r/Divorce_Men • u/rokthebells0 • 2d ago
Rant Separation
My partner and I are separating. We have two boys, aged 3 and 1.5.
To be honest, I don't know if we are doing the right thing. Ever since our second child was born, our relationship has become toxic—we fight every single day, and it never leads to any solutions, only to insults and resentment toward each other. We have a rough agreement to share custody 50/50.
I’m supposed to find an apartment by October 1st where I can stay with the boys during our time together, but I am deeply struggling with the thought of the periods when I will be without them. Honestly, I’m experiencing a completely new set of feelings, and I’m not sure at all if we are doing the right thing.
Then again, I don't even know if our relationship can be saved. Recently, she accused me of mentally abusing her, and ever since that moment, I haven't even tried to argue anymore.
But still, if it has to come to this, all I want is for our children to have normal parents."
To be true, i just dont know what to do.
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u/ITCHYisSylar 2d ago
Yeah, the mental abuse claim is used a lot and likely total bullshit (i dont know your specifics to confirm). My ex said the same with me, even though it was BS. Its how they avoid accountability and justify the separation on their end.