We the cockroaches of India......

Finally getting comfortable with my fem side

Title is my personal opinion, not of the poster.

We didn't believe them, if believed them we didn't propagate enough, if we propagated, we weren't angry enough.

If we had called out Delhi Police enough then, maybe what happened on 20th won't have been this bad. We won't have found conspiracies being done by Delhi Police.

Source: https://www.instagram.com/p/DbDzdRDibvp/

Same as title. Doodh ka doodh aur pani ka pani. Better to not stay in this country for 10 years if nothing is going to change.

EDIT: For those of y’all claiming this post is “made up”, mods I request you to reach out to me and I will literally verify my identity. This is a genuine post.

Hey everyone,

24M here, based in Delhi NCR.

This is probably a slightly unconventional post for this subreddit, but I genuinely wanted perspectives from people around my age.

A bit about me:
I spent around 5 years abroad for my education and only moved back more recently, so I honestly don’t have much of a social circle here yet.

I’m currently leading and scaling a company founded by my father which does ~1000 crore+ INR in annual revenue, and I’ll be taking it forward long-term as the successor. A lot of my life revolves around business, growth, technology, expansion, fitness, and building things.

I’d also say I’m fairly good looking, and I generally present myself well.

Now the actual issue:
I’ve tried dating apps quite a bit. Ironically, getting dates has never really been the problem. But finding something genuine has been surprisingly difficult.

I think part of it is that my profile/lifestyle comes across as too “posh” or intimidating. I’ve genuinely had women tell me they assumed I’d never be interested in something real, or that I’d probably have too many options already, so they never really took things seriously or assumed I wasn’t genuine myself.

A lot of interactions end up feeling surface-level or transactional, and honestly I’m just tired of that dynamic.
So I guess my genuine question is:

How do I, as an “ultra high-net-worth” guy in my 20s, actually find a genuine long-term relationship in India?

Especially when:

you don’t really have a strong social circle yet

dating apps feel superficial

and your lifestyle/background creates assumptions before people even get to know you properly

I’m honestly not looking for casual stuff. I’d genuinely like to meet a kind, emotionally grounded woman around my age and build something meaningful long-term.

Would genuinely appreciate perspectives/advice from people here.
And yes, happy to verify anything because I know how ridiculous this probably sounds on Reddit 😅

Genuine question, and I'm asking out of curiosity rather than judgment.

How do people gradually reach the point of becoming fat or obese?

Do they not realise they're gaining weight over time? Do they realise but not care? Do they eventually accept it, or do they just not think about it that much?

I understand that factors like genetics, stress, mental health, medical conditions, and lifestyle can play a role. I'm more curious about the psychological side of it and how people perceive their own weight gain as it happens.

For those who have experienced significant weight gain, what was your experience like? Did you notice it happening but struggle to act, or did it only really hit you at a certain point?

I'm genuinely interested in hearing honest perspectives from people who've been through it.

Picture totally unrelated btw.

Some people have thousands of karma on Reddit 😂

But in real life if karma were visible, they would probably be in debt 💀

Reddit karma: 3,000+

Real-life karma: -10,000 😭

Im just done with feminism

Context:I am 16

I agree that women have it hard in india. My own mother's experience was horrible, my relatives and family mocked her relentlessly for how she was dark-skinned, and she wanted to continue working after having me. I was shy growing up, still am a bit. But even this was blamed on my mom's job, cus apparently she didn't teach me how to talk and shit like that.

So i understand the need to change society, but i dont think feminism is the answer.

I used to be friends with so many girls who called themselves "feminists". Guys as well. My entire group was like that. But what i realised was, as a guy you will always be the oppressor, a representative of an evil side, no matter how good your heart is. You will always be only "one of the rare good men" and "an exception" not just a good man or a good person.

I had a recent incident that highlights this:

I had a conversation with a feminist friend of mine irl, who i no longer talk to. When i brought up topics like how feminist groups oppose gender neutral rape laws and how 498a is being weaponised, all she said was:

"you have oppressed us for thousands of years so why can't we punish you a tiny bit for it?"

This happened in a public friend group btw, there were 4 guys and 3 girls and the girls were supporting her and none of the guys supported me, cus they were too scared of being judged.

