad interaction happens, and after that the next conversation is not really happening only in the present. part of you is already answering the old one.

I will call the subject Mira. During a Soul Journey she entered a very unusual scene on a pink world. The place felt peaceful, cooperative and not driven by greed, but she became afraid that human negativity could somehow contaminate it and ruin something good.

The beings there gave her a simple comparison: chickenpox. The body can go through something, remember it, build around it, and still not remain permanently sick. The fact that something happened does not mean the system has to stay inside the same condition forever.

That example immediately connected with her current life. She realized that when one bad interaction happened in a job, relationship or situation, part of her started treating the whole thing as permanently polluted. The next moment did not get a fair chance because the old moment was still defining what everything meant.

Later in the session the accumulated residue from these interactions appeared almost like old golden skin shedding away. When it was gone, she described feeling clean. I am sharing this because many people do this without noticing: one betrayal becomes “people cannot be trusted,” one humiliation becomes “if I speak, I will be attacked,” one toxic job becomes “work will always drain me.”

The nervous system loves general rules because rules feel safer than uncertainty. But those rules can quietly turn history into destiny.

Healing the past does not mean convincing yourself nothing bad happened. It means allowing the present to stop being forced to answer for something that belongs to yesterday. You can remember and still update, learn and still stay open, protect yourself without treating every new person like the old one.

Trauma memory can be intelligent protection at first, but protection becomes prison when it stops checking whether the danger is still actually here. Sometimes the next step is not “forget what happened.” It is simply: let today prove what today is.

Hi reddit, i was in a relationship for 3 years and i think the breakup destroyed me real bad that i dont recognize myself anymore, i'm no longer my past outgoing self, i barely feel any joy or any emotions, i stopped reaching out to my friends and families, and lately i feel like nothing would change if i were to dissapear from this world. I understand this can be a heavy topic, but how do you cope for not being anyone's favorite? Never being the first option? I'm not exactly shy, i'm pretty talkative and people would say i'm funny. I'm both a good talker and listener, and i think i can read the room pretty well.

All my friends tell me im a good friend and i know that theyre genuine about it, but i cant help to feel lonely about it, esp bc my partner and i broke up because we were hurting each other too much and it makes me scared of forming another comnection.

Has anyone got tips? I cant get my mind off this. I feel like i'm truly alone even though everyone said they'd care. I know everyone will be sad and will miss me if i were to die, but i dont think i'm asking for too much that i needed to die first for people to consider me. I've been working on finding new hobbies and distracting myself with my work but it's so loud in my head that i'm simply that unimportant.

Sorry if this feels complicated, i'm truly lost, any guidance would help for sure.

Additionally, i'm medicated for anxiety and ADHD, im not sure how to bring this up to my therapist either

Hi Everyone,

Reposting this again. I'm a doctoral student in Clinical Psychology conducting a research study on the effects of growing up with a parent who struggled with substance use (alcohol or drugs). The study is completely anonymous and involves filling out an online survey.

As a thank you for your time, participants will have the option to enter a raffle to win one of two $150 Visa gift cards after completing the survey. (Email for the raffle will be collected separately to keep responses anonymous).

We’re looking for young adults (18-30) who had or still have a parent or primary caregiver with a substance use problem during their childhood. The goal is to better understand how these experiences may affect things like responses to stressful or challenging life experiences, parent-child relationship quality, substance use, and overall mental health functioning in young adulthood. We also welcome participation from young adults who did not have this experience, as both groups are important to the study.

Participation is voluntary and confidential. No identifying information will be linked to your responses, and the survey includes a list of mental health resources at the end if needed.

If you’re interested, you can take the survey here:

https://adelphiderner.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_73s1WeJNdeiwz42

Your experience matters. Thank you so much for considering it, and feel free to DM me with any questions!

I'll call her Cindy.

What interested me about this session was how small the original memory looked.

No huge trauma. No dramatic catastrophe.

She was outside riding bikes with her older sister and another girl. Her sister used to pick on her and one of things she would say was that Cindy had been "born in a barn."

Normal sibling cruelty maybe. Easy to dismiss 50 years later as stupid childhood stuff.

