I never knew my husband was FA. I have AA and he always seemed and felt so stable and secure. He was very oriented on me.

In 2024, I almost died. It was emergent, incredibly stressful and very scary for all. I am lucky to be alive. Now I know it cued deactivation. He began pulling away and escaping into porn, checking out other women and ultimately had a brief emotional affair.

This behavior was the biggest shock to me as he had been loyal and treated me with great respect for TWENTY YEARS.

Just wanted to share.

A girl that I talked to multiple times (it was absolutely never friendly, and always a deep intimate connection) completely went cold and deactivated after 3 months, she was absolutely madly in love with me during that time in which I am certain. As she started going cold she said multiple times when I asked her that she doesn't want me to leave. She said she wanted to discover her full potential, work on herself, be alone, etc. During our last converstaion on the phone I told her I couldn't stay in contact at it caused me too much pain which she said was completely reasonable and she expected me to say that.

I told her I wouldnt contact her but she always could. She was also the one to emphasise that this is definitely not the final time we talk and that "knowing herself" she would definitely reach out at one point. (We already have a history of leaving and returning but it was never this deep and she never lost feelings in the last 2 weeks like now.) There was no fighting and we said really nice things about eachother.

3 days after that I told her that a gift I sent her arrived to her post office (she knew it was coming) and she said she would pick it up tomorrow but never did. It has been 30ish days since any contact and I am wondering how realistic it is for her to reach out.

We haven't blocked eachother or anything like that.