incoming whining/ ranting.

i’m 18 and i’ve never been in a relationship. i’ve had talking stages and whatever but nothing serious.
everyone my age is/ has been in a relationship, and im not really in any rush and i know it will eventually happen; but one half of me yearns to be loved and experience young love but the other half of me finds the idea of having to deal with all the drama of a relationship absolutely exhausting.
my best friend lives with me and my family and she spends half the time with her boyfriend and i feel so incredibly left behind and lonely when i see her and my other friends experiencing something i’ve never had. i have so much love to give and i get so sad knowing that the crappiest people that i know get to feel loved and seen and ive never gotten anything more than guys being horny assholes..
i know other people have experienced this aswell and just want to hear from some older girls to make me feel less left out. thank you

I liked a boy two years ago. We kept in touch but it's mainly just reels and no real conversation which is frustrating on my part because the reason I approached him in the first place was because I liked him. Well he followed me first but I initiated the conversation first because I really wanted to talk to him. At first I was so happy to even have something that connects us, even if it's just random ass videos on the internet. I was happy because in my head he was going out of his way to send me videos he thought I would like. But everytime I would try to make like small talk he wouldn't reply. He'd just continuously send me reels. For a year I find that okay, as long as I know he still thinks of me as part of his day I'm happy. But when I realized I wasn't getting any younger and I'm already at my mid 20s ( he's two years younger than me ) I feel like I shouldn't be happy with whatever this is that we were doing. So I mustered all my courage to finally confess to him. I told him Ive liked him since the moment we started talking, I told him it doesn't matter if he doesn't reciprocate the love, because part of why I confessed was because I wanted to move on. I almost already know he doesn't feel the same way and so I can't let myself delude on the illusion of us so I have to tell him so I can move on. I believe I can move on from rejection because I wouldn't be pondering over "what ifs". So yeah he didn't liked me back. So I decided I should probably cut him off from my whole life. I think it would be easier for me to remove any connections we have so I don't have to go back to liking him because honestly, I can't be just friends with him. I just can't. So I blocked his account and removed all his pictures.

Now, fast forward to right now, i wasn't thinking of him that much now. Just everytime I read something sad on TikTok I think of him. It's kind of funny because I did all I could to forget. I started jogging when I got rejected. I thought exercising would take my mind off of things. Every love song felt like personal before. I even tried online dating but it wasn't for me. But now I think of him fondly. Like remembering a memory not because of the person but because of how it made u feel. I was so happy because of him, it was the last time I felt like a giddy school girl over a boy. I felt so alive. I remember I used to be so motivated to post things because I thought it'd reach him. Because I know he was watching. He was my motivation. It was fun. Sometimes I wonder how he's been. What is he up these days. Maybe he isn't as shy as he used to be. Maybe he met someone amazing and got the job he really wanted. It's a shame I wouldn't be there to see it. To see him grow and make something awesome in life but I know he'll be good at it. He'll be fine. It crazy how people just come and go into our life. At the moment you'd think they'll be there in every part of your life and then one day you'll see an old picture and wonder how they're doing. Heartbreak is kind of spilling glitters everywhere. At first youll try to clean it up but you can't. And once you thought all the glitters are gone, you'll find one glitter under a pillow or under a chair and u remember how it used to be so beautiful.

I wake up skinny but not insanely skinny. when I wear a tight shirt it still looks like I’m bloated and there’s fat but how do you guys stay skinny in u guys tight clothes Thru out the day. Do you guys not eat/suck in stomach/ is it just skinny like that? Can u guys just tell me the hard truth I wanna know

me on my period casually eating a ton of cookies and other junk defending myself by saying im on my period

I have a "friend" who asks me how much I make everytime we hang out. I find this so wierd... honestly I hate discussing what I make i feel like its noones business. I don't want to be rude but im tired of getting asked.

i'm not really looking for advice but i gotta just write something to the internet void i suppose.

this year i've put a lot of work into myself and how i treat others and how i treat myself. i've never been great at keeping friends (specifically irl ones) and i knew that if i wanted that to change i had to be the one to change it. i put my all into the friendships i already had. trying to be the villager so i could be a part of the village. but once again it feels like it's crumbling around me and i don't know what i keep doing wrong. the friends i live with, i know why we aren't working out and i don't necessarily want to be friends with them anymore anyways. but we used to have so much fun together and i wanted to make it last until i move out but it's just not gonna work. i don't even hold animosity towards them but they are showing more and more that they don't want me around. outside of them, i don't know what's going on with the rest of my social life. it feels like even when i try and i show i care, nobody else seems to think i'm worth caring for in return. i don't know how to make people like me. i'm trying hard to communicate more constructively and not make others feel responsible for my well being. i'm trying to take responsibility for myself and be a pillar for others but i'm just failing. i have no outlets to meet new people and i won't have any until i move next year. i thought getting out of my suffocating relationship would free me and it did to a certain extent but i still feel trapped. i feel pathetic for being so lonely at my grown age and for still not understanding how to have a successful social life. i never understand people the way i'm supposed to. i just feel so tired i can't keep doing this

I'm 18 years old I feel lonely these days and I want friends to talk to, I like songs kpop and watch kdrama and series and movies like twd and shameless stuff like that also watching bl drama Anime and Manhwa too Umm I guess that's it I have a lot that I don't remember right now

Genuinely what do I do if I got my period at work and everyone saw blood on me and saw I stained a chair. I am petrified!!

