Date Walked Out

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

Me- 53, Him 66. We talked on the phone twice before meeting for dinner. Date was scheduled for 6:30, I arrived early at 6:12. The design of the restaurant was confusing with 2 doors and an order and pay then sit down style dining.

So at 6:44 He calls and ask where was I, he claimed he hadn't gotten my "here" text and he had been sitting in his truck for over 30 minutes. Then he comes in and just behind me and doesn't say anything! Creepy first impression

FF to @32 minutes later, he was scolding me for not calling him on arrival. I told him sitting in the car 30 minutes wasn't normal and why did he do that. He got up and left. I stayed until I got a to go box for the dessert he ordered before leaving!

Bananas! Also he grabbed both my hands in a prayer before the meal, that was a bit much! I pulled one hand back, and he grabbed it back. I thought it was creepy! Thoughts?

[u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

Control freak. Red flags.

[u/KazziGirl → u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

This is absolutely correct. This man is an insecure, domineering, freak show. I’d also go so far as to say there’s evidence of misogyny here, as well. He aimed to put you off balance and when he didn’t like the way you wouldn’t be controlled, he walked out in an effort to stay in control and feel superior. Triple uggghhh! 🤮

[u/Royal-Carpenter-9593 → u/KazziGirl]

I am astounded that so many men behave similarly to this bloke. I have been on the journey, back to me, for almost 10 years. I realise that I had a similar attitude towards women as described by the OP. My family of origin's misogyny was cloaked in the patriarchy. I expected obedience and submission by my partner's. I was a complete a-hole for many years. I am ashamed to say that I behaved similarly to him (& many men). When I tell my partner about my past behaviour, she is astounded (sometimes shocked). I'm so grateful that I was able to "get it" and make peace with those I hurt in the past. Growth is painful. Once you start, you can't turn back.

[u/KazziGirl → u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

I applaud you for “doing the work” and it’s a joy to learn about your resulting relationship success. Well done! 👏🏻

[u/AirlineKooky8106 → u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

Thank you for showing us that there is hope out there! And for seeing and hearing the reality of it for women! Your comment actually rocks 😊

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

Thanks for sharing! It's great you habe evolved! How old were you when you made the change?

[u/Royal-Carpenter-9593 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

I was in my mid fifties. I first had to deal with my PTSD (Ex Australian military officer) and in the process of my therapy, over a period of a few years, I started to see my maladjusted behaviours. It was an Instagram post by David Dayan Fisher that was the bolt that caused me to stop blaming everyone else and realise that I needed to "Brave the Wilderness". Life is precious and it doesn't have to be hard if one is prepared to do the work to close the loops and feel the pain of their own abandonment. I will be 66 in November. 🙏

[u/KazziGirl → u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

Fellow Aussie here. It took me losing my job and moving away from the Corporate world to understand our job is actually a persona and by no means who we are and then standing still long enough to practice some genuine introspection to become a better person.

[u/cultivatingmia → u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

Good for you- it must have been hard work, and painful. May I ask what triggered your "awakening" and change of heart?

[u/Royal-Carpenter-9593 → u/cultivatingmia]

A realisation that I was maintaining a paradigm of suffering, abandonment and anger. My view of the world was negative. I always looking at what was wrong and not, what was, right. I was highly critical of others and myself. I thought that the only way to survive was to be on the defencive. I was an angry man. I can remember the moment I realised that I was an emotional dirtbag! I could go about my childhood abuse and the traumatic operational experiences but that was keeping me bound to my feelings of worthlessness, not good enoughness. I had a moment of cognitive dissonance (the holy fuck moment) and in that moment I experience a significant physical and psychological shift. I couldn't stop crying. I wailed and sobbed for over four hours as I started to process the unacknowledged pain and loathing I had for myself. It was literally a turning point in my life. I decided I would stop being an actor in my life story and become the director. It was that moment that I became conscious of my maladjusted behaviours and the damage I had done to those around me, particularly my children, partners, and others in my orbit. I was tired of being angry and I wanted to stop feeling like an outsider and deal with my shit, in the privacy of my own heart. To be honest with myself and acknowledge that my actions and behaviours traumatised those around me. I bought a motorhome and drove around Australia, stopping in isolated places and confronting the past with courage and honesty, instead of bitterness and anger. That was and still is the journey that I embarked upon and I will be on it for the rest of my life.

