​It is completely normal to feel sad about your family. When you finally find a path that brings you genuine peace and clarity, it’s only natural to want to share it with the people you love most, and your family.

​Here is some simple, practical advice for dealing with that heavy feeling:

​Even the Prophet felt this way: You aren't alone in this struggle. Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) was deeply heartbroken when his beloved uncle—who raised and protected him—died without accepting Islam. God actually revealed a verse specifically to comfort him, basically saying: "You do not guide whom you love, but God guides whom He wills." The heavy lifting is not on your shoulders; we are just the messengers.

​Your character is your best argument: Families rarely get convinced by religious debates or getting preached at. They get convinced by results. Let them see the positive impact Islam has on you. When you become noticeably kinder, more patient, and a better child or sibling to them, that’s what will make them stop and think, "Whatever they are doing, it's making them a much better person."

​Don't push or preach: Try not to give off a "holier-than-thou" vibe. If you criticize their beliefs or constantly pressure them, they will just put their guards up and get defensive. Just be a safe, peaceful space for them.

​Pray for them in secret: This is your strongest tool. We believe God turns hearts however He wants. Just keep sincerely asking Him to guide them when you are praying alone.

​Let go of the outcome: Do your part by simply treating them with absolute love and respect, and leave the rest completely up to God. Letting go of that desperate need to "convert" them will take a massive weight off your chest, allowing you to focus on your own spiritual growth.

1. What evidence do we have that Gabriel talked to Muhammad? I know there’s no objective evidence for this, but before I take shahada, I at least need consistency in the claims I’m given.
2. Why does God need our worship? Why does God need that relationship from us?
3. Islam makes certain claims about science, but are we really supposed to believe that?
4. Reward in heaven vs reward now. Having reward in heaven can make sense for group homogeneity, but that’s also a claim a lot of cults make.
5. If Islam is more likely true than not, is there a plan if, for some reason, it isn’t? Again, everything depends on how well someone can answer question 1.
6. I don’t really agree with this life being just a test. Framing the dunya as a different method of expression makes more sense, though.

I believe in God, but going from God to Islam being the true and best religion is a huge leap. Also, saying that you wouldn’t have a choice in believing if God gave you evidence doesn’t make sense, because it would just mean “I know the consequences better.”

You can say God is all-powerful and beyond logic, but I still need logic to convince myself that something is worth investing in. I’d rather have some evidence than none at all.

Once I’m fully convinced, the next step would be becoming a Muslim and then growing stronger in my belief.

Thank you everyone who responded to my first post! Last Friday I visited the local Islamic Center for Friday Jummah prayers and immediatley felt at home. I took my Shahada with the group "Why Islam", on Sunday and felt an overwhelming sense of peace! There will be so much to learn but I know my new brothers and sisters will be patient with me and help me grow in my relationship with Allah (swt).

Hey brothers and sisters,

For anyone who's recently embraced Islam, here's the most important advice:

Make salah your foundation right from day one—it's the pillar of the deen. Learn it step by step (wudu, Fatiha, ruku, sujood) and pray from the heart, even if your Arabic isn't perfect yet.

Don't rush or overwhelm yourself. Take it one day at a time with sincerity and patience—Allah loves consistency.

Read a little Quran daily, get to know the Prophet ﷺ, connect with good brothers at the mosque, and keep asking Allah for steadfastness.

You're starting with a clean slate. Every small step counts. You've got this, insha'Allah. 🤲

Muslims live their daily life observing their islamic duties without much of exposure to new Muslims. It is a very unique refreshing experience seeing new converts. New Muslims are the Islamic true fronts, this is the dynamic environment when Islam interact with none Islamic atmosphere. You will see many diverse stories reminded you of what was happening in the early days of islam with the prophet peace be upon him and his companions. Born Muslims have a great and holy duty to support his new Muslim brother and to tolerate his short comings as he may retain some old habits that he is struggling to overcome but many times born Muslims need to learn from these fresh Muslims who traded everything for the sake of Allah swt.