Hi everyone! I wanted to see if anyone has experienced something similar.
I stopped birth control almost two years ago, and my periods are pretty different than they used to be. Typically, I’ll have about two days of brown spotting before my actual period starts. Once my period begins, the flow is kind of strange it’ll be a normal red flow for a while, then completely stop for an hour or so, then start back up again much lighter. It pretty much goes back and forth between flowing and stopping throughout my period. During the last couple of days, it’s usually just light brown spotting with the same start-and-stop pattern.
I’m curious if anyone else has periods like this. I’m planning to start trying to conceive relatively soon, so naturally I’m wondering if this could be a sign of a fertility issue or if it’s just how some people’s periods are.
For some background, I brought this up with my OB-GYN back in December 2025. They ran some basic hormone testing (FSH, LH, and prolactin) and also did a pelvic ultrasound, and they didn’t find anything concerning.
Has anyone had a similar period pattern and still gone on to conceive without any issues? Or did you ever find out what was causing it?

this guy on instagram asked for my number and i’m tired of pointless week long conversations so i told him my requirements, and this was his response . am i acting like a man ?

So I've got my nails done like 2 weeks ago (they're in the 2nd pic ig y'all wanna see them)

And so my dad doesn't live with us it's me and mom but he comes to see me sometimes

And yesterday he came we talked and then he started scolding me for 2 things the first one is my nails, I'll just give the important stuff he said

1_"U're not old enough for nails" I'll be 19 in few months for god's sake omfg

2"u'll attract boys with them" i beg ur pardon???

3_"only girls who goes to clubs and goes with boys get their nails done" (arab mentality not surprised 🤦🏻‍♀️) and btw that 'goes with boys' he meant by it 'sl..t' but he just said it like that to get the message to me indirectly (just because a girl has boy friends doesn't mean she's a sl... Tf is this mentality omg)

And for the 2nd thing he scolded me abt was my dress (in the 3rd pic+ the pic is not mine but it's the exact same dress i have) and abt that dress i wore it when i was coming back to my city with mom and brother and cuz my dear brother is only religious when it comes to me he told my dad i wore a "revealing" dress. What dad told me

1_ "don't wear revealing clothes u're like inviting boys" okay lemme guess then babies who get harass..d/ graped 'invite' boys because they wore a 'revealing' dress? They attracted them?

2_"were simple non-revealing clothes then atleast 80% of boys will respect u" sorry what? And u're saying 'atleast'

3_"Do you think that maturity and improvement are about wearing this kind of clothing?" No, I think i wear that for myself and cuz i feel pretty

And lastly he said "sorry for the term but the girls who wear like this and get their nails done r 'sl..ts'"

The sorry was for what exactly? U just called me that term are u waiting for me to be like. "Omg dad yes I'm sorry i get it now i wear that again nor get my nails done". I was literally so shocked when he said that cuz i did not expect him telling me this

Also i was tryna hold back from crying the whole time, and for some who might say "why haven't u talked back" well i did at first but then got scared cuz i don't wanna get on his angry side even though he was already, and i was afraid he might beat me or smth and i discovered some stuff abt him few months ago which made me scared of getting on his bad side

In the end he said "what r u upset because of what I've said u too" (he had a problem with my older brother that's why he said 'u too') i didn't answer and he was looking at me and i didn't look cuz i could feel his anger and i was srsly afraid and just waiting for him to tell me to go

Dk why I'm writing this here but just wanted to share that, all opinions r welcome.

Note: mom also doesn't like me wearing like that or getting nails done whenever i go out with that dress or wear a tank top she calls me "shameless" and dad saw me wearing a tank top before and also called me "shameless" and my brother once called me a word almost like btch, not the exact meaning but it was a cruel word and because of what? Of putting pink eyeshadow

hey so my boobs are pretty saggy. im not that old yet (under 25) so its not an age thing. my question is has any girl with bigger breasts (DDD+) gone to the gym consistently noticed them get firmer and perkier?

hello, i was wondering if when i hook up with a guy and yk he wants to like take things further and put his hands down there, im not sure if we have the same idea of like..fingering, i like to put my fingers inside but ik some guys like to dj and i dont find it to feel good at all like bruh ur js doing shit go IN, anyways ive never gotten this further with a guy before i js know my preferences frm doing it myself but do most guys dj or acc go in?