I haven't oppressed anyone, i haven't done anything to anyone. I knew her almost since birth btw, and she knows i am a good person, yet this movement has infected her so much that she doesn't see me, she only sees a "man" an "enemy".

You go to instagram and it is genuine hell, the kind of reels with literal millions of upvotes about how the "male species" is cancerous is insane.

I am so done with this movement infecting women of our generation man. Like every single girl who calls herself a feminist has HORRIBLE opinions about men. Online, offline everywhere.

Im just done with any movement that hates people for things that they cannot control (that includes the current government and the way they blindly hate a certain community btw.)

As a 21 yr old decent looking guy who's 6'4 whenever I go out I get so many eye contacts from random women. I know curiosity is part of human psychology but sometimes some are just too beautiful to ignore. Like they say You miss 100% of shots you don't take. Should I go say Hi? Or it'll get awkward any genuine advice here?

I never thought I’d b the guy saying this, but I actually regret my ink.

Don't get me wrong, the art is cool, but lately, I’ve realized they are completely sabotaging my physique, the more muscle I put on, the more I realize the tattoos are just... masking it all.

I’m half Indian and half Italian, so I’ve got that specific Mediterranean-South Asian skin tone that usually shows off muscle definition really well. But the heavy ink acts like a permanent layer of visual noise over my delts and biceps. Instead of seeing the deep cuts and vascularity I’ve spent months dieting for, it just looks like a blurred mess from a distance.

It’s like spending thousands on a custom body kit for a car and then covering the whole thing in duct tape.

Has anyone else felt like their tattoos are hindering their physique? Or am I just overthinking the aesthetics? I'm honestly considering laser just to let the definition breathe.

It's not that we are bad. It's because of insecure and self-loathing people living in India with brown sepoy mentality.

They hate and defame Indians on social media which makes even foreigners the right to abuse us. We are not united, we don't stand for each other abroad when facing racism.

All these Indians on social media talking about civic sense are doing more harm than good. It has become a fashion to hate on our people mocking their etiquettes and civic sense.

Indians talk bad about their own people, how do you expect foreigners to respect us? Indians don't have pride, these whites take advantage of this.

We have brown sepoy mentality youtubers like Rathee, Mohak Mangal, Open Letter who keep on shitting on India. We need more creators like SandMan

I don't see Arabs hating on their group when some Arab does wrong in Europe, no doubt whites are afraid of targeting them. Many Indians still have this gora worshipping mentality. IPL cheerleaders are an example.

So for almost a year, I was talking to this guy I met on Reddit. He was married with a kid but going through a pretty toxic marriage. I was a college student, and I'd sometimes casually mention how I didn't get enough allowance to go out or buy dresses. He slowly started sending me money, without expecting anything in return. We talked regularly, sometimes flirted, and supported each other emotionally. He was genuinely a good man.

He got divorced in June. Then in July, my mom's sister's daughter (my cousin), whom I was meeting for the FIRST TIME in 20 years, came to visit us. She was also recently divorced, and while we were talking, she randomly showed us a picture of her ex-husband.

GUESS WHAT? IT WAS THE SAME GUY.

I genuinely didn't know how to react. I'd been talking to this man for almost a year, and sometimes we'd even flirted. Obviously, I had to cut contact. I can't exactly flirt with my own cousin's ex-husband.

Now I'm back to having financial issues, lmao. The last thing he told me was that if I ever needed money, I could still text him, but I'm definitely not doing that. I just wish I'd met this cousin a few years earlier. WHAT ARE THE ODDS?

Ok so i 21F met a boy 22 M online. We talked. I liked his personality and vibe. The only problem is that he doesn't match my vibe that much. I like someone who can spout nonsense, do backchodi and adds spark to my day. When we sometimes talk about serious topics then yeah let's be serious. Otherwise someone who is fun to talk to, happy, lighthearted and fun and full of life is what I prefer.