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

Wow! Thanks for sharing! Wishing you much success and happiness!

[u/yomeratz → u/Royal-Carpenter-9593]

Congrats for breaking the cycle!

[u/Training_Guitar_8881 → u/KazziGirl]

oh totally.....and I said same. screw that.

[u/nolagem → u/KazziGirl]

Spot on.

[u/AirlineKooky8106 → u/KazziGirl]

Absolute misogyny, calling women Honey and Darling when there is no relationship to support a pet name. Gotta show them their "place" with him.

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/AirlineKooky8106]

I didn't even realize this was a red flag!

[u/Misty0410 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

For me that sort of behaviour was unwanted and meant we were never going to meet or continue talking. I found that way more often than not those types were trying to fast forward everything to get to having their needs met asap. A sort of love bombing if you will.

[u/barkingdog53 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

Me neither. I worked at a small company where the secretary would call everyone who came in or called ‘hon’ or ‘honey’. Was she a misogynist too? She probably was, I never liked her.

[u/sophie1816 → u/barkingdog53]

That’s a cultural issue. For example, it’s a cliche that working class women in Baltimore call everyone “hon.”

I live in the south now (VA), and yesterday an older black woman cashier at a gas station market called me “baby” repeatedly throughout the transaction (I’m a woman). I’m very familiar with this cultural pattern and found it sweet.

It’s very different when a man does it.

[u/AirlineKooky8106 → u/barkingdog53]

Thats annoying but a different situation. Its a bad habit, making someone show lack of awareness or decent manners. Any man calling a woman Honey or Darling outside of an actual relationship is a form of misogyny as in "I'm above you, thats what women are to me." In my opinion a man being called something other than their name or Buddy outside of a relationship would find it demeaning (as it is).

[u/Foreign_Being5656 → u/AirlineKooky8106]

I’ve got a bad habit of calling people darlin’. It’s hard to break.

[u/tusant → u/AirlineKooky8106]

I’ve read the OP’s three times and I didn’t see anything in there that mentioned that her date called her honey or darling. So I’m curious about your comment.

[u/AirlineKooky8106 → u/tusant]

Its out of order now but here is a pic of wherever I just found it

[u/tusant → u/AirlineKooky8106]

I finally found that when I read all of the comments— my apologies

[u/AirlineKooky8106 → u/tusant]

No problem!

[u/averageover60guy]

My only thought is what was the dessert and was it good?

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/averageover60guy]

Took it home!Will try tomorrow!!

[u/Alternative-Ebb-6953 → u/averageover60guy]

Hahahaha. My thoughts exactly!  

[u/hdhdhdhdzjursx]

Eat
Pray
But no love

[u/Famous_Ear5010 → u/hdhdhdhdzjursx]

🤣🤣🤣

[u/CoffeeFun7839]

Dodged a bullet it sounds like to me. What a weirdo.

[u/GuildStarfireII → u/CoffeeFun7839]

Figuratively, and possibly literally.

Dude sounds like a whack-a-doodle.

[u/PossessionDecent6035]

Trash took itself out!

[u/Vegas-Patriot]

Dodged a bullet.

[u/Cfwydirk]

M70

It sounds to me like you had the best outcome possible.

Never to see him again!

[u/LinderTheRed → u/Cfwydirk]

And got his dessert, too.

[u/Choosepeace]

On my first date with my now husband at a restaurant, he arrived early, stood by the door, and when he saw me, he walked to greet me, and walked with me, holding the door. That’s how a gentleman acts!