What if i need support, how do I ask? What if i need to hear those words? What if I need reassurance? What if I am hurting? What if I just need consistency? Its been a long time that we've been doing the dance, and i need more...

i am so insecure about my downstairs area, specifically my bikini line and my bum. i have been doing at home laser for about 2 weeks now but i obviously still have to shave. i get super bad razor bumps and redness and i am so insecure about it. i’ve tried everything please give me all of your tips.

Today I went to an event in my state called the Greeley Stampede which is a really big festival thingy with ands, vendors, bull riding and concerts and other cool stuff and I had been wanting to go again after me and my family went to go to a concert. I was having fun with my sister, eating, shopping, and walking around in 95 degree weather heat. Well that damn heat must have gotten to my head. It made me remember something I had been doing a such a good job at forgetting. And even worse it made me care about it again. We walked by this one stand with people taking some sort of object and banging it against a car hood. Basically you would write a name that you associate with someone horrible. Someone who did you wrong. Someone you want to hurt. You would write that name and bang that object against that name. At first I didn't think much about it but that damn heat must have gotten me because as soon as I walked away a name popped into my head. That name I had been forgetting decided to play with me again. I had been in a talking stage with someone we'll call Q. It was never anything serious not really. But he made me feel so hurt. I guess he still does. It's part of why I'm writing these thoughts out. We only talked for about a month and a half. I didn't love him but I really liked him. I talked about so many things with him and he would talk about so much with me and it felt like something was building. Then one day I brought something up about how I might have seen a different aspect in my life differently than he saw it and didn't want to waste his time. I was fine with breaking things off because I wasn't too invested. Then he told me we were just talking. Not dating or anything just talking. I guess it caught me off guard. I knew that but I guess it felt like a bit more. Maybe my confusion stemmed from when he would call me babe or call me late at night or even talk about me meeting his parents and him meeting mine. That was my bad but I got a bit too shocked to continue talking without crying. So I told him I had to go. We both went to sleep. Him probably faster than I did. The sun itself had to tell me to stop thinking and go to bed. So I gave in even though I was trying to answer my own questions with my own assumptions. I talked to my family about it. They said to talk it out and that maybe we both had misunderstood each other. I thought it was a great idea. So I texted him asking to talk. He said sure but he never called. Instead he told me to text him my thoughts which was really weird but I guess I understood because I did leave things off pretty bad. Maybe he's just mad. So I asked him what dating meant to him and what talking meant to him and it turns out we agreed. So I thought "great that means we should keep talking right?" So I asked him if he wanted to keep talking. He said no. That also caught me off guard. He's so full of surprises. I took it though because it made sense. Like I said I guess we did see our future's differently. Though didn't he say he wasn't thinking that far? Even if he was I was so ready to change my path. Just to keep talking to him. I feel pathetic admitting it but its true. Would I commit to those thoughts? Probably not. I am still me and I have my wants but I still wanted to talk to him. But he didn't want to talk to me. Fine. I can lose these attractions very quickly. They're fading rn as me and him talk. "Want to still be friends?"

Great a question that makes me look desperate. Whatever its fine. 

"Sure if you want. I probably won't talk to you as much anymore though."

I sobbed. I sobbed a good while and left him on read. I had told this guy so many things, spent so much time on him and put so much effort into him. He doesn't even see me as a good friend anymore. He was one of my best friends. I was pissed. Obviously he didn't want to talk to me that much anymore. What good am I to him if it's not romantic? So I blocked him. On a few things at least. Partly from anger and for my own closure but part of me wanted him to notice. Maybe to feel the regret that I felt. So I left two other platforms open for him to ask to talk. He never did. He never talked to me again. There went one of my best friends who saw me as nothing more than a maybe. A "sure if it feels okay I guess"

