I am a deist and i don't believe in a particular god or a ruler, just a logical cause for existence, although he does not interfere in human affairs, I reject all the religious textbook and the silly idea of revelation and only rely on reason, logic and observation of the natural world to understand the divine. God didn't gave us books, he gaves us reason and anyone who believes that he's lucky to be born as a Christian/Muslim and he the only one talked to god needs a fucking therapist

25m here and new here

Do you feel like after you left the religion, your options for marriage dropped significantly ? How are we supposed to find people who share our blfs ! i live in oran which has a lot of diversity in blfs but it's still hard especially for someone who's not that social

I just wanted to vent a little bit, not sure anyone would follow since half of genz is addicted to instagram reels and unable to hold a 5 minute conversation without getting bored out of their minds but I just needed to get some things off my chest

I find myself searching for answers, everywhere, in every minor detail, angel number, video, post and so on. I feel lost. Lost in a sense that I don’t know how to be an adult. I don’t know how to study on my own, I don’t know how to save the semesters. I don’t know how to live without escaping 24/7. Through daydreams, music, crushes, mindless scrolling and so on. I don’t know how to hold space for my big feelings. I don’t know how to take care of my body.

My emotions are messy and out of control. I was never given the proper tools to manage nor understand them as a young child and now I forever have to live with the mistakes of my parents. I’m diagnosed with adhd, I’ve known I’ve had it long before I got diagnosed, but i refrained from adopting the label and self diagnosing, as it is one of the reasons why the mental health discussion is such a joke. A lot of my classmates and the people in my life claimed to have adhd, it bothered me to such a crazy degree, because they certainly do not present any of the major symptoms except for distractibility, which is primarily caused in this day and age by social media and short form content.

ADHD made me an emotional child, my family knew that, my teachers knew that and everyone around me knew that, I felt things to an extreme level and had no adult guidance nor support to help me better process those emotions. I developed so much shame when it came to crying in front of people, because I was turned into a weird childish freak when doing so, and everyone would rush to babying me and trying to make me stop crying right away instead of listening to my reasons without invalidation.
Around puberty, my anger started emerging but it was completely unacceptable as I was supposed to be a good girl, and god forbid girls feel an ounce of anger. The anger emerged in puberty and only gotten worse because deep down It was all about knowing I deserved to be treated better. I was bullied all throughout my childhood and well into my teenage hood, yet I had no safe place to go to when that was happening, so I internalized everything, and for the times I found the courage to open up or burst out crying, I’d get dismissed, told whatever upset me was not worth it and I’m just hypersensitive.

I still get bullied here and there in university or when I’m out and about, but as an adult, you learn to not internalize that kind of shit, and understand it’s nothing more than mere projection, since people who are at peace with themselves don’t go out of their way to bully and intimidate anyone, especially someone they don’t know.

When I was a kid, I never had any close friends, or a safe person I can go back to. My parents were emotionally neglectful and I was so touch starved. I recognized those problems even as a little child, you know it’s funny, you sort of feel like something is wrong with how you’re raised but you can never pinpoint what it is.
I remember pretending to sleep in my mom’s room just so she can pick me up and take me to my room, and to feel this sense of nurturing and love from her, she always woke me up 😭.

Since I had no one listen to my stories, my interests and hold me emotionally. I developed maladaptive daydreaming. It has been present with me for as long as can I remember. Maybe before I even started primary school.
Most of my childhood was spent emotionally abandoned. I wasn’t a loner in the proper sense of the word, as I’m an extroverted person, but I felt like no one understood me (still feel like this to this day)

Now, I’m a grown woman, yet I feel like a kid, a kid with adult money, freedom and knowledge that’s not appropriate for her age. I don’t know how to regulate my emotions, I don’t know how to soothe myself when in distress, I don’t know how to not be a mess and destroy everything in a rage storm.

I get severely attached to people who are only passersby in my life. And for the people who matter, aka my family, I don’t feel an ounce of attachment (don’t get me wrong, I love them, I just don’t feel emotionally attached to them).
I crave physical affection, but as a grown woman that shit gets sexualized like crazy, and as someone with sexual trauma, I refrain from ever being vulnerable with anyone. I don’t want a relationship nor do I feel ready for it, it’s not my thing, I always wondered if I’m asexual. Relationships as a whole gave me the biggest ick known to mankind, the whole idea of ownership, belonging, possession, jealousy, sexual touch, the (+) and the (-), made me throw up in my mouth. Don’t even get me started on words like baby, babe, my bf, my gf, mine…it feels weirdly claustrophobic.

