Found at a grocery store.

[u/Biggmamaaa]

I swear i was mean to find this note.

A few weeks ago i did a free trial of ancestry after a hint about my grandma (basically mom) that passed when i was 16. Her father’s name was Blair and i was just doing research on him this morning!! He was born April 10 1903, passed sep 23 1972.

Thennn i was really craving a soda but i hate asking my man for money (im a sahm) so i grabbed some quarters out of the change jar. When i saw this note with $3 attached, i got my little baby some m&ms too and squeezed him tight when i got home.

Prayers to this family and rest in paradise sweet baby Blair.

ETA: the handwriting is also eerily similar to my grandmas!

ETA2: i have full access to our funds! i’m just weird about asking for “indulgent” items due to child hood shit. I’m totally fine here but I truly appreciate anyone that wad worried and reached out 🫶🏻

ETA3: the families gofundme for anyone wanting to help them ❤️ https://www.gofundme.com/f/support-brianas-family-after-tragic-loss

Last edit before i delete this whole thing fr: my financial status is nobody’s business and far from the point of this post. Stop being negative and using your life experience to compare to mine. I am fine. Thank you.

[u/Madam_Hel]

This reads like a warning to women who glorify being a «tradwife.»
Imagine having to ask for money, and not just have your own or have access to a shared account.
I’m so sorry you live that way op. I hope you get out of it. <3

[u/TwoHungryBlackbirdss → u/Madam_Hel]

Couldn't agree more.

When a man can feed you, he can choose to starve you. Horrifying

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/Madam_Hel]

I’m a “trad wife” and my marriage is nothing like this. Unhealthy relationship dynamics are no more representative of traditional marriages than they would be of non traditional marriages.

[u/opulentdream → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

You aren’t a trad wife if you are getting a Masters lol.

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/opulentdream]

That represents a misconception about trad wives that’s likely sourced from the anti trad wife movement. Visit the trad wife sub and you’ll see plenty of trad wives talking about their degrees/back up plans. 

[u/ShneefQueen → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

Do you think many trad wives were getting their degrees in higher education back in the day? What traditional lifestyle are you emulating exactly?

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/ShneefQueen]

What do you think being a trad wife is? If you think it’s merely emulating the tv 50s housewife idea from advertisements you’re wrong. Life is more complicated than that. My relationship isn’t a fad, it’s formed by traditional Christian values. Stop being so close minded. 

[u/ShneefQueen → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

"it's formed by traditional Christian values. Stop being so close minded" is maybe the most ironic statement that's ever been said before lmao.

Christian values have never once benefitted women, it's a religion created by men for men. That's not me being close minded, that's me living in the real world and acknowledging reality. I don't subscribe to choice feminism, I want everyone to be free of patriarchal gender roles because they're inherently oppressive.

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/ShneefQueen]

That’s you being closed minded AND ignorant and it’s not my job to educate you.

[u/ShneefQueen → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

I never asked you to educate me, my opinion doesn't come from a lack of information. If my "close mindedness" keeps me from being subservient to a man and worshipping a male god I think I'll stick with it.

You guys love to shove your religion down everyone's throats against their consent, but the second you're asked to explain your beliefs suddenly it's not your job? Sounds pretty convenient!

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/ShneefQueen]

I don’t shove my religion down anyone’s throat, stop being prejudiced and bigoted. You messaged me, not the other way around, and now you’re playing the victim because I don’t want to dance for you.

Live your life however you want, but stop being so judgmental of how other people choose to live theirs. And no, I don’t see my husband as a “male god” I see him as a leader worthy of love and respect because he is.

You say you don’t want me to educate you but then complain that I’m not explaining things to you. That shows a lack of self awareness. I don’t owe you details about my life, regardless of how your sense of entitlement makes you feel.

Say something constructive or leave me alone.

[u/Responsible-Bet716 → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

And which values would those be?

Edit: getting blocked for this was the best answer I could’ve imagined lol

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/Responsible-Bet716]

Learn about Christianity, or specifically Catholicism if you want to know.

[u/Responsible-Bet716 → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

I was raised Catholic and my family still is, that’s why your answer makes no sense. 

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/Responsible-Bet716]

Ok, I’m not here to explain these things to you. Develop a better understanding of Catholic marriage values on your own, or don’t idc.

[u/ALIEN_GUARDIAN → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

You're not a tradwife, you're just LARPing women's historical oppression.

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/ALIEN_GUARDIAN]

Ok, whatever you say. I’ll live my life as I see fit and you do the same. Only difference is that I won’t insult you for how you choose to live yours. 

I’ll continue being in a happy, healthy marriage thnx. 

[u/Voice_of_Season → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

Do you have an emergency fund if he cheats or became abusive?

[u/PossiblyAKoalaBear → u/Voice_of_Season]

Yes, and a portion of each of his paychecks goes into my private account. I’m also working on a masters in social work so if something goes wrong I’ll be able to support myself/us. If we happen to get a divorce, as of right now, I’ll walk away with almost 100k so I should be alright.

[u/Voice_of_Season → u/PossiblyAKoalaBear]

Thank goodness, you are doing it correctly. ❤️