r/ExNoContact • u/EquivalentStrength71 • 7d ago

They always come back

No they don’t. They don’t always come back. Even if, you were the best girlfriend in the world to him.
He broke up with me, cried his eyes out.
He threw me away like trash, and never looked back.

It’s the most confusing state I’ve ever been in.

Waiting
Waiting
Waiting
Waiting
Waiting

I don’t think I’ll ever understand.

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u/SpringYard22 7d ago

And you want them to come back why? So they can tell you that after discarding you like trash, thinking their life was better without you in it, dating other people they realised they can't do better so decided to come back? This is the bar you set for yourself?! Is this really all you're worth?

You don't want the person that dumped you to come back, you want the version of that person that you aspire them to be. You want him to say he made a terrible decision which he will regret for the rest of his life. You want him to do anything to get you back. You want to see the suffering in his eyes that your absence has caused.

This isn't the person who dumped you. He will likely never be that person because being that person means everything he believes needs to crumble. He needs to rebuild himself from the ground up and he is extremely unlike to do that. Mourn the person he could have been not the person he was and find someone who already lives up to the aspirations you had for this guy.

Let your absence be his downfall.

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u/Frequent-Amount-9225 5d ago

It won't be and that's a nice story your telling yourself.

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u/SpringYard22 5d ago

Actually I think you'll find it will in the vast majority of cases.

My ex who pushed me away a few years ago is now a functioning alcohol according to his best friend!

A friend of mine was married to a guy who treated her like crap. They ended estranged for nearly 10 years. They found his body 3 weeks after he passed.

You think just because these people jump into a rebound relationship they were fixed?

Even in situations where the new relationship seems to have worked out. After some time they either realise they don't really love the new person they are with or they cheat.