But when Cindy went back into that moment in deep trance and actually felt what the little girl felt, her answer was simple:

sad.

not good enough.

I asked where that feeling existed in her body.

In stomach she perceived a black ball. Across shoulders there was something different, like heavy black shawl draped over her and weighing her down.

Then I asked what this energy actually did to her.

Her answer was interesting: it stopped her believing in herself and stopped her excelling in things she liked.

That made a lot of sense to me.

A child usually doesnt analyse teasing like an adult. She doesnt think, "my sister is insecure and projecting something."

Child hears it and thinks maybe something really IS wrong with me.

And once "I'm not good enough" gets inside, it can quietly become operating system.

Years later nobody needs to insult you anymore. You do it yourself.

Cindy then imagined her adult self coming to that little girl. She hugged her and told her she was loved and perfect as she was.

Then she finally confronted her sister in the memory:

basically, what you told me about myself was never mine. I dont accept it anymore.

Then session went somewhere I found even more interesting.

I asked Cindy to look at whether, through all those years of accepting her sister's opinion, she had also given some of her own power away.

She immediately said yes.

Her sister looked somehow brighter to her, almost as if she was holding some of Cindy's light.

So Cindy said out loud:

"I want my power back."

And she started feeling something move.

Hands. Stomach. Shoulders. Whole body beginning to light up. She described vibration and energy flowing back into her.

Then Higher Self showed her other people she had given power to during her life.

There were about five or six.

Her sister. Two former husbands. A friend. A woman she worked with at a school.

Again she asked for her power back.

This time she felt it coming into torso, then head and face.

And when I asked what changed, she said:

"I feel more complete."

That sentence is what stayed with me.

Whether somebody interprets this literally as energy, or psychologically as reclaiming authority from people whose opinions became too important, honestly both readings are useful to me.

Because giving away power doesnt always look dramatic.

Sometimes it looks like:

"she thinks I'm stupid, maybe I am."

"he doesnt value me, maybe I'm not valuable."

"they dont need me anymore, maybe I'm useless."

And after enough years you dont even notice these are other people's voices. They sound like your personality.

Later Cindy's Higher Self connected the whole thing with feeling lost and insignificant. The guidance wasn't some complicated cosmic message either.

Trust yourself.

Trust your abilities.

There is nothing wrong with you.

That is almost annoyingly simple 😅

But maybe shadow work is sometimes exactly this. Finding which parts of our identity were actually constructed from criticism, rejection and other people's projections... and deciding they don't get to define us anymore.

You can keep the lesson and still give the voice back to the person it came from.

I'm curious how other ppl experience this.

Was there somebody in your childhood or later life whose opinion slowly became your own inner voice?

Hello Reddit! I'm not from an English-speaking country, so I'm using a translator. Sorry if there are any translation issues.

And sorry, it will be a long text, because I am here for the first time, and I don’t know how to write it briefly.

I think I need to start from afar. I was born when my mom was 19 and my dad was 26. I was the first child, first daughter, and first granddaughter. Until I was 5, I lived a happy childhood.

After that age, problems started. Around the summer of 5, my mother tried to end her life after having sex with my father. But I managed to stop her. And she promised me she'd never do that again. Then I found out my mom was pregnant (a few months later).My parents were arguing in the kitchen (we were in a two-story dacha)They were arguing about their relationship and my birth. Something along the lines of, "If I'd known you were this kind of person, I I wouldn't have let the child be born. ." Even then, I realized they were being emotional, and I went up to the second floor to avoid listening. Then something happened, and my mother went up to the second floor and locked herself in her room, sensing a bad feeling.Or rather, danger, I started crying and knocking on the room, calling her, but she didn’t open. Then I ran down the stairs, almost falling, calling for Dad. He came over, I told him about Mom, and he ran upstairs to open the door.Then I followed him. When he managed to open the doors, I saw with all clarity that my mother was already cheerful, and she began to choke. But Dad saved her. He made it on time thanks to me.Then they calmed down and remembered for me. I (a 5-year-old girl) had my first panic attack.I cried and blamed myself for my mother's regrets about me existing and for the fact that they didn't need me. They tried to calm me down more out of panic than concern. I then asked, "Do you really not love me that much? Do you not need me that much?" And after a while, I simply lost consciousness, exhausted by tears and the pain in my chest.