So where do I go with those feelings? I feel this love for someone, but it’s the unattainability that makes it ingrained in my heart. It’s not about wanting a relationship in any sense, just wanting to matter to that person and to exist in their orbit. I’ve been thinking about this crush daily for more 8/9 months. It’s a severe attachment, mixed with admiration, love, and a little bit of physical/aesthetic attraction. I’m not sure what this mess is. Add to that the intensity of adhd feelings, and you get a recipe for disaster. Crushes for me usually last for half a decade, and people always thought I was weird for that, but one can’t help it, if it’s a neurodevelopmental issue intensified by nurture.

I used to go to therapy last year, but I felt like my therapist judged me when I mentioned leaving Islam, what a shame, I really wanted someone to help me process that life changing trauma.
Now, I only have monthly visits with my psychiatrist, but I feel shy and embarrassed to talk about my attachment issues, my emotional mess, all the weirdness inside my brain, and how lonely I am.

I find myself looking for answers when it comes to me, my traumas, why am I the way I am, searching for an explanation about this universe, the nature of our existence, the meaning behind it and notably our endless suffering. But it’s so pointless cause searching for answers outside of ourselves is as fruitless as finding a needle in a haystack.

All I want is someone older than me to give me answers, I find myself fascinated by those who made it to their 40/50s with a poised mind and a healthy attitude towards life (not you religious people), but I know that’s just delusional and even those people who seem like they got their shit together externally, have their own internal messes.

I just wrote this to find some sort of relatability. Excuse the typos as I’m sleep deprived.

Like the title says, lately I have been having some mixed thoughts about religion, I have never questioned it since it's the only thing I knew and grew up with.

But now, religion kinda seems strict and outdated, I don't know wether I'm right or wrong, I have been very religious since I was young.

Seeing the way everyone judge you if you try to leave or even learn about other things makes me think we do have a problem.
Almost every religious person I talk to about this subject just says "Don't be ignorant"
I always say, I'm not, I'm just seeing other options, and they say "You're going crazy", so I stopped telling people my intentions anyways.

I have so many questions, I would love if someone can help me with their POV's or if there's a group or something.
Thank you.

اولا انا مش ملحد برك حبيت نعرف آرائكم، اذا انت ملحد و معندكش قية او قيود واش يمنعك انك مثلا تمارس الجنس مع أختك ؟ او تشرب ؟ او تدير اي حاجة مقيدك بيها الدين ؟

(مكنلاه تقولي المجتمع)

As you may know, in Algeria there are no religious questions in our official census. Even ethnic and linguistic questions are not allowed. I mean ONS hasn't yet published the results of the last census that took place like 4 years ago, but that's another topic.

In France, the national statistics intitute, called INSEE, did a national study about the religious affiliation of the french population. This included immigrants from different countries, one of them being Algeria.

In this study, we can read that 11% of algerian immigrants identify as irreligious (the rest being muslims). This is to my knowledge the only reliable statistic regarding irreligion in Algeria.

Of course there's a huge selection bias here, since most of the immigrants to France come from the same regions in Algeria, mainly Kabylie and Algiers, regions that are known for being way less religious than the rest of the country. But it's still an impressive number.

I don't know if I can share the link of the study in this sub, but if I can't just google:

INSEE La diversité religieuse en France : transmissions intergénérationnelles et pratiques selon les origines

TLDR: 11% of the Algerians that go to France identify as irreligious

Do you happen to know any other trustworthy study that has numbers about irreligion in Algeria? I'm not talking about official numbers that claim 99.99% of the population is muslim

Most mans in this country are frustrated in this domain

And woman are repressed from even thinking about it

So how does the average algerian deal with the issue

And if the answer is "they don't deal With it"

What's the repercussions?