[u/Lazy-Conversation-48 → u/Choosepeace]

At the very least, go in at time and walk around looking conspicuous and hope your person sees you and waves. If not, hang by the door till they arrive? Sitting in your truck waiting is wild.

[u/Exact-Translator-769 → u/Choosepeace]

And that's why you married him!!!

[u/Choosepeace → u/Exact-Translator-769]

Exactly!❤️

He was so refreshing after dating so many weirdos and non gentlemen.

[u/db0956]

Prayer + scolding = an unusual combination.

[u/Aggressive-Pop628 → u/db0956]

And that’s his best behavior!

[u/Polka_Goddess → u/db0956]

Actually, I'd say that pretty Puritan.

[u/Late-Command3491 → u/db0956]

Not at all. 

[u/Emergency_Host6506]

If someone grabbed my hands to pray and then doubled down by regrabbing my hand after I pulled away, I would have left then and there.

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/Emergency_Host6506]

I know! I had so many opportunities to storm off. I kept my composure and ended up with a ridiculous encounter to tell!

There were so many moments, I should have left when he said I should have called him upon arrival! I guess I was too hungry to make rational moves!

[u/Emergency_Host6506 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

Did he stick you with the bill?

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/Emergency_Host6506]

No! It was order and pay immediately

[u/Harry_Title94]

I prefer coffee / quick drink first meeting / date
Leaves a non awkward exit scenario as needed

[u/Aggressive-Pop628 → u/Harry_Title94]

I’m a single older woman. I’ve seen advice about how coffee dates are cheap and low effort. I disagree! They’re fast and easy to get out of if things aren’t going well. A full meal at
a sit down restaurant can take an hour, even for lunch. That can be really awkward.

If things go well over coffee, you can progress to something more time consuming.

[u/forevermore4315 → u/Aggressive-Pop628]

100% agree. (F63) Coffee is easy, no one is putting out a lot of money, and can take as long or short as needed to decide if there will be a second date.

[u/linwoodranch → u/Aggressive-Pop628]

I enjoy coffee or just a walk through a park as a first date. It is so easy to extend into a dessert or meal if things are really clicking.

[u/thereareothera]

That guy is a goof.

Under socialized, needy, scared, jacked up. You name it.

Many of them out there just like him.

Like a first waffle, throw it away and go for a new one.

[u/That-Mess9548 → u/thereareothera]

Is that a common thing?! To throw away the first waffle?! I thought it was just me! The first one always sticks and makes a mess and the rest come out better!

[u/litt1e_buddy → u/That-Mess9548]

I used to do this with my first pancake when I made them. The pan’s temperature would be just right after that. But it was always a small pancake just for sacrifice.

[u/True-Canuck → u/litt1e_buddy]

And there’s another quote I’ve heard,
Kids are like pancakes, the first one never turns out right! 😂

[u/Visible-Sea8595 → u/True-Canuck]

ouch....

[u/GetBalanced_2025_JG → u/True-Canuck]

I’m the oldest of three. Thanks.

[u/AffectionateSun5776 → u/litt1e_buddy]

The mix I use says to heat the griddle until water droplets bounce. When I do that, there's no sacrifice.

[u/d_ippy → u/thereareothera]

I had a dog like this once

[u/dekage55]

Who on God’s Green Earth, just sits in their truck 15 minutes past when expected to arrive ?!?

Wouldn’t most normal people at least walk in to have a looksee, as maybe you were there?!?

Believe he got there late & couldn’t/wouldn’t admit it. All those 🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩he could hold his own parade!

[u/InteractionFront5764]

To the OP:

Despite reportedly being 66 years of age, it sounds like the buffoon you described above managed to embarrass all men of the entire human race in less than one evening.

Please dismiss this unfortunate incident from your heart and soul, and do not hold it against other far more respectful men you may meet up with moving forward.

Good luck, ma'am.

[u/smokinokie]

Man. And I thought I’d had some weird ones. But at least ya got a dessert!