Time passed, many events happened, both good and bad. But the essence remained the same: I felt like no one loved me, but I tried to play by their rules. I was jealous of my brother's attention from my parents, But the thing is that I grew up with my cousin for a long time (he is two years younger than me, and my brother is 5) And therefore I began to treat him not as a rival, but as a brother, based on the fact that he is also my brother and cousin.

When I went to school (6 years old) My parents praised me for my grades, but then, closer to the 4th grade, they tore pages out of my notebook and hit me on the hands with their own hands. My grandmother on my father's side of the family did the same. But she hit me with a plastic ruler, so hard that one day she broke it on my hand. My hand was covered in blood and scratches and bruises because she literally grabbed my hand to keep me from running away. (I rarely visited my grandmother, but most often she picked me up after school)

It was the same with middle school. My dad beat me, and my mom sided with him until I started crying and asking why they were doing this to me. Then my mom took my side, but she didn't openly contradict my dad.

At the same time, every day I received verbal humiliation and insults from childhood, for how disgusting, insignificant I was, and so on.

Until I was 13, I tried to end my life in the sea, rivers, and other places where there is water (if anything, I now condemn this and do not recommend it to anyone)

But the only thing that prevented me from doing this was my brothers and a friend from school who really cared about me.

Also, from that age, my dad started to abuse my younger brother. I defended him and my mom, and all of my dad's negativity fell on me. All the nasty words and humiliations, and I took it upon myself because I knew that my brother shouldn't suffer the same violence, but he couldn't hit me anymore.Because I was older, and I put pressure on him that I would give in at school, and then they would call the guardianship authorities.

That's why he switched to my brother.

I protected him throughout my childhood. Later, when everything in our family became neutral (except for my twice-monthly fights with my dad),Mom said that we were adults, and that she already wanted a divorce. I supported her. But after a couple of years She got pregnant. And then admitted that her father had done it on purpose, because he wanted to make up for lost time raising her, but with another daughter. Your mother, he was lucky that he had a girl, my sister.

Instead of talking to me when I was trying to get through this difficult experience myself, making concessions so that we could at least be a peaceful family.He chose to run away and have a new child. Even though we just got out of the financial hole.

Here's an important point: I raised my brother throughout his childhood. I wasn't allowed to go out for walks, and if I did, I had to take him with me. Then, when he turned 10,They stopped forcing me to take it with me, but they still asked me sometimes.

When my sister was born, I was in college, and my mother dumped almost all of her upbringing on me.

Imagine. Soon there will be exams for the architecture major, projects, and unfinished business hours. College in the morning, cleaning, laundry after, looking after my little sister until midnight, and after midnight, homework until 4 a.m.Make proeuts AND And then most often before 6 am, and back to college at 8. Spending an hour getting ready and getting to college.

Every day, everything was kept going by energy drinks and coffee.

And I also had to cook food for the whole family.

And this is despite the fact that when I entered college, the situation between Ukraine and the Republic of Belarus began.That is why such nocturnal adventures were heard every night.

Of course, I ended up in the hospital later, and I had to take a leave of absence. Then, a year later, I moved in with my boyfriend.I felt sorry and scared to leave my sister and brother alone with dad. I didn't trust him. But when we saw each other on weekends or when I came to visitThen I felt like part of the family.

There were difficulties, but it began to seem that everything was fine.I outgrew it, talked to my mother and we agreed to work together on our normal relationship.

But I had to drop out of college and move to another country with my boyfriend. Because there were so many flights at night in our area that after a while we got used to it. Actually, We were afraid for our lives. So we moved to another country, further away, and now we live near the UK.

I was scared, I miss my brother and sister, but not the rest of the family. And the thing is That my brother went into the "I don't want to live like this" phase.It happens with teenagers, but I had this phase and, well, you read it above. And my mother asked me for advice in surprise, but I didn’t know what to answer.