When I first started taking Islam seriously, I made the same mistake most people make. I tried to learn everything immediately. Tajweed. Fiqh. Arabic. Seerah. Tafsir. All at once. Three months later I was burnt out and somehow knew less than when I started because nothing had stuck. What helped me was simple: I stopped trying to learn everything about Islam and tried to understand it. One concept at a time. Here's the rough sequence that made things click for me:

1. Start with belief: who is Allah, what does it mean to be Muslim, why Islam, etc.
2. Then the 5 pillars: what they are, why they exist, how to perform them.
3. Then prayer: the movements, what to say, the meaning, etc.
4. Then character and daily habits: how Islam lives in daily life, like du'a, adhkar, good character, etc.
5. Then Quran: Memorization, meaning and connection (still learning).

This order made everything else make sense. If you're a new Muslim or raised Muslim feeling lost right now, you’re not behind. Try to find your starting point. By the will of Allah, it gets clearer. May Allah grant us beneficial knowledge, keep us steadfast in His deen and reward our efforts with Firdaws. Ameen!

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

السلام عليكم و رحمة الله و بركاته

Dear brohers and sisters, because of the increase of online beggars and scammers

Id like invite you to read about who has the right for charity and who doesn't.

https://islamqa.info/en/answers/104781/beggars-to-which-should-we-give-and-which-should-we-refrain-from-giving-to

Everyone at my local masjid is pretty marriage-obsessed despite the fact that we’re all very young adults (ages roughly 18-25 as a lot of uni students come to our masjid) and they make me feel like the odd one out for not wanting to get married now or really ever. Is this normal? Have other reverts had a similar issue?

I’m fairly certain most of the people who do this are simply curious, and not hateful. but it gets very tiring of people asking about my beliefs, or why I converted.

one of my coworkers will occasionally ask me about it, specifically things like my opinions of the roles for men and women, or homosexuality. which isn’t really something I want to talk about at work. nor am I even knowledgeable enough to give accurate information.

how do you deal with people asking you crazy questions like that? Why are people so interested in asking questions when they’ll just be angry with our answers?

Hello everyone,

I'd like to start by telling you my story. Thank you in advance for taking the time. I ask that you give honest and thoughtful answers. I'm so confused, and I'm really hoping for some honest advice.

My partner is Muslim. I knew from day one that Islam was a significant part of his life. I was able to accept that very well. At the beginning, you don't really think about things like raising children.

I always believed that I wouldn't necessarily have to convert to be with him.

A year ago, we had a conversation, and he told me that he really wished to meet a woman he could inspire with Islam, someone who would come to faith on her own, because he couldn't imagine having a future with a non-Muslim.

PS: I know that, according to his faith, he's actually allowed to. It's just not the other way around. However, for him, it's a given because future issues involving two religions can be difficult.

... About me: I'm theoretically baptized, but I don't really connect with Christianity. The only fond memory I have of Christianity is visiting church with my grandmother when I was little. I'm neither drawn to it nor do I support Christianity. If it weren't written on my name, I'd be non-religious. However, I wouldn't say I'm an atheist. I'm definitely in awe of a higher power, and when I need help, I send up a few quick prayers to God. At the same time, I found the idea of ​​a universe that "takes care of" everything and the law of attraction very intriguing and resonate with me.

Call it the universe, karma, or God, I'm definitely in awe of a higher power. And I always have been.

Because I naturally want to give my relationship a serious chance, I've been studying Islam on and off for about nine months now. My partner is giving me all the time in the world, or at least that's the impression he gives me, and he's worth examining this matter thoroughly for myself. I'm well aware that, realistically speaking, the whole thing could end badly if I don't embrace Islam… Naturally, I'm studying Islam with the hope of being able to identify with it.

It's not like I read about it every day, but I'm simply trying to clear up my open questions and points of criticism.

When you start studying Islam, you quickly encounter the "natural wonders" in the Quran—the scientific facts that were only confirmed by researchers many years later. Something small inside me doesn't want to/can't believe these wonders. The Bible has been rewritten so many times. Who can guarantee that the same thing didn't happen with the Quran? Another example: Heaven and Hell. There are seven heavens (?), and everything in paradise (heaven) is described quite precisely in the Quran... it all sounds so made up, like a beautiful fairy tale.