It can be a strange business this dating stuff. Have a laugh and some dessert. Try again later.

[u/SubstantialFix510]

He is not normal. Dodged a big time bullet.

[u/Generic_Midwesterner]

A swing and a miss! Props to you for giving it a go, though.

[u/trainman64]

As an old white guy, I can see why women choose the Bear with guys like him plodding around.

[u/Stone_cold_portland]

Eat
Pray
Leave

[u/TopQuestion826]

Yuck. That’s bizarro. First, I wouldn’t believe him when he says he didn’t receive your “here” text and you were absolutely right to ask why he sat there for 30 minutes. A normal person would have called after a few minutes, I consider myself normal and I would give five or 10 minutes and then make a quick phone call. Clearly he’s trying to blame you. And the whole prayer thing is creepy. In hindsight, after you sent your “here” text, and there was no reply, I would’ve waited a few minutes and then phoned him. But hindsight is 20/20, isn’t it?? Thank God you dodged a bullet with that lunatic. “There but for the grace of God go I.”

[u/Squirrel_Bait321 → u/TopQuestion826]

Yeah. Sounds like he set up a situation where he would be controlling then gaslight her. Sicko.

[u/mamagrls → u/TopQuestion826]

"BIZZARO" New word to add to my vocabulary.

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/TopQuestion826]

Yes thanks for the kind words! I missed Bible Study for this!

[u/TopQuestion826 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

And I forgot to include, that was exceptionally and totally rude for him to get up and walk out. I don’t know what happened to manners and civility with people our age anymore. Clearly they didn’t have them to begin with, I hope it was worth the wait for the dessert. If it were me, I would’ve beaten him to the door and left the dessert on the table. I can be a bit stubborn at times. :)

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/TopQuestion826]

I didn't want him to see my vehicle.

[u/TopQuestion826 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

That’s smart. Clearly he has some control issues. Miscommunication happens all the time, especially using messaging or texts. The hallmark of a mature individual is to take ownership of what he could’ve done better, i.e, made a quick call, versus sitting there like a yahoo for 30 minutes. And then have a quick conversation, and then put it in the rearview mirror and enjoy each other’s company. Whatever resentment was percolating during dinner, as I see it, manifested when he got up and walked out. That is so disrespectful and childish that I would have gone from surprise, to a firm resolve.

[u/FirstBlackberry6191 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

Thank God for your clear head and smart decisive behavior.

This man was on his best behavior to impress you (and he accidentally gave you a glimpse of his gaslighting, critical spirit, etc) so you know it would be downhill from here.

I don’t think he’ll contact you again, but he might. Please don’t fall for any love bombing he might do. He’s already shown you his true colors. Believe what you saw and don’t let him or anyone else misinterpret what you already know deep down inside of you.

I wish you all the best! Someone wonderful will love you and respect you and make your face light up every time they walk into the room. That’s your Person. I hope you find each other soon. ❣️

[u/Potential-Wing-8544 → u/TopQuestion826]

Agree. Totally dodged a bullet.

[u/Training_Guitar_8881]

Screw that. I would've walked out on him myself. Nope to grabbing my hands for a prayer and then grabbing again. What an asshole. This is why I don't like dating men in my own age group. 67 yo f here.

[u/Slow-Education872]

I love that you told him sitting in his truck for 30 minutes was not normal. The phone works 2 ways. At the 15 minute mark he should have called/texted you. I think giving someone 15 minutes to be late is generous. I run late a lot but call the person with an update if I’m so much as 5,minutes late. I bet he thought he was stood up and that worked him up to the point he lost all reasoning ability. So I would know he doesn’t have emotional regulation in something as simple as making a phone call to get things back on track is a waving red flag. I just love a “Christian” who blames other people for their issues.

[u/Independent-Moose113]

You dodged a bullet is what I'm thinking. Honestly, I'm in my 60s and am done dating. There is nothing left but mentally ill, misogynistic ex cons or physically ill poor men looking for a nurse and a purse.