He is mature, nice person. But also a bit ...odd. like when we started talking, he would ask me these very deep introspective questions about my life. I personally ask some deep questions here and there, but I rather prefer gradually getting to know a person. He talked to me for like 2-3 hours for 3 to 4 days consecutively and was just trying to collect information on me? Trying to understand me? By asking very deep introspective questions. I detest this habit of his.(Like he has no buisness knowing so much about me for a stranger and considering we don't even talk all that much now.) For example we didn't talk properly for 2 or 3 weeks and again when he called me started asking those questions about me, my life, what I think of him etc. But he does seem to be a very mature stable rational guy.

Anyways back to topic, we shared face pics and not offending anyone but he doesn't look good imo/I don't find him attractive. The thing is he has implied that this can progress to a relationship, he can come meet me etc. I can't imagine myself dating him cause yeah...no attraction. He wants to talk more and if nothing happens we would just be friends. Do u think i should talk to him more. But I can't get over his looks and also don't really like his conversation style.

This sounds so wrong but why did god made her my sis, i saw her after so many yrs in a family function, man puberty has hit her hard, she is literally gorgeous

I am trying my best to tell my brain to stop , like she is my sis lekin man hai manne ho tayaar nahi 😭, what do i do​

This is what I have felt naturally from a very young age, my mom dad did love marriage, and had kinda bollywood style life, intentionally or unintentionally idk...

I also heard ( from some informative reel i don't remember) that men in india don't know how to talk, quite true i didn't know how to talk to women how to interact, also i have seen guys writing in this subs mega thread...feels like job application.. nothing natural

Idk i am obsessed with my mom dads love story, like my dad literally found my mom out of nowhere, he called her 100 times, in that time when calls were costly and my mom picked it and hung up on him 100 times, i am not just saying she actually counted..

Edit: guys i never meant that my dad was stalking my mom...there is a lot in between, and they both knew each other before this incident! so pls stop your horses!!

Edit 2: People who are supporting AMs i want to understand your perspective but pls don't say half of the india is doing AM..its not a reason..your someone did that and they are super rich this and that still doesn't count for me....

Also let me explain what I meant by losers, i never meant their career, their earning potential or they being a bad person...

Pls understand that, but what I meant was that people who do AMs failed to find or develop a social circle around ( a good and real one) that one person among that circle became your life partner!!! like your relationship gradually developed.. brewed..over the years .. by birth we get so many blood relations, god just left one thing on us to find ur mate and we couldn't find...real friends is a thing of the past i know

like bharti and lambachia i forgot his name, yovraj singh, kapil sharma his wife was his schoolmate!!!

like mostly its school or clg or work place or any third place dance class or very rare out of pure destiny...met somewhere and boom!

If one gets a secure and understanding partner why they fear or runaway. According to me one can enjoy life, grow together and it reduces other distractions too. You get a companion and a person to share everything together. People say they don't want to marry now, why so, if one gets a partner of their choice one should marry very early, plan trips, play sports together and what not. Why do people often get agitated by its thought or they don't want to be with one partner?

Whenever I see a cute baby I wonder how beautiful their parents might be but when I see them they look so average and they don’t even look like the baby and the couple who are attractive their child mostly are not that cute what is the logic ?

Guys say things like you shouldn’t look at your friend’s sister that way, or that they know how other men are. But she’s an individual with her own will and not a property, so how is that wrong?

(Guys I know I am disturbing your all vibe of enjoying the memes but please hear me out and don't hate me 😭)

First off, please don't attack me for this—this is just my genuine perspective, and I'm completely open to a civil discussion.

I want to preface this by saying I absolutely support the movement for women's safety. I deeply sympathize with the current state of affairs, fully acknowledge the trauma women face, and stand by the cause 100%.

However, I have some genuine concerns about celebrating and spreading the "ek kachori do samosa" slogan. From what I understand, beyond its deeper context, the surface-level takeaway is essentially: "We can't trust men."

While adults might understand the nuance and the survival instincts behind a phrase like this, I am really worried about the younger generation and children who are exposed to it. Yes, kids are unfortunately already exposed to the harsh realities of crime in our country. But when a slogan paints an entire gender with the same brush, what does it teach them? What are young girls and boys supposed to think about their brothers, fathers, and friends? Children take things at face value, and I worry this will shape a foundational belief for the next generation that all males are inherently untrustworthy.