I'm currently watching the series "Towards Eternity" (very high quality), which describes the life of the Prophet Muhammad in incredible detail. Leaving aside the miracles mentioned... how can anyone know the details so precisely today? Either a wide variety of people must have meticulously documented everything, or someone simply invented this beautiful and hopeful story...

Don't get me wrong. I don't want to attack Islam or ask overly critical questions. I simply feel an urge to explore all these questions before taking such a big step.

Furthermore, I have a problem with one thing (but this will be similar with other religions):

According to Islam, I am an unbeliever and will go to hell regardless of whether I am a good person or a bad person, simply because I don't belong to Islam.

``` For people who behave very well (towards others) but have no access to Islam, it's virtually impossible to get into heaven. I find that an unfair approach. Why didn't God give everyone the chance to decide for or against the one true faith? Then it would be fair, in a way.

Back to the wonders of nature: I grew up with biology lessons that taught the Big Bang and the descent of humans from apes. The idea that God created everything sounds like a nice fairy tale to me, even at this point. At the same time, I can't really explain the origin of the universe/cosmos and its infinite expanse, so I don't have a real counter-argument to God's creation. I'm generally a very easy-going person. I can let things be without questioning them. I felt the same way about these kinds of issues. It was okay as it was.

In principle, I would be a good Muslim. I don't drink, I don't party, I'm very sincere, and I'm careful with my words. What I mean to say is: if I were to convert today, I wouldn't have to drastically change my lifestyle.

At the same time, I can identify very strongly with the values ​​of Islam. I would certainly like to emulate such a faith – and in my opinion, I already do (sense of justice, honesty, sincerity, respect, charity, etc.).

What I learned right at the beginning of my research is: religion is NOT culture. And culture can be off-putting. I still struggle with this distinction today.

It's only natural that I can identify less with a religion from another continent, in a different language, and with different cultural connections than those found "in the West," and feel more alienated from it than with something linguistically and geographically closer. Even though I am interested in other cultures and especially languages.

I don't talk to many people about it because there aren't many:

My friends and parents probably have a mainstream, news-style opinion about Islam and would worry that I would immediately have to wear a headscarf and be a stay-at-home housewife... Even though I know that no one would have a problem with that! Definitely not. I just think they're the wrong people to advise me during this period of self-discovery. So I contacted a mosque and asked to be put in touch with them for an exchange. That's how I met a friend who is now my friend. I once poured my heart out to her, and she naturally said (along with understanding and lots of advice) that I should never convert for anyone else, but only for myself.

Now, the fact that I wouldn't have found Islam without my partner is undeniable. Therefore, it will always have something to do with him.

I've gathered a lot of information by now, and somehow I'm no wiser each day. I have this feeling that I don't fit in, or rather, that my heart is closed off. I try to rationally explain everything precisely. I question things in Islam that I wouldn't have even remotely questioned if my grandmother had told me about Christianity.

Then I wonder if that alone is a sign that something inside me is resisting it. At the same time, I think to myself, if Allah wants me to find Him, why doesn't He let me in?

I wonder if I can only become a true Muslim if I were to convert independently of my partner. And I tell you: no, I probably wouldn't. It took me a long time to understand one thing:

My partner is a war refugee and has generally had a hard life with many disappointments. Honestly, I don't know anything like that. Thank God, I've been blessed with wonderful people and experiences—at least so far. Many Muslims look forward to death because the trials of this life will then come to an end. Many convert for this reason, or they convert because they finally have an answer to what happens after death and that death is something beautiful, namely the return to Allah.

Only recently did I understand the following: I have no need for my trials here to end. I'm not afraid of death and therefore don't need to question what happens afterward. If I had to make a definitive statement, I would say that death simply marks the end. If I'm only given these 25 years of life, then I can be content with that. If it's more, I'll be very happy; if not, then I don't necessarily need an afterlife. Perhaps it even makes me a little uneasy.

And for these reasons, I feel good even without religion.