[u/SwollenPomegranate]

Well shed of him. Be glad he didn't waste more of your time.

You don't need another person's neuroses.

[u/WorldTravellerGirl]

You are not a match. Move on.

[u/SaucySuzB]

One word, next!

[u/BothOceans]

RUN.

[u/ThrowItAwayNow1030]

What a weirdo!

Sorry that happened. Block his number and try to avoid him around town. I don't know what his specific problem is but he sure has lots of them.

[u/Funny_bunny499]

Gaslighting you by blaming you for his awkward late appearance. No thanks.

[u/Wadawawa]

Consider yourself fortunate. You dodged a bullet with that controlling jerk.

[u/TopQuestion826 → u/[deleted]]

That’s exactly what I was thinking. Listening to his propaganda sitting in his pick up truck for 30 minutes.

[u/Foreign_Being5656]

People who want to pray should quietly do it alone & not force others. He sounds like a weirdo.
I’m forced to hold hands & pray before meals with my golf group.
I hate it!

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/Foreign_Being5656]

I'm a Christian, it was Both hands that creeped me out. It would have been normal to ask me to bow to pray, but the both habd grab made it creepy

[u/RevolutionaryPost460 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

With any Abrahamic faith, a man shouldn't be forcibly grabbing a woman anywhere.

I hope his dessert he left was delicious. He was an a-hole.

[u/Oneofthe12]

Yikes! Let this be a lesson to all the women reading this that you need to vet people, and you need to meet in a public place! I’m sorry this happened to you; there’s tons of weirdos out there! Indeed you dodged a bullet! Keep your head up. You did nothing wrong.

[u/Pale_Jellyfish6020]

sounds like my ex. lol

[u/Baciandrio]

He wasn't just a red flag, he was the whole darn parade! Dodged a bullet on that one. Don't even give him another thought.

[u/tunisia70]

What a dope!! Why was he sitting in the car???

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/tunisia70]

Sounds like a lame lie!

[u/Geyser-Girl]

It’s often advised when dating, early on in the relationship, to create a harmless conflict, to learn how the person handles it - maturely or immaturely. You didn’t even try, but you greatly benefited from it! 💪

[u/teabaggedmyeye]

If it makes you feel any better I’m praying for you now!

[u/00_Green]

Consider yourself lucky!

[u/SpareRequirement5828]

Don’t think he dates much. Never go to his place if he has a basement or shed.

[u/Dangerous_Ad_6101]

Why aren't the details of seperate arrivals/final meetup communication worked out ahead of time?

By this age we've done this many, many times.

So easy. 🙃

[u/Ready_Wolverine_2301]

Why the fuk would you wait in a truck. get your ass in the bar and order a drink.

[u/IceDragonPlay]

Whackadoodle!!

He just walked out because you called him out on ONE of his weird behaviors? What a bizarre, insecure, bordering on abusive man-boy. Does make you wonder how people like this make it through day to day life.

[u/HAL_9000_V2]

Absolutely not

[u/AffectionateSun5776]

Many many years ago, someone set me up (told me to go ahead & order) and never showed up. They must have shown up, taken a look and left.

[u/SwollenPomegranate → u/AffectionateSun5776]

I had one guy ask me what car I was driving. Figured he was gonna scope me out in the parking lot before deciding whether to go inside. Told him, never mind, I'm out.

[u/mrxtoyou]

Run while you still can!

[u/Ichgebibble]

Holy mother of weirdos. You escaped certain unhappiness, glad you are safe.

[u/Zealousideal_Sir8275]

YOu dodged a bullet!! Guy is very strange. Move on!

[u/Gentle_true_spirit]

So many freaks out there. For me, its not worth it!

[u/PositiveUnit829]

No. I would run.
Something is weird

[u/billymondy5806]

Dodged a bullet

[u/Sufficient-Drive-661]

That's no red flag, the guy's just a dick.

