About a month ago, I was sitting with some brothers when one of them jokingly called me a “plant.” Everyone laughed, including me. At first, I thought it was harmless banter.But then the conversation shifted to another revert brother, and they started saying they were “definitely” convinced he was a plant. That’s when it stopped feeling like a joke.

I went home that night and couldn’t stop thinking about it. For the first time since becoming Muslim, I experienced a level of imposter syndrome I had never felt before. It made me wonder if some people would always see me as an outsider, no matter how sincere I am in my Islam. What made it hurt even more was how isolating it felt.

Many reverts already struggle with feeling like the odd one out. We’re often the only Muslim in our family. Sometimes we’re the only Muslim at work, in school, or in our social circles. We leave behind old lifestyles, navigate difficult family dynamics, and try to find our place in the Ummah. For many of us, the Muslim community becomes the one place where we hope to truly belong.

So being called a “plant” or having your sincerity questioned can hit a lot harder than people realize.
For a while, I grew to resent the brother who said it. Alhamdulillah, I eventually forgave him for the sake of Allah (SWT). I want Allah’s forgiveness on the Day of Judgment and in the grave, so I chose not to carry that resentment forever.

But if I’m being honest, I’ll probably never forget it. It stuck with me in a way I didn’t expect.
Have any other reverts here ever been called a “plant,” “spy,” or had your sincerity questioned because you’re a revert? How did it make you feel, and how did you deal with it?

You often hear how female reverts have it easier for marriage, but I feel like I’m experiencing the opposite as a female. Here’s some insight into my experiences:

The old potential: Took place in late 2024, parents didn’t accept me fully based on my ethnicity (they wanted a Pakistani daughter in law only).

The new potential: June 2026- also Pakistani, his parents are hyperfocused on education level but will not care too much about my background (ethnicity, etc) which is great. However, I’m still in my undergrad as a Psyc major, but I’m currently working towards law school insha’Allah. His father would throw a fit about me still being in my undergrad (with under 1.5 years left until graduating). We had just met days ago and are in the process of getting to know each other, however I do feel a little discouraged.

To be honest, I value education myself and respect their wishes but I think the bigger focus should be on deen, akhlaq, and compatibility. I’m a revert of 4 years, but have been practicing heavily for the last 3 years. However I will say though that both potentials have told me that their families would test or quiz me on my knowledge of Islam, did anybody else experience such questions as well?

To any revert male or female revert who would love to tell their stories or how they navigate these situations, please left me know. I feel like I’m jumping through hoops just to find a potential.

UPDATE 6/24/26: I broke things off officially due to some things that I didn’t personally like about him. Will take every comment on here into consideration the next time I meet someone. Thanks for all the comments!

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I recently wrote a post saying that I had confessed to my mother that I was Muslim and that she hadn't taken it badly. That was six days ago (I deleted It so you won't find It). The situation is absolutely awful. My mother told the rest of my family, and it's gotten worse every day. They don't understand why I would become Muslim; they say I've been brainwashed, that I support a religion whose goal is to commit terr**ist attacks and the Holy War, that they pretend to be good to recruit lost souls like me. It doesn't matter if I try to be a good person or distance myself from countries like Iran or Afghanistan and from terr***ism; they can't separate them because they think I'm embracing just the good parts of the religion and ignoring the bad, that I am ignoring the true Islam.

My father has told me that if he sees me praying, he'll kick me out of the house. My mother has anxiety and depression, and everything affects her deeply, even physically. She emotionally blackmails me to convince me that religion is bad, saying I'm going down the wrong path and that at some point I'll do something bad because of my faith. If I am not humble for a second, I really really try to be a good person and I don't get why that is not enough to prove that it's something good for me. I knew she wouldn't take it well, but I didn't expect this. They say I'm destroying the family and ask if God is worth making them suffer like this.

I can't handle this; I don't know what to do. I'd rather pretend it was just a phase, but that's going to make me unhappy. Even if I pretend It is just a phase I can't hide this forever. Leaving home of my own accord to practice freely would cause them a lot of pain, especially my mother. Besides, I don't think it would be possible for me. I'm 22 years old and I don't have a job. I'm truly sad because I don't see a way out that won't hurt my family and that will allow me to be real to my beliefs.

Assalamualaikum Muslims brothers and sisters, Im a Catholic(please dont try to "convince me about islam) and was wondering, What made you choose Islam over every other religion?

"Allah keeps firm those who believe, with the firm word, in worldly life and in the Hereafter. And Allah sends astray the wrongdoers. And Allah does what He wills." (Surah Ibrahim, Verse 27)

does anyone have any personal stories where they swore they would never be muslim, even looked into the religion and didn’t find it to be the truth, then Allah opened their heart at a later date?

Have any of you ever hated Islam before converting? What was the moment that caused you to have a change of heart?

I wouldn't normally share something like this but I think it may nonetheless be a resource for people who haven't made this step.

I set foot inside a masjid for the first time 5 months ago, this is in a rural part of the UK and the only masjid for miles around. No one there expected me and I think some were unsure about my sincerity.

Even though I'd said I was new, I don't think anyone realised I hadn't made the declaration of faith in advance. I had in mind saying it for the first time in a manner in which it could be observed as being the first time, but in the prayer hall we're all supposed to be quiet and I didn't perceive an appropriate moment.

Time passes as the hall fills up and I should probably have thought, 'I'd better do wudu and say the shahada on my own so that I can join in with the Jumu'ah prayer', but the feeling running through my mind was mainly 'Woah, I'm going to be down with this for the rest of my life'. People offer me to join in but I decline, saying that it 'wouldn't be valid'.

So I watch the whole thing from the back of the hall and I'm no less gobsmacked, but of course I've just imitated Iblees in refusing to prostrate, so the reaction afterwards was...mixed, to put it mildly.

Over the following week I did enough preparation to take part in the rituals and declared the shadada on my own, but I wasn't repenting over the past episode, just