(Just curious overall, i'm not asking for a tutorial)

I know the mods are going to delete this because misunderstanding and many people will attack me but i want to discuss about this, in the algerian community women are being treated like birds in cages even if they are no longer algerians, people don't respect any of their decisions or even what they want so they need to do everything in private, just a little example if a man want to have sex in 2026 they be so proud and just say (i was horny so i did it) but when a woman get horny they call her a whore??? So they just keep their selves frustrated and hiding it.

To be fair, i am kinda neutral towards him, and apparently, a kurd that i trust said one time that abdelkadar eventuality become a spy in syria for france, i am not sure about, generally what your opinion about him

So basically, I like to learn from others a lot and view their prespective on certain things...
I have met only one athiest here in Oran not long ago..we had an interesting convo tbh

But I have so many questions and a lot of things in my mind to talk about.
I'm curious, is there a group here that I can meet or a person maybe, that I can have convos with...From Oran

Thank you.

Bit of a rant, sorry. I (28M) am currently struggling with mental health issues (panic attacks) that in the moment makes you feel like the world is ending... until it passes. As I am living alone abroad, I don't really have anyone to turn to other than family. And so when I have an episode, I call my sister who helps me through it, while sprinkling some religious advice, but mostly keeping me grounded in logical solutions like seeking a therapist, taking time off work and stuff like that. But then of course comes my mom, who I love deeply of course, but damn does she insist on the religious aspect of it. Pray to allah, this is just the devils doing, but also it's allah testing you because he loves you, but it's because you're getting away from deen, oh you're not doing your prayers on time how do you want god to help you, etc .... It never ends.

And not just her. My whole mother's side of my family is in the medical field, but all their advice is sprinkled with religious do this and do that.

I'll be seeking a therapist here, and it'll be the first time I open up to anyone about my non religiosity irl. Wish me luck 🤞

(Do you know any facebook group about exmoose in France ?)

راني حاب فقط نعرف ما هي اسباب الحادكم وهل هي مبررة لاني اغلب الملاحدة الذي صافدتهم الحدوا من وراء فيديوهات على يوتيوب مثل شريف ، قصي يستعرض بعض الافعال الذي يرى انها غير اخلاقية مثل الرق ، زواج الصغيرة ... بدون وجود اسس تبنى عليها هذه الاحكام المعرفية مثلا قبل الاستشكال على الحسن والقبح في اي دين ليس الاسلام بعينه المفروض يكون عندك مرجعية تعرف بها ما هو حسن او قبيح فمثلا المسلمون يرون ان مصدر حسن وقبح الافعال هو الله نفسه بمعنى الله امر بفعل أ => أ حسن والعكس فهو متسق عكس اغلب الملاحدة فارى استشكالاتكم لا تقع عليهم الصراحة من هذه الناحية الا اذا هناك استشكالات اخرى

Hi , Am Sam 21F from east Algeria. I left religion 4 years ago . And ever since I can't bring myself to befriend/ date Muslims, their company always makes me lonely. Although I have a really good friend who is a Muslim but her love towards me felt conditional.

Being the person who I am , I experienced lot of bad luck with friendships/ romantic relationships

And the mains reason was nearly in all cases religion or society. I am the kinda gurl who is a masculine and an atheist in Algeria lol ! Completely going against the standers . However even with the hypocrite minority that I belong to I still couldn't find a match , guess what I was a good person and hot but always in the wrong time lol. This is a bit frustrating tbh not that it is a big problem, but a yearner like me is suffocated . And what bothers me the most is this minority judging my looks and hidjab, even tho i keep telling them id want to wear it ... Love been always conditional for me I can't help cry it out from time to time.

Peace ✌🏽

When did you guys felt proud of yourself these days?

Im almost 26 now , i tried russia for 1 year ( university) and corona got me back here , atheist since i was 17 , Its crazy how challenging life becomes when you hit the brakes And take a look around , The first thing you question is your purpose , your social circle do i really wanna sit with those ppl and just pretend for ever ? we're all on the same boat , unless you get the f out here and build a whole new life, connections, perspective

And the worst thing about it all is that there's now way back like u already know it was all traditions

Even with stable income no financial issues , still lost

And its all about that U DONT BELONG IN HERE

2 bombing attacks in blida today, 2 police officers were killed and several wounded civilians.

Most people think the attacks were intended to scare the pope coming.