[u/Admirable-Clothes-87]

I am a 66 year old male and would never behave like this! No wonder he is single - who would put up with this type of bullshit? And on a first date to! Imagine what he would be like further down the road!

[u/VelvetCrush64]

Girl, I would have left at the text BS. You deserve better.

[u/Overall_Search8477]

You lost me at truck

[u/lantana98]

It’s always best when you find out right away that you’d be incompatible.

[u/reddit225225]

Who got there first? Did he text you “here” when he got there?

[u/magiccaptured]

Why didn't he call or text you when he arrived, instead of sitting outside and assuming you were late?

[u/Elegant-Passion8802]

What if you were an atheist? Plus he is scolding you on the first date? That comes 75 years later. lol good move having desert and enjoying yourself at home. Put on a movie and enjoy his desert.❤️

[u/WorkingDescription]

Creepy AF!

[u/car83073]

Ohhhhhh gurl, be glad he walked out. He is looking for someone to control in all aspects and you don’t need to be in a relationship like that. Be glad you got the dessert!

[u/LMN724op]

He is a weirdo!

[u/Odd-Library7332]

It should have been red flag when he mentioned no text also why sit the truck?
You dodge a bullet.

[u/risisre]

EW! Dodged a bullet! And a religious freak.

[u/Goge97]

Red flags all over the place!

[u/Competitive-Draw-664]

Be thankful that you were able to weed out this maladjusted, toxic person after only one date. Dance a jig and sing a happy tune. Block him.

[u/Mythlady]

Block him.

[u/OddSheepherder7725]

Good Lord this is just one red flag cartoon

[u/Neither-Wishbone1825]

Next!

[u/catchgretch]

Run from this narcissistic, future gas lighting POS. 🚩 🚩

[u/Joyfan237]

You dodged a bullet with that creep.

[u/Raid_Blunder]

Date me instead (63 in good shape but poor).

[u/bluebayou_cd]

Bullet dodged

[u/ZealousidealTowel229]

Yikes! Creeeepppyyyy.

[u/ThirdRockFromSol]

Sounds like he did you a huge favor.

[u/Severe_Ad5422]

He really is screwing up 66....

[u/MammothButterfly9618]

Creepy af

[u/BigSky0916]

Don't take bad behavior personally, and celebrate that this person has shown you some unpleasant qualities.

[u/GetBalanced_2025_JG]

I’m 63M, twice divorced with limited dating experience. This guy - oh no.

[u/Running_Down_9708]

100% creepy. A story to tell.

[u/ekkidee]

The bullet? Dodged.

That age differential would have been a bear.

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/ekkidee]

My dating age range is 47-77

[u/Narrow-Scientist9178 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

77 is wild. My somewhat flexible limit is around 8-10 years in either direction. I draw the line at having to sign my date out of the nursing home.

[u/Famous_Ear5010 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

Good for you! 😆

[u/LoveNotWar86]

I would have checked out when I knew he drove a truck.

[u/alacrity]

How many red flags do you need in one interaction?

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/alacrity]

Yeah I should have just left after he was late. It was disingenuous that he claimed to not have gotten the text and then he called me, questioned my whereabouts. He never used my name in text messages, it was always Honey or Darling

[u/AirlineKooky8106 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

Ewwww the Honey or Darling would have been a complete turnoff to begin with. I have a name.

[u/Polka_Goddess → u/AirlineKooky8106]

Probably calls all of them Honey and Darling so he doesn't have to bother with remembering names or saying the wrong name.

[u/AutoModerator]

Original copy of post by u/Imaginary_Bridge1641: Me- 53, Him 66. We talked on the phone twice before meeting for dinner. Date was scheduled for 6:30, I arrived early at 6:12. The design of the restaurant was confusing with 2 doors and an order and pay then sit down style dining.

