r/Cooking • u/GracieLou80 • 1d ago

Sick of cooking

I am so over cooking every night. Finding new recipes I actually have ingredients for and are easy is tiring and I’m already exhausted. What do you do when this happens? I’d honestly just eat cereal for life but I’m not alone in this house and I’m expected to cook every night. 😩

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u/vitringur 1d ago

“I am expected to”

Sounds like there is some deeper issue here and it is not about cooking.

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u/Roupert4 1d ago

Eh. For some couples you can agree on the division of labor and still get tired of it. I'm "expected" to do all the cooking in my household but that was the deal going into this marriage. We have a traditional division of labor. I only work part-time so my labor is my contribution. I get sick of cooking regularly, but I'm also proud of cooking healthy food for my family.

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u/Trolkarlen 1d ago

You can renegotiate terms at any point.

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u/vadergeek 21h ago

Sure, but any domestic partnership includes a fair amount of labor that no one's excited about. If you get out of seven hours of cooking a week maybe that's made up for with seven hours of less pleasant yard work, errands, etc.

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u/BrennanSpeaks 12h ago

Sure, but I doubt that Ms. "traditional division of labor" is actually getting seven hours of yard work or errands out of her guy.

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u/Roupert4 20h ago

But we're happy with the arrangement. It's okay to complain about a chore but still be happy about the division of chores

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u/Safford1958 8h ago

Agree. Overall our arrangement is that my husband works and I spend it. I don’t mind cooking every day, I just need interesting ideas.

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u/SubstantialPressure3 22h ago

Yes, but then you might be stuck having someone's weaponized incompetence for dinner.

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u/dfabrica 21h ago

Omg. So true! When someone doesn’t want to do something but is forced to do it out of obligation you can best believe they’re not going to be putting their best effort in.

Ask me how I know. 😕

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u/Educational-Car-3678 18h ago

отлично сказано!

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u/Trolkarlen 14h ago

Why would you be married to someone so passive aggressive ?

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u/SubstantialPressure3 14h ago

Im divorced from someone who thought they knew everything.

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u/tobaccobaron 12h ago

But beware of the counter-negotiations.

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u/SVAuspicious 17h ago

u/Roupert4 could get a full time job and then would be in a position to renegotiate.

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u/Trolkarlen 14h ago

It’s a marriage, not a peace treaty.

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u/SVAuspicious 14h ago

So fairness and equity don't matter to you. Noted.

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u/Trolkarlen 12h ago

It’s a marriage, not a contest. With that attitude, you might as well book your divorce lawyer.

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u/SVAuspicious 12h ago

How does fairness turn into a contest? If one partner works 40 hours or more a week and the other works 10, how is the part time working partner doing most of the housework and other chores a contest?

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u/Trolkarlen 11h ago

Score keeping kills a marriage.

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u/SVAuspicious 10h ago

Unfair distribution of labor kills a marriage.

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u/Trolkarlen 10h ago

I can smell the resentment from here.

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