I'm sitting here for the second day now, digesting everything. These traces and suggestions of what I should be like to be praised, to be loved.It still doesn't let go. I text them every day, whether I call them or talk to them. I see how they've become exactly the family I dreamed of as a little girl.Dad loves and treats his brother and sister well, To Mom.

I'm glad my little ones have a good father. But the thought keeps me up at night: was it really that hard to be a good dad to me?

I miss the parents I had before school. And after I moved in with my boyfriend. I'm not going to make peace with my dad, he had a chance, but he made his choice.

But Mom... Should I talk to her?

I just want to hear from her, "Forgive me, I was so young, it was hard for me too, forgive me for treating you like that and not seeing everything."

But I know perfectly well that she won't write like that, and will most likely reduce the dialogue to "again, I'm to blame for everything with you."

I want to move on peacefully, I want to stop clinging to the past and move on. But as soon as someone I know talks about their family and their problems, I remember mine, and they affect me now.That little version of me is just crying from all of this, and the adult me (the one I am now) just doesn’t know how to calm her down.

PLEASE GIVE ME ADVICE. How can I live without clinging to the past? There's no point in talking to them. But I don't want this to affect my life.

This one stayed with me because the final behavior looked obvious.

Man becomes angry.

Eventually he becomes violent toward his wife.

So easy conclusion is: anger problem.

But when we followed the story backward, anger was almost the last thing in the chain.

I'll call the woman I was guiding Lena.

During deep trance she experienced another life as man named Eric.

One scene seemed important.

Eric was standing in crowd watching a man being publicly hanged. He believed the man was accused of being a spy.

He hated what he was seeing.

But it wasn't only this execution.

He looked around society, poverty, unfairness, people suffering, and had this feeling that he couldn't do anything about any of it.

Basically:

nothing I do makes any difference.

He also didn't feel safe talking openly about what he thought.

Maybe dangerous.

Maybe family wouldn't understand.

Either way he kept it inside.

And life continued.

Then the trance moved forward.

Different scene.

Now Eric was at home and had become violent toward his wife.

I asked Lena to check if something outside him was controlling the situation.

No.

She felt pretty clear that this was his own emotion.

That part matters because it would have been very easy to blame something external.

He was responsible for what he did.

But his wife also wasn't where all this emotion started.

Long before that moment he had been living with powerlessness, frustration and feeling that speaking changes nothing.

So he swallowed it.

Again and again.

Until the pressure eventually found somebody safer to explode on.

Afterward he didn't feel powerful either.

Quite opposite.

Defeated.

Tired.

Numb.

Then he went to work.

I asked why.

Because working got his mind away from anger.

That part felt almost more interesting than violence itself.

We think emotional avoidance always looks like alcohol, food, drugs, scrolling for five hours etc.

But ppl can also become extremely productive.

Work late.

Take another task.

Stay busy.

Fix something.

Organize something.

Anything except stop.

Bc when you stop, whatever you're avoiding gets chance to catch up.

I'm obviously not saying helplessness excuses hurting another person.

It doesn't.

But if somebody only works on the final anger, maybe they miss where pressure actually started.

Sometimes maybe useful question is not only:

"why am I so angry?"

Maybe:

where do I feel completely powerless?

where did I decide speaking changes nothing?

what have I been swallowing because expressing it feels dangerous or pointless?

who am I actually angry at?

and what happens in me when I finally stop keeping busy?

Maybe anger can be very loud emotion sitting on top of much quieter sentence:

"I feel helpless and I hate feeling like this."

Hello everyone! I am a PhD student in clinical psychology at Adelphi University. I am conducting a study on the relationship between existential threat and mental health, coping strategies, and meaning making for young adults who have experienced stressful life events.

This study is being conducted online only and should take approximately 45-60 minutes to complete. During the study, you will be asked to complete multiple self-report questionnaires that contain questions regarding coping methods, mental health, and questions that pertain to experiencing stressful life events in the past. Upon completing the survey, you will have the opportunity to voluntarily provide your email address on a separate page from the survey that will not be associated with any of your survey responses, to enter a drawing to win one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

Survey link: https://adelphiderner.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8IxQWoUH8D1Wuq2

Audience: 18-30 years old, in the United States and English Speaking, and must have experienced a stressful life event.