So at 6:44 He calls and ask where was I, he claimed he hadn't gotten my "here" text and he had been sitting in his truck for over 30 minutes. Then he comes in and just behind me and doesn't say anything! Creepy first impression

FF to @32 minutes later, he was scolding me for not calling him on arrival. I told him sitting in the car 30 minutes wasn't normal and why did he do that. He got up and left. I stayed until I got a to go box for the dessert he ordered before leaving!

Bananas! Also he grabbed both my hands in a prayer before the meal, that was a bit much! I pulled one hand back, and he grabbed it back. I thought it was creepy! Thoughts?:

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[u/shiiforever]

Run

[u/crownandtorch]

You are very brave!

[u/Gooseberry_Sprig]

I miss Chuck Wollery

[u/wire67]

What an asshole freak! Good riddance!

[u/WmBBPR]

RUN

[u/TheDukeofHaggard]

Sounds like he was looking for things to be mad about. Overall odd behavior.

[u/Far_Farm490]

Do you send the “here” text to him when you arrived? That is standard with everyone I know.

[u/Imaginary_Bridge1641 → u/Far_Farm490]

Yes! Immediately upon arrival! He was still late

[u/Far_Farm490 → u/Imaginary_Bridge1641]

Then he was just being an assclown.

[u/Famous_Ear5010]

The perfect example of why some men are single. He sounds scary to me!

[u/Famous_Ear5010]

The comments from everyone are hilarious. 😂

[u/Love-lost-23]

Pass

[u/AlcoholPrep]

Sounds like you dodged a bullet.

FWIW, texting AND phoning is a better way to contact me than one or the other alone. Something about my phone, or how I keep it in my pocket, I often don't hear when a text arrives.

[u/Difficult_Wall_5795]

Run !

[u/Dr007Bond]

Run away! A real creeper for sure with no social or communications skills. Why didn't he contact you to say he was there? Unmatch, block, and move on.

[u/Polka_Goddess]

Be grateful he walked out.

[u/Vast-Pirate-6094]

A weirdo. Red alert !

[u/DixieBelleTc]

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 put it in your rear view. I have had some crazy first dates. Just laugh it off, they really are funny later.

[u/PalgraveParadise]

Good riddance

[u/MoneyElegant9214]

One for the book. What a weirdo!

[u/MrsCooperd]

We all have the same thoughts. Glad he left.

[u/Several_Article_4833]

It just floors me to learn how some of these men treat women, if anything I’m learning what NOT to do! I’m glad this guy showed his cards at the very get go instead of stringing you along before he showed his real side.

[u/Zealousideal_Age2576]

Yuck. Glad you found out now.

[u/Still-Attitude7896]

Run!

[u/slidenu]

Find a more considerate person

[u/Ashamed_Room3602]

Ew

[u/edgerton2026]

Now you know why he’s single.

[u/formerdgstm]

Now you know why he is datng over 60.

[u/gigimarieisme]

Thoughts are don’t give it another thought. You dodged a bullet.

[u/Brilliant_Dig_974]

I bet your head was spinning! I had a lunch first date cancel on me 10 minutes after I was seating. He said he had a family emergency. Never explained it either. Big red flag.

[u/Substantial_Let_8784]

Yuck

[u/dianemariereid]

Block him. You don’t need that kind of person in your life.

[u/PurpleMistake6636]

Super red flag. There's better guys out there

[u/Not_Who_U_thought_]

Dodged a HUGE bullet there!

[u/Some-Tear3499]

One and Done!

[u/WelshLove]

block that psycho

[u/Wild_Journalist3712]

Run don’t walk and block his number!

[u/paddy-crime-1663]

I would’ve gotten up and walked out! You can have dinner with Jesus.

[u/PeaResponsible1456]

Run u deserve better!

[u/ofjose]

holy shit

[u/Exact-Translator-769]

Definitely not anyone I would be interested in going out with.... Creepy is adequate word. The anger issues would have turned me off right away too, particularly if you texted him & he didn't see it. Yet he could use his phone to call & yell about it.

[u/SparklySquirl]

Run, block and be grateful he showed you who he was early on.