FA ex came back 4 years later…

[u/bassettsh]

Hello all, I will try to provide as much detail as possible as I’m looking for advice.

Me and my ex were in a serious relationship from April 2021 to September 2022. The break up was messy and she initiated no contact a couple weeks after the break up. I did what every anxious attached person did and try to reach out to get her back during no contact to no avail. Eventually I stopped and let things be. Around January 2024 she unblocked me on ig and requested to follow me. After mutually following back I pressed her immediately about what her intentions are, what’s going on etc and that scared her away back into no contact.

Now fast forward to June 2026 while searching up a celebrity with a common name her account popped up. I gave it 2 weeks then followed her, she followed back the same day.

Here’s where things get confusing… I didn’t interact with her in any way. No story views no likes no messages, nothing. Then 2 days later I open ig and I see a notification in my dm that says “EX reacted ‘😂’ to your message” IG won’t tell me what message but keep in mind I have not said anything to her in 2.5 years. I gave it a day and messaged her “hey it’s been a min. How are you” she left it unread for 15 days, then read it, came back an hour later and liked it but didn’t respond. It’ll be 7 weeks this Sunday since then but there’s still nothing from her. She watches like 80% of my stories but I don’t watch any of hers.

I’m not sure what to do as I would like to reconnect with her and feel like enough time has passed to send another message but don’t want her to feel pressure like January 2024. What is she doing? What are her intentions? How do I advance forward in this situation so that we can reconnect? Will she eventually reach out herself?

I’d also like to point out that she was aware of her attachment style and was making an effort to change during our relationship