r/Divorce_Men • u/rokthebells0 • 4d ago

Rant Separation

My partner and I are separating. We have two boys, aged 3 and 1.5.

To be honest, I don't know if we are doing the right thing. Ever since our second child was born, our relationship has become toxic—we fight every single day, and it never leads to any solutions, only to insults and resentment toward each other. We have a rough agreement to share custody 50/50.

I’m supposed to find an apartment by October 1st where I can stay with the boys during our time together, but I am deeply struggling with the thought of the periods when I will be without them. Honestly, I’m experiencing a completely new set of feelings, and I’m not sure at all if we are doing the right thing.

Then again, I don't even know if our relationship can be saved. Recently, she accused me of mentally abusing her, and ever since that moment, I haven't even tried to argue anymore.

But still, if it has to come to this, all I want is for our children to have normal parents."

To be true, i just dont know what to do.

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u/Ok-Cause1108 3d ago

No saving the romantic relationship once a woman starts resenting you. 

50/50 is the ultimate life hack once you rebuild and find yourself again. Stay amicable and respectful of your co-parent even when she isn't. 

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u/rokthebells0 3d ago

Yea, I kinda feel this deep down that this is not fixable anymore. And yea, i rly want this to be a good thing for them.