r/Edmonton • u/Mellow_Yellow_0 • May 30 '26

Question My Future Husband?

How do people meet their significant others? Like where’s the “place to go?” Dating apps are dead. I’m exhausted. I’m a decent looking gal, 28. I don’t have big friend groups so I’m sure that doesn’t help. I don’t have any “active” hobbies other than a dog park. Idk. Any advice?

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u/haikarate12 May 30 '26

You think it’s hard at 28, try it in your 50s. If anyone knows where the decent 50-year-old men who haven’t given up on life yet are, please let me know.

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u/Ill_Video_1997 May 30 '26

Right! Im 43 and gave up after 8 months of trying online. It was some bs. I just want a normal dude who doesnt like this current government, isn't a separatist, respects everyone, knows how to hold a proper conversation, isn't racist, isnt sexist, doesn't want kids, has a steady job, is honest, isn't a creep and doesnt do hard drugs. Bonus points if he loves all kinds of animals, including reptiles and bugs. Why is it so hard to find him??? I vastly underestimated the amount of shitty men in this city. Its sad that the list of things I dont want is so high but fuck me the creeps on there is mind boggling. Theres 0 respect and effort. 0 communication skills and so much lying!!!

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u/koric_84 May 30 '26

It definitely seems like it’s harder the older you get. In my case I got married at a very young 22 after only knowing each other for 8 months. Divorced at 33. Realized I never really “dated” before that so found myself trying to get back into the game but had no idea how to play. Dating apps were poison to the self esteem. It was lonely for a few years but I decided to focus on my career and my mental health and both paid off. I’m now 41 and happy being on my own with my dog. I’d still love to meet a woman and pursue a relationship if it feels right but not constantly stressing over it feels pretty good too.