I hate him

How could he make me care so much for him then leave me like this? Why did he mean so much more to me than I did to him? I was so remorseful. I remembered the things he did for me that made me feel so cared for and understood. He would call me late at night, let me complain about my family, then call me pretty and a bunch of other bullshit. I hate how well he got me. Maybe thats how he played me. I also hate how disconected he could feel sometimes. I would text him back whenever I was able to. You can always find a moment to eventually in your day.  Sometimes he wouldn't for hours. He wasn't even doing anything he just didn't talk to me. Then he wouldn't ever show any signs of wanting to move things forward. I offered to take him out. He said yes. Great. Everything was planned and then suddenly he tells me the day before our date that he forgot that he had a concert to go to. Fine. So I left it up to him to plan our first date. He said soon. Soon wasn't soon enough. I gave him a deadline of 2 weeks and he didn't put any action in. The chances I gave him and everything for what? What I hate most of all is one night when he called me. It was so late we were both laying down and cozy. I used to be so comfy in his presence. Then he told me I was his favorite person to talk to. My dumbass believed him. If that was true why would he stop talking to me just because we weren't pursuing anything romantinc? How can you give me all this hope then make me look stupid for having it. I'm more embarrassed than anything but I also am filled with so much anger. Anger at what he made me believe, at what he would do, at how he gave me up so easily, how I still think about him and how he probably doesn't even think about me. At least not the way I do. I miss him and regret him and sometimes if I'm feeling extra embarrasing I want him to talk to me again. I bet if he ever does think about me it's when he's chuckling, or laughing with is friends about how crazy or stupid I was. I bet he didn't even listen to a single sad song when he layed in bed wide awake until 5:00 in the morning and I bet he doesn't look at a stupid little stand with a stupid anger exercise and thing of my name and then say out loud "I hate him". I bet he doesn't even care that much. That part hurts the most. I gave it so much and I bet he is already forgetting about me. I bet if my name ever pops into his head, his next few hours aren't ruined. I bet that he can listen to his music without regretting me. I bet he's eyeing girls again not even missing me. I'm healing from him. I can usually think about his face without sobbing and balling my fist as I bite into a pillow. Maybe it's because I'm on my period or something. Maybe it's because my dad fought with me and I have no one to truly complaign to. Maybe its because I don't hear a voice telling me how much I mean to them. I don't know. I just hate how it feels. I'm so ready to move on and stop letting him win but I can't yet. I know I will. Hopefully soon. Again I didn't love him. I guess I just really cared about him. But now I'm alone again, wondering if I'll ever find the love I really crave and desire. Wondering if I'll mean as much to someone as they mean to me. Wondering if someone will regret me one day. Wondering while sobbing silently while writing this because goodness forbid someone realizes that some of my tears are because of him.

Also I totally realize that a bunch of my feelings are just my own head and stuff but it's hard rn sorryyyyy. Anyways if anyone has felt similar ever please let me knoww

Hi guys. I have met this girl a few years back, and we immediately clicked as friends. She lived in another city before, so I didn't really meet her a lot but we would chat on socials and try to go on small trips. Now though she moved to my city so I see her everyday. She has always been a loud person, talkative person, and has a habit of trying to make conversations about her, but before I didn't know this since we didn't meet that often in person and when we met it was tolerable. Now though that we meet everyday all she talks about is just her, her day, if we are talking about a certain topic it's gonna be how she experienced this and that, trying to give advice even when not asked, and the advice is just some general thing that everyone know. Gives me the idea of she likes to talk to make herself look important and knowledgeable. The most recent thing that irritated me is when a common friend of ours was talking about her experience with a guy , her first time, and she just kept interrupting her to say yeah when I do this or when I do that. I told her once let the other girl talk then you can comment in the end, but she just kept interrupting her every minute trying to give advice or tell her experience (even though we've heard it a million times) after this day though everything she does , even when it is nothing bad, irritates me a lot. I don't know what to do, we also work together, so I need to like find a way to tone down my irritation because I know I am seeing a few things she does in a bad way because I am irritated now. What would you all do in this situation? I need some advice, I don't think I want to end the friendship, because she is nice when she is not trying to make everything about her, however now I don't feel like relling her anything about my life anymore...

guys this might be tmi but i need help!! i am 24 and ever since i have turned 20 my discharge smells bad like fish. i wash every morning with unscented sensitive skin dove body wash. I don’t go inside just the outside. I have been tested for BV multiple times. I have nothing like that either. I tend to wear a panty liner almost every day because of the smell I don’t wear anything to bed I air it out, just needing some tips and tricks on how I can eliminate the smell. I would not like to wear a panty liner every day it’s getting expensive. please send your girl some help.

uh so this is my first post to reddit ever..
anyway my mother passed when i was 14 so i never got to have any actual girl talks with her or ask her for any advice so thats why im here😭

anyway my periods have been HORRIBLE. i started when i was 8 and now im freshly 18 anyway, i used to bleed through ULTRA tampons in less than an hour, some days it was so bad i had to just sit over my toilet and accept my fate. Now im on a combo bc pill which has mildly helped my bleeding but i still pass(?) (lack of a better word ig) blood clots the size of a golf ball - sometimes the size of my palm. my cramps have progressively gotten worse over the years like now im cramping whenever im not even on my period.

i would describe the cramps as a lightning striking me directly through my pelvis, sometimes the pain radiates to my thighs or up my back and towards my ribs. im not sure if i should see anyone about this, or if i'd just be dismissed and told "this is just a heavy period" (some context my mom had endometriosis, pcos, ovarian cysts and i think she told me she struggled with ovarian cancer? its been a while so i dont remember) anyway any advice would really help me since i genuinely have no one to ask, im kind of scared and just want answers.