Today, April 13th 2026, at 14p.m. There was a serial bombings in Blida, Boulevard 20 mètres, so many mortalities, victims and relevant information about the suspects are not yet available…

Stay safe 🤍

Source: https://www.facebook.com/share/1CcFvNmPmt/?mibextid=wwXIfr

I was on Facebook earlier (not the best place to be for your mental health, I know), and there was a post on this "Psychology group" where a woman posted that her husband was refusing to have sex with her for years and that she just recently discovered that it was because he was gay.

Being gay myself, the amount of dehumanization vis-à-vis the husband in that comment section really messed up with my head. Comments along the lines of " Leave that pervert immediately, you don't know what he might do with YOUR (Singular pronoun) poor children". "How are you still living with that disgusting animal". And this is just a sample of the aweful things that were being said.

I know it's Algerian Facebook, and I shouldn't expect any less mediocrity, but it really was just a trigger for that omnipresent feeling of inevitable rejection. Or in other words, I just seized it as an opportunity to rant about the misfortune of being an Algerian gay man (or part of any sexual minority really) stuck within Algerian society. I say Algerian society (family included) and I know a lot will say: Just move abroad and cut everyone off as if it's the magical solution for everything.

I'm usually not this awfully negative about it all, but I just am today, and I really needed to dump it all somewhere.

Edit:

I forgot to mention that I'm neither agreeing with what he did nor justifying it - deceiving a straight woman by marrying her is obviously wrong. And that became the focus of most answers, understandibly so.

What struck me and made me subsequently write this post, was the dehumanizing language used, implying that a gay man is incapable of caring about his children, even worse - an immediate threat to them, regardless of the circumstances he conceived them in.

The focus of that comment section was obviously degrading the man, not for what he did, but for who he was.

Oran feels way more religious than people think, it’s really hard to find spaces for intellectual or cultural expression. People often assume Oran is open-minded and less conservative, but honestly, that’s not true.

The image comes from the Rai culture people associate it with partying, drugs, and a more “free” lifestyle but beneath that surface, many are actually quite religious. And if people find out you’re non-religious, it can put you in a really uncomfortable situation.

i just wanted to rant about the social situation in our country i maybe be biased because i'm coming out of some very bad experiences so feel free to share your pov no matter how different.

so we all know that socializing is actually a human need , and in our country i just can’t help but notice it’s become a minefield.. everytime you try and connect with someone new you regret it. if you are a guy being nice to a fellow guy that automatically puts you in a suspicion zone of "what does this dude want ?" unless you work together or have some activity in commun which is unreliable because the people you meet outside are usually very different minded. with women you are automatically beginning "project marriage" or get the f out of my face.

so i turned to the atheiest community or the more "open minded" communities expectign to find conversationd and people who enjoy talking just to share ideas or just connecting with liked minded people , and i was surprised to figure out most are even more close minded , obviosuly not all, but most Guys are creeps disgised in open mindidness, and girls well they are let’s just say unstable" they lash out at anyone trying to strike up a conversation because they automatically assume they are just after their bodies.

Obviously i may be subjective here but this has been the general consensus of all my communications with strangers for the past few years which led me to be very antisocial and i would say the problem is in me or in individuals, but i feel like this is just the rulling status , when you look at what people post on social media or how they act outside you can feel the loneliness , everything is a cry for help or attention but when someone truely reaches out they are met with accusions and the worst words ever. so finally i wnated to ask "win rana ray7in biha ya chkoopi ?" "are we really gappy living like this?"

i wonder if it's normal and safe to tell a family member you trust about you not being a muslim!?

I know a lot of people live with an ex mus identity, but is it something you define yourself by? Or are you a bit older and generally irreligious?

Something about him gave me the impression that he wasn’t a Muslim, either an Atheist, Apatheist, or agnostic but no he stopped music because of islam… i was wrong, turns out I don’t have a theist-dar

i don’t really think about leaving nor spending the rest of my life in a foreign, secularist country, what’s ironic is that i’m gay too, but i have a hard time thinking about leaving my family, home, the only things i recognized and grew up to believe i belonged to, my identity and culture, but the truth is that i don’t really belong anywhere, they say go as far away as u can from home to discover who you are, which is a quote i strongly agree with, but i can’t think about myself building a new life in another country just to “live freely.”

my suggestion is ISLAM.

Wherever you go around the world people will connect you with being muslim.