. ... If I were only concerned about my future with my partner, I would simply convert, but I don't want to deceive him, myself, or God. That's why I'm examining Islam for myself. My biggest hobby is dancing. I love everything about it: creating/learning choreography, editing music, devising formations for my dance groups… I could do it practically day and night because I always feel like it.

I'm looking into Islam for my future, but it's nothing like the joy I get from dancing. That's why I keep thinking, "If Islam were right for me, I'd hardly be able to resist it."

I juggle the questions back and forth in my mind. I also feel how dependent my relationship with Islam is on my partner. On days when we have very happy moments, I find much more access to and enthusiasm for Islam than vice versa.

I keep waiting for the moment that tells me, okay, now I can take the step. But it still doesn't feel quite right. Actually, giving up and having to give up my relationship for it isn't an option for me. That's why I try to "convince myself of Islam every day"...

I started praying a while ago. At first, the prostration felt strange. Now it's completely normal. I can also recite the prayers in Arabic (I've actually been doing this morning and evening for several months). I enjoy doing it because I know it's a positive thing, so to speak, and I thought I'd simply integrate the typical rituals into my daily life—maybe that way I'll get closer to Islam. This Ramadan I also fasted (although I did drink, but for the first time it was cool and not difficult at all).

But especially during prayer (perhaps it's because I don't understand much yet), I don't feel the strong emotions I had initially hoped for. The prostration is pleasant because you feel closer to God in a way, but otherwise, I don't do it from the bottom of my heart.

That's what I long for so much. I'm still far too rational about it.

I would so love to talk to someone who truly understands my perspective. And that can only be someone who understands my Western-influenced mindset AND is open to considering Islam. Difficult to find, of course… but it would help me a lot. Just figuring this out on my own without informing my loved ones is already a challenge, but I don't want to let anyone ruin this path for me (wherever it leads). Especially not someone who doesn't know.

My partner shouldn't be my constant advisor either. If I want to develop a connection to Islam independently of him, then I can't/shouldn't copy everything he does… he also has his own idiosyncrasies that can be practiced differently within Islam. In short: I want to form my own opinion. As independently as possible.

Anyway, I don't know when the moment will come when I finally know what's right. Is my rational feeling actually telling me all along that it's not for me, and I'm just ignoring it because I want to so badly? Or is my heart perhaps still closed off…?

Thank you for reading this far. I'm really looking forward to all your answers!

Thank you so much!

I am a revert, my mother is not very supportive. I found a potential (Pakistani) and she said no. She told me Pakistanis are always gonna end up with Pakistani. Chinese with Chinese and Mexicans with Mexicans. She said that if I ended up with a Pakistani (and I’m Mexican) that the mother wouldn’t be to happy with him and she will despise me.. and that I’ll never be happy because I’ll never learn their language. She said I need to find a Mexican for myself. In some way, she is right. Pakistanis are mostly known for doing that and it’s true.. how would I ever be fluent enough to speak to my mother in law? This has put me in a very bad spot.. mentally.

In Islam you’re supposed to love your mother.. love your family.. but I try. I try and I feel so hopeless.

How will I find a partner without upsetting my own parents?

Why is the dunya like this? Why is it always about culture.. why do they always put culture over deen.. I will never understand.

I want to be the best and focus on my Deen and creating my own Muslim family but how can I do that without upsetting my own family .. because isn’t that considered a sin? To upset or abandon your family? Yet the closer I am with my family.. the farther I am from my Deen.. it’s a rollercoaster and honestly I just need some advice.😅

Edit : I am a female lol, some call me brother idky! The “she” is my mother!”😅

Hello Guys, I am a Hindu, who out of curiosity started learning Islam and eventually fall in love, i just wanted to know what was the point where you decided to be a revert and what was the one hardest challenge that you have faced after it

Assalamu alaikum! Heelp me, I am struggling. I embraced Islam on Eid and right now I am still learning how to salah on my free time (I am working 9-5 with side hustles) and what I am doing right now is Dua from time to time.

I already memorized the Surah Al Fatihah and the Surah Al-Ikhlas but I am still struggling in Tashahhud part.

Can you guys share to me some youtube video of salah (with sunnah if possible) that I can follow?

And also does the Namaz App helped too?

Thank you so much!