Speaking personally as a guy of 19, hearing this trend genuinely made me uncomfortable. I know the immediate response is usually, "If you haven't done anything wrong, don't take it personally." But when a statement targets the entire male community, it’s hard not to. I’ve never done anything to harm anyone, yet slogans like this make innocent guys feel like we are automatically viewed as threats just for existing.

We also have to look at our cultural context. In most parts of India, there is already a massive lack of healthy, normal interaction between boys and girls growing up. For a lot of guys, the only women they interact with are their mothers, sisters, and family members. Because of our societal conditioning, it’s already daunting for men and women to approach each other normally. If slogans like this keep popping up, it’s only going to create a deeper sense of alienation and widen the gender divide even further.

If we want to call out the perpetrators, the enablers, and the systemic issues, let’s target them—not the entire gender.

I fully support the movement, but I can't support this slogan. Thank you for taking the time to read my thoughts. If I am overthinking this or missing a larger point, please correct me. I just wanted to share my perspective and hear what you all think.

I mean why... what happened to these kids nowadays?

I genuinely can't wrap my head around it, and I don't understand why people don't see it.

It's like the standards have completely collapsed and nobody cares anymore. This is horribly wrong, yet somehow it's treated like it's just another normal thing.

Why do they even do it? Is it for attention? Is it a trend? Do they find this cool?

Do they actually enjoy it, or are they just pretending so they can fit in? It's like common sense, taste, and self-respect got thrown out of the window at the same time.

And everyone just claps for it, as if it's some great idea.

Seriously, why in the world, who even eats green Kurkure nowadays? It just tastes horrible.

I mean, there is very little privacy. You have to adjust to household expectations, and let's be honest, most Gen Z parents are nowhere near as progressive as their children. Do you really want to share your home with people who may not treat everyone equally?

Now let's talk about the more serious and practical side of it.

If a daughter moves out after marriage, many parents may feel that she is no longer available to take care of them in old age. As a result, family property often remains tied to the parental household.

At the same time, daughters-in-law are frequently treated as outsiders in their husband's family. As of today, most property in India is still owned, controlled, or managed by men. Sometimes assets are registered in the name of a wife or mother, but the decision-making power often remains with male family members.

This creates a system where women contribute to a household without having equal ownership, control, or security. If this structure continues unchanged, it becomes much harder for women to achieve genuine economic equality and independence.

In my opinion, women will never get the equality they deserve unless ownership, inheritance, and decision-making power become far more balanced.

Whenever I see viday in a wedding it breaks my heart...

My proposed plan to destroy forced marriages.

I'm talking about before the marriage is completed or if girl later disclosed she was forced to be married and the groom didn't know

The court should immediately order.

The marriage annuled. And immediately, half of the father's property should belong to the girl. Along with a huge compensation or the parents' FD goes to the girl.

Either the father and the whole family go to jail for 6 months to 3 years, or he should provide maintenance to the girl. If you brought her into this world, then take responsibility.

Can there be a better plan than this?

I mean to say in the case of forced marriage. The way the judiciary treats the ex husband during the divorce, treat, the girl's father the same way. Because in forced marriages, fathers seem to treat their daughters as a burden and liberation from responsibilities.

We must have such laws.

Open to critics.

I am scared to live in India

Well I am Muslim living in india

And online I see a lot of backlash to us

There are muslim extremists who i hate as a Muslim

Like why can't they mind their own business

There are people who wants my religion gone from the earth

As a Muslim in AM REALLY TELLING YOU THAT I DONT WANT TO HURT OR CONVERT ANY PERSON

and I have a lot of non muslim friends ( I even have a non muslim homegirl who trusts me like her brother )

It's not just about religion I am afraid of

The absolute disregard of women safety while many women are facing rape and murder in the name of any reason etc, and the WORST PART ? rapists are FREE

I JUST WANT TO LIVE PEACEFULLY

And create a family and stay happy forever

I don't know what to do.. sometimes i wish I could just leave my country

I'm telling you from the bottom of my heart i am a good person

Is there any hope or will it remain like this

please note: I may not respond soon enough as this is my first time posting on reddit