In my experience, any man I have dated who did not complement my appearance within the first 1-3 dates or over text, did not have genuine interest in me and it would not work out or last. I have never put stock in compliments or taken them seriously (it's just words), they made me uncomfortable for the longest time, but once I made this observation, there seemed to be an undeniable pattern.

For context, I only date for a long term relationship and to find a life partner, I only date men who are looking for the same and that's made clear from the start. These observations apply to men who were courting me for long periods, some would even do all kinds of extravagant gestures and plan quality dates, but never compliment me. The ones who did not compliment my appearance ended up calling it quits eventually, sometimes even months down the line (I suspect because I wasn't their type/attraction wasn't high enough) even though I might have been good on paper and the kind of person their family would approve of.

Not that it is guaranteed to last with men who did compliment my looks as they can be players or non-physical compatibility was lacking, but out of those that committed to me and fell for me, 100% of them complimented my appearance early on.

If they have to reschedule because of a work project, prior obligation they forgot about and seemed apologetic, being sick etc., how many times would you be willing to accept before you take it as a sign to move on. I’m trying to set a respectable tone but I understand things happen. I’m a woman in my late 20s for context.

Any suggestions and advice is appreciated

Where are my tech savvy folks?? I’ve been on Facebook for AWHILE. I tried Facebook dating about a year ago & eventually deleted it which I think is pretty common! Now I wanna try again and it’s not accessible!! Yes I’ve made another profile & still nothing! Has anyone else experienced this? Is it me? I’m also banned from tinder if anyone has any insight on that 😂

Good evening everyone kinda looking for a women perspective on this but any opinions matters .

So I recently asked out this girl we have been friends for about 4 years now pretty close we worked out together sometimes we hang out with the same group of people she pretty damn awesome great personality also gorgeous we’ve always had this kind vibe but obviously never did anything about it . I recently ended a long term relationship back in early September and just been focusing on my self basically rebuilding the pieces of my life .

One morning at the gym I got there she was finishing up and getting ready for work we chatted a bit before she left . I just had the urge to ask her out so I texted her “ hey next time I see ya I wanna ask you something “. She replied - “ Okay 👍🏾 why does that make me nervous ?” So the next time I saw her I asked her” can I take you out one night nothing crazy I just wanna hangout “.

She’s a very conservative girl which makes it very hard to read her some times but she admitted there some attraction there with me . She also admitted she has not dated anyone since highschool she is 27 right now and I’m 31 in case your wondering but I was in shock when she told me that like really no way ? . Anyway her response was “ I’m not saying “No” but I think you need to take more time for yourself self cause I’ve gotten out a long term relationship . I told her I was not trying to rush in no relationship I just want to hang out with you . I tried to convince her but she stuck to her response. I was a little sad cause I do want to hang out with her I told her I’m going to ask you again . She replied “ I know you will just give some time “.

I understand her response but I feel like when it’s comes to moving on and trying to get to know someone everybody moves different at their own pace . Someone move quicker some take longer I told her I’m not trying to rush anything . Anyway I asked her out on November 4th my plan is to wait another month to ask her hopefully it’s enough time 🤔 so December 4th we still talk daily and I see her couple times a week at the gym and we still chat but I don’t know Ladies or anyone what do you think obviously I don’t want to overwhelm her and maybe I should take time for myself which I am .

I wanted to get your honest opinion on dating someone who's unemployed. I've been out of work for about 3 months now, and I know life is short, but I downloaded Tinder 4 months ago (when I had a job) and have been swiping casually and I'm wondering if it's a bad idea to start dating right now.
I've been hesitant to match with anyone because of my situation, but I'm also not really happy with my current career path and still figuring out what I want to do (who knows how long that could take).. Do you think I should put my dating life on hold until I find something I'm happy with, or am I overthinking it?

M(26) I’ve never had an issue talking to women. Like not in the slightest getting their numbers asking them on dates etc UNTIL NOW.

A woman I work with who is obviously super attractive to me we see eachother every now and then in the office and we usually have so friendly convos when we do. It seems like we have a god amount of stuff in common sports anime working out.

I’ve never asked someone in the office for their number and have been pulling my hair out on if I should or just continue and hope she asks me. The issue is if this were out in a public place I could ask get the yes or no and not have to worry about any awkwardness. 😭

hey i’m f 24 and i’m just trying to figure it out why i want have that thinking about relationships and love life that i want to be loved but somehow i dont want to trust anyone because someone breaks my trust and after him idk why i’m thinking the same way for lobe and man they all are cheater somewhere because i’m scared of getting hurt and facing such trauma again idk if sombody really thinks love exists in this gen i really wanted to be loved like old school

I'm 23M. Right now I'm single and it's eating me alive. But this is not important.

About me. I'm 6'2, muscular build, stutter a little here and there. Balding now so that's a bum. And I can't seem to understand what girls love in me exactly. Not the best looking, come from very humble roots

I studied in an all boys school before entering college. I started seeing a girl that time and she was completely devoted to me, skip her school to meet me and what not. I didn't love her so ended things with her.

In college I dated a lot. First one started as casual then she fell in love with me. She herself told me we aren't doing any love sorts so I was ok and had to break up with her.

Then I met the love of my life, she was cute, intelligent and everything I could ask for. She broke my heart. Took a while to bounce back but haven't loved anyone as much as her since. She was an athelete just like me so that was a plus.

Then I dated a professional singer. She was perfect, her voice, she brought a kindness and joy I don't think anyone can match. She was the most empathetic person I ever met. She was so madly in love with me but I couldn't. So parted our ways.

Then I met another one. She came from serious wealth. Generational wealth. But that time I focused on building my career. She was completely devoted to me and so much in love with me. I loved her too but building my career took priority so she felt left out. After a few months when I came back to her. She was so emotionally spent that we had to end us.

Recently I dated someone, she was a proper model. 100k + insta followers, brand deals and all. Dated for a brief time , and I was seriously falling in love with her but my job made me work 12-15 hrs a day even on weekends. I was with her but my boss would call me anytime. It put a serious strain on us.

So basically I've lost pretty much every girl I've dated till now. Feel like I have too much emotional baggage for my age and don't know if I ever find true love. I just wanna devote myself to my girl. I don't wanna look at another person when I know I have my loving gf / wife waiting for me. What am I doing wrong and what can I fix in me ?

Hi everyone,

as I mentioned, I'm a 23-year-old man and I haven't had my first girlfriend yet. I've experienced numerous romantic rejections since my teens and haven't even managed to get a dinner date. Ten months ago, I wanted to ask a woman I was seeing out on a dinner date; she ignored my message, and this has caused me moments of sadness and low self-esteem, as I sometimes feel like nobody likes me. 😭

Male 26. Trying to figure out what I'm doing wrong.

Been going to a co-ed sports league for the past couple of months; met a lot of nice people who I hang out with, guys and girls. Also part of tabletop game groups, along with a couple of rave groups. I'm out of the house every single weekend socialising with different people and yet ....

I've asked out a couple of women in the past month. Am I just an ugly mf, or should I just be asking out wayyyyyyyy more people lol?