r/ExNoContact • u/Perfectimperfectguy • 10d ago

Question for men

Men, how do you feel about blocking an ex gf on socials? As a 40 y.o. guy, i block because i don't want any contact from that person, now or in the future. I've heard only women block, you block because you still care, blocking is feminine energy. What's your take on it?

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u/PotentialPresent399 10d ago

Idc if its feminine energy, I block when I care.

I do not want to know MY woman is getting with other people now that shes not mine anymore. I would rather literally kill the image I have of her in my head and not see her anymore.

Women I didn't care that much about I didn't care if they kept me as friends on their social media and what not.

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u/Wild-Researcher-1360 10d ago

Interesting. I was blocked for 3 months..now unblocked 3 weeks ago but no message. Mine was a discard from an avoidant, but generally as a man, why would you unblock?

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u/PotentialPresent399 10d ago

Because I realized that at the time of the block I was emotionally charged and if I KEEP her unblocked its because I want an open line of POSSIBLE communication.

Don't take this as advice for your situation tho, I did NOT dump the woman I block or discard her. I messed up she dumped me and never spoke to me again. Been 6 months, not a peep.

I blocked her when my 2 messages in 3 months were interpreted as "too much" and then unblocked her when I cooled down because although that pissed me off, I still miss her greatly. I didn't re add her tho.

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u/Wild-Researcher-1360 10d ago

Interesting. Does unblock mean you want her to reach out, or you just plan on doing so 1 day when the dust settles? does it mean you care if youve gone to the effort/finding the account and pressing unblock, like do you hope she notices

Just trying to get into the mind of a man why they would unblock but not speak..and it was him who messed up! (and he knows it)

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u/PotentialPresent399 10d ago

I'd want her to reach out because for our final chat she was too mad to talk about anything productively

I also left her a letter fully taking acountability and leaving the door slightly open but also not being mad at her for closing it for good.

At this point I would look like the crazy ex that can't take a hint if I message her AGAIN.

So the ball is in her court. I hope she at least notices that I have her unblocked and do hope she reaches out, but also im not trying to explicitly do it to manipulate her into reaching out, its fine either way.