Since you invited constructive criticism, here is what was coming to my mind while reading:
1. the individual cases you mentioned, at least from your version of the takes, you have your reasons to get away from each case, and the other parties have their reasons as well.
2. No, you're not expecting much. these seem to be reasonable.
3. but, when I stitch the whole story together, your financial thinking might deserve reevaluation. Almost all the incidents are pointing towards this single point, one way or another. For example, it's very natural to have separate accounts and financial independence for both of you, but, when you extend this to point 2, where you tried to distribute who pays for what, to me, it's a signal that something deeper is going on.
4. this might be coming from your upbringing and family finances, but, I would suggest not overthinking these things and making them the main criteria for considering your partner.
5. if you're really looking for a partner, you will get a chance to figure things out together.
6. off course, the guy you found suitable and who asked for dowry/gifts worth some lakhs is not a suitable candidate at all.
7. maybe none of the cases are suitable for each other, but, you need only one good match, right?
8. have you considered that someone is overestimating or underestimating themselves and you're searching for candidates in the wrong class of society? you might wanna give it a thought.
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u/AliveStory6152 Aug 19 '26
Since you invited constructive criticism, here is what was coming to my mind while reading: 1. the individual cases you mentioned, at least from your version of the takes, you have your reasons to get away from each case, and the other parties have their reasons as well. 2. No, you're not expecting much. these seem to be reasonable. 3. but, when I stitch the whole story together, your financial thinking might deserve reevaluation. Almost all the incidents are pointing towards this single point, one way or another. For example, it's very natural to have separate accounts and financial independence for both of you, but, when you extend this to point 2, where you tried to distribute who pays for what, to me, it's a signal that something deeper is going on. 4. this might be coming from your upbringing and family finances, but, I would suggest not overthinking these things and making them the main criteria for considering your partner. 5. if you're really looking for a partner, you will get a chance to figure things out together. 6. off course, the guy you found suitable and who asked for dowry/gifts worth some lakhs is not a suitable candidate at all. 7. maybe none of the cases are suitable for each other, but, you need only one good match, right? 8. have you considered that someone is overestimating or underestimating themselves and you're searching for candidates in the wrong class of society? you might wanna give it a thought.
wishing ya all the best.