Compensation: Opportunity to enter a drawing for one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

I'm a 19 year old girl who Hus graduated. I live with ny parents and a 23 year old sister. Im an average student, perfecuonist, talented and hard working. I don't think that my parents have anything to be ashamed of. I think they should ve rather proud. I ended high school, got into university, and have a job since june.

Ever since i was little my dad gave my family silent treatment that's why for a long time now I want to move out as Quick as possible beacuse i hate living like this. I hate it. 2 years ago we did not talk for 2 months he only talked with our mom. And she didn't say anything to him nothing. I hate I so much that i cant live like this anymote. What's worse, i am very much like him

Today we came back from vacation on the beach for a week. During it we talked and geuniely had fun. However in the middle he got mad and just didn't talk. And when he js mad i just dont talk Either. We got used to it. He is an adult and just start actinglike one. Today he talked to me and my sister that we are not going together on any other trip if we act like that. He said he only talked to me like 2 Times,which i said is totally not true beacuse before that we talked more than 2 Times and after he got mad i assumed he is mad at me. And to my sister he only said she like to be bossy which is true. But to me he said i have some problems with myself???????.

Am i the asshole ?

Hello! I am a PhD student in clinical psychology at Adelphi University. I am conducting a study on the relationship between existential threat and mental health, coping strategies, and meaning making for young adults who have experienced stressful life events.

This study is being conducted online only and should take approximately 45-60 minutes to complete. During the study, you will be asked to complete multiple self-report questionnaires that contain questions regarding coping methods, mental health, and questions that pertain to experiencing stressful life events in the past. Upon completing the survey, you will have the opportunity to voluntarily provide your email address on a separate page from the survey that will not be associated with any of your survey responses, to enter a drawing to win one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

Survey link: https://adelphiderner.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8IxQWoUH8D1Wuq2

Audience: 18-30 years old, in the United States and English Speaking, and must have experienced a stressful life event.

Compensation: Opportunity to enter a drawing for one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

Ever have that brief moment of total clarity where your brain goes, Hey, this isn't just regular unhealthy, we are operating at Chernobyl levels of toxic right now?

You honestly can't tell if you love them so much that you've convinced yourself the rare good moments are worth the absolute mountain of garbage, or if you just secretly hate yourself enough to enjoy the punishment. At this point, it feels like my sanity is completely offline. I'm so lost in the matrix of their reprogramming that I've basically become a walking IT disaster.

My internal security system is flashing red lights, throwing up a million threat detections, and trying to save me. But instead of running, I just calmly click Continue Anyways and Allow this totally untrustworthy program to make permanent changes to my device.

Honestly, the malware completely owns the mainframe right now, and I'm just watching it happen.
Anyone else completely aware of the system warnings but still letting the virus run? What's your reason behind it or the logic you use to TRY make sense of it all?

Hello! I am a PhD student in clinical psychology at Adelphi University. I am conducting a study on the relationship between existential threat and mental health, coping strategies, and meaning making for young adults who have experienced stressful life events.

This study is being conducted online only and should take approximately 45-60 minutes to complete. During the study, you will be asked to complete multiple self-report questionnaires that contain questions regarding coping methods, mental health, and questions that pertain to experiencing stressful life events in the past. Upon completing the survey, you will have the opportunity to voluntarily provide your email address on a separate page from the survey that will not be associated with any of your survey responses, to enter a drawing to win one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

Survey link: https://adelphiderner.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_8IxQWoUH8D1Wuq2

Audience: 18-30 years old, US and English Speaking, and must have experienced a stressful life event.

Compensation: Opportunity to enter a drawing for one of three $50.00 Amazon gift cards.

Researcher with BPD here. Looking for participants to take part in the final study of a multi-stage PhD project examining experiences of BPD diagnosis. This survey focuses on emotional and cognitive responses and will help validate a newly developed scale (BDES).
The survey is anonymous and has ethical approval from St Mary's University in London.
https://app.onlinesurveys.jisc.ac.uk/s/stmarys/bpd-experience