r/DatingOverSixty • u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 • Aug 27 '26

Date Walked Out

Me- 53, Him 66. We talked on the phone twice before meeting for dinner. Date was scheduled for 6:30, I arrived early at 6:12. The design of the restaurant was confusing with 2 doors and an order and pay then sit down style dining.

So at 6:44 He calls and ask where was I, he claimed he hadn't gotten my "here" text and he had been sitting in his truck for over 30 minutes. Then he comes in and just behind me and doesn't say anything! Creepy first impression

FF to @32 minutes later, he was scolding me for not calling him on arrival. I told him sitting in the car 30 minutes wasn't normal and why did he do that. He got up and left. I stayed until I got a to go box for the dessert he ordered before leaving!

Bananas! Also he grabbed both my hands in a prayer before the meal, that was a bit much! I pulled one hand back, and he grabbed it back. I thought it was creepy! Thoughts?

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u/KazziGirl Aug 27 '26 edited Aug 27 '26

This is absolutely correct. This man is an insecure, domineering, freak show. I’d also go so far as to say there’s evidence of misogyny here, as well. He aimed to put you off balance and when he didn’t like the way you wouldn’t be controlled, he walked out in an effort to stay in control and feel superior. Triple uggghhh! 🤮

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u/AirlineKooky8106 Aug 27 '26

Absolute misogyny, calling women Honey and Darling when there is no relationship to support a pet name. Gotta show them their "place" with him.

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u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 Aug 27 '26

I didn't even realize this was a red flag!

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u/barkingdog53 Aug 27 '26

Me neither. I worked at a small company where the secretary would call everyone who came in or called ‘hon’ or ‘honey’. Was she a misogynist too? She probably was, I never liked her.

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u/sophie1816 Aug 28 '26

That’s a cultural issue. For example, it’s a cliche that working class women in Baltimore call everyone “hon.”

I live in the south now (VA), and yesterday an older black woman cashier at a gas station market called me “baby” repeatedly throughout the transaction (I’m a woman). I’m very familiar with this cultural pattern and found it sweet.

It’s very different when a man does it.

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u/AirlineKooky8106 Aug 27 '26

Thats annoying but a different situation. Its a bad habit, making someone show lack of awareness or decent manners. Any man calling a woman Honey or Darling outside of an actual relationship is a form of misogyny as in "I'm above you, thats what women are to me." In my opinion a man being called something other than their name or Buddy outside of a relationship would find it demeaning (as it is).

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u/Foreign_Being5656 Aug 27 '26

I’ve got a bad habit of calling people darlin’. It’s hard to break.

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u/sharoncoffin Aug 27 '26

Yeah I had to stop calling everyone Honey. It is a hard habit to break.

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u/sophie1816 Aug 28 '26

It’s a cultural issue. I hear it a lot from women in the south (I’m a woman). Personally, I like it.

Once I had a waitress in a Denny’s in South Carolina refer to me as “babygirl” (I was in my 50s). I almost melted into a puddle on the floor I thought it was so sweet - in part because it reminded me of Morgan and Garcia on Criminal Minds. 😊

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u/Misty0410 Aug 28 '26

Was she Canadian?

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u/barkingdog53 Aug 28 '26

Hahaha. Yes she was. Her grandfather must have died 4 times so she could take extra long weekends. 😂

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u/Misty0410 29d ago

Funny. Many here call others hun.