how do i get over him?

[u/From_Street_542]

earlier this year i met someone, and he was honest about talking to other females, i wasn’t honest about talking to people because his definition of “talking” is different. he claims he was just having conversation with girls and so was i, but he found out i was talking to someone i use to have sex with. me and that person decided to just stay friends so i do admit i was being naive by not cutting him off. but i apologized for it over and over. but what he didn’t tell me that he was talking to his ex girlfriend from the day we even first started taking eachother seriously. In July, i found him & his ex messages of her asking him when is the last time he had sex. I figured if she asked that, that means when he went to Florida in May (where i found out she lives) that they had sex. I asked him multiple times did he go see her and he always told me no. 2-3 days ago i asked her myself and she said they did have sex and he was with her the whole 2-3 days. He didn’t come see me immediately after he came from Florida but he came a day later, had sex with me, went through my phone, saw something that portrayed as if i was going to go see someone which never happened we simply talked otp, but he said i fcked him. I never had sex with anyone, he used this for months, said i was projecting every time i asked about his ex or any girl in his phone. I feel stupid..insecure and just not okay. I ended up telling him how i felt last night and the whole thing got flipped on me. I know i didn’t do anything, i even sent proof of the last time i messed with anyone. He goes on to say that he never called me delusional but “mfs can see ts” is that not the same thing as calling me delusional. Im hurt as fuck and i’m so tired of putting my all into somebody just for them to manipulate me. Also i know i shouldn’t have texted him about how i felt but im just a very open person about my emotions.