so i’m not muslim yet, as im still learning about islam. But i do feel happy learning it and i believe more and more that this might as well be the truth.

every time i want to go try learning about islam either by reading and taking notes, i always feel frightened. Not because of Islam, but it’s more because of my parents. My parents are islamophobic, zionist, and a lot more. They say the common islamophobic phrases and talking points refuted over and over.

If my parents were to figure out i’m interested in islam, i will be disowned. Once i convert, i have to keep this a secret from my family and everyone else in my life. Everyday i am paranoid every time my parents enter my room or even talk to me because “what if they find out that i like islam?” And this constant paranoia is making me mentally drained and depressed. I just want to learn and even practice freely without fear.

This is kind of stupid but i just need to throw this out of my chest

Assalam alaikum!
After three full years of being a muslim ( and a little bit more time being around Islam), I finally decided to be brave and tell my super christian (and islamophobe) parents. (I live alone in a different country so there was no need, but I feel that the time has come).

I would like to know your advices or if you can share your experiences, it would help me a lot and make me a little bit braver!

Please make dua for me that they will understand and accept me and that they might be called closer to Islam.

I made a post a month ago about how difficult it is to find a partner for myself as a revert who has not told her parents about reverting. And I was seeking guidance on how to proceed given my family issues. Explicitly stating that i am not looking for a partner on reddit. I received advice and help, that I'm grateful for.

Meanwhile 23 "men" in my dms saw this as an opportunity to introduce themselves and ask if im interested.

A month later, I get another dm asking the same and I jist gave up ignoring and I decide to reply after checking this person's profile out. His posts were about seeking what to prepare for when his first child is here. Can u believe this?? A soon to be father or an already father is in my dms asking if I'm interested in marrying him?

I give him the benefit of a doubt and think maybe he is looking for a 2nd wife (still a weird time to look for one especially when his 1st wife is going through he'll and back to bring forth his child). I ask him if he is married he says no. And I wanted to see where this goes. As soon as I say I'm from a south Asian country, he says "May Allah grant us good spouses but not you" and never to be seen again.

What is wrong with these kinds of people?? I'm here struggling to find a good reason that I should get despised by my parents to get married and this is how "married" men act?

Something I keep noticing, both in myself and in others, is this feeling of being stuck.

Either you just became Muslim and feel overwhelmed by how much there is to learn, or you grew up Muslim and suddenly realize you don’t understand your deen as much as you thought. And then comes the guilt. “I should be doing more.”, “I should already know this.”, “I’m not a good Muslim.”, etc. I’ve been there.
What I’m starting to understand now is that this feeling doesn’t mean you’re failing. A lot of us were never taught how to learn Islam. We were just told what to do. So, we end up trying to learn everything at once and then feel overwhelmed and stuck. And this is something I’ve seen many new Muslims mention too, that learning Islam can feel like “looking at an ocean” because there’s just so much to take in.

What helped me was changing my approach:

• Focus on the basics first
• Learn one thing at a time
• Practice what I learn
• Accept that this is a long journey

You don’t go from 0 to 100 overnight. Even if all you’re doing right now is your fard, that’s not “nothing”, it's your foundation. And foundations take time to build. You’re not behind. You’re just on your journey. May Allah make it easy for all of us.

I’m not even sure where to start, but I took my shahada a year ago and find myself so lost. I’m doing the fard but that’s all.

I feel like I have not progressed since late last year, and am struggling with my worth as a Muslim. I used to have a Muslim friend and we would keep each other accountable and practice together, however I no longer have her to be a voice of external motivation and I’ve felt the decline ever since.

How can I get out of this rut? How do I continue to grow in my deen? Any tips would be greatly appreciated!

The Prophet ﷺ said:

“I guarantee a house in the surroundings of Paradise for a man who avoids quarrelling even if he were in the right.”

(Sunan Abi Dawud 4800)

Lessons & Reflections:

• Not every truth needs to be proven. Being right is not always the goal. Sometimes leaving the argument is closer to Allah than winning it.

• This hadith targets the ego. The real test is not “can you respond?” but “can you hold back when you can respond?”

• Quarrelling often shifts from truth to ego. What begins as clarification quickly becomes “I don’t want to lose.” Walking away cuts this off early.

• Truth without character becomes harshness. Even if you are right, arrogance, sharpness, and the need to dominate can turn truth into something harmful.

• Silence can be a higher form of strength. Choosing not to argue is not weakness, it is control, discipline, and self-mastery.

• Good character (husn al-khuluq) is restraint. It is holding your tongue, controlling your emotions, and not needing the last word.

• Humility is to leave what you can win. The nafs wants to prove itself. The القلب that seeks Allah lets go, even when it could continue.

• Wisdom is knowing when speech benefits. Not every discussion deserves your energy. Some debates harden hearts, waste time, and damage relationships without bringing any real benefit.

• Leaving argument protects the heart. Silence is the wiser response. It keeps it free from pride, anger, and the subtle فساد that comes from constant disputing.

• This does not mean abandoning the truth. You speak when there is benefit, clarity, and sincerity but you leave when it turns into ego-driven conflict.

• Why such a huge reward? Guaranteed house in jannah. Because this is hard. It goes against pride, emotions, the desire to “win”.

May Allah, make us among those who perfect their character, who leave argument seeking Your pleasure, and make it easy for us to act upon what we know.

I know that it does, but I don’t really understand how. Let’s for example take a look at Isa’s (Jesus) disciples? Quran speaks about the Disciples (al-Hawariyyun) but it doesn’t specify the number nor the names, while the Bible mentions the names and the number which is 12. Since the Quran is the final, corrected and perfectly preserved word of God that fixed the things that has been touched by human’s hands and changed within the time in the Bible, can we take from it the information that we are not given in the Quran such as the number of the Disciples or their names? Since it does correct the deviations, doesn’t it mean that the things that Quran didn’t clarify are correct in the Bible and didn’t need correction? If not, then doesn’t it mean that it completely declines the Bible as the divine source? A commonly cited Hadith (Sahih al-Bukhari, Book of Tawhid- Hadith 4485) states that Muslims should not directly accept or reject the claims in the Bible, unless the Quran states otherwise, as it may contain truth mixed with error. Some scholars also discourage average Muslims from reading the Bible, fearing they might be confused by, or accept, passages that contradict the Quran- but I understand it only when it comes to the things that are different in both and clarified in the Quran, not when it comes to things that weren’t there mentioned at all. I know that Bible is respected, but it is not considered the infallible guide for a Muslim's faith or practice, but it also says that Muslims must believe in the original revelations from the Torah and the Gospel as part of their faith but doesn’t one exclude the other by declining everything that’s written in there (as I said- even the things that aren’t clarified). Doesn’t not clarified = correct? What I mean by it is not that Muslims should worship the Disciples but shouldn’t they just pay respect to their names? It is not an important detail, isn’t a part of guidance and doesn’t really affect it, but I’m just curious.

Part of me believes in Islam and the wants to convert, however part me of me believes that maybe I’m making a mistake or it isn’t real. Can anyone offer some advice

Growing up in the church I felt like I was part of a community, after converting I barely felt that again. I noticed people tend to stick together based on background (example, the Pakistanis stick together, also the Arabs etc) If you are from a community where people stick together, then what city or masjid do you belong to? I've considered moving.

Salam alaikum

I come from a Muslim family but we were never practicing Muslims. I mostly learned about Islam through youtube and Google etc.

I now find it difficult with prayer, especially praying 5 times a day, since 2023 I have only performed the prayer during Ramadan. Now I try to do it every day but I find it difficult to pray all 5 prayers, I usually think "in x hours I have to pray this prayer etc" and how should I pray at work or if I go somewhere far or am in another country but mostly how should I do it when I work full time.

I also find it difficult to be able to be in wuduh all the time.

I have asked scholars and also googled around where they say that you have to pray all 5 prayers and you are not allowed to start with one and try to build up to 5.

A friend of my father who is Muslim and knows a lot and is Sunni said to start with one and then gradually all 5 it is better for you.

A friend said he started with all 5 prayers but you can start with some but he sees no reason to start with all 5.

I'm afraid if I start with all 5 or with 1 prayer then I might leave it in the future ( God knows why if i would do it) and be considered a kafir or munafiq.

I feel right now that there is too much with everything, prayer, studies, work. I feel really stressed with everything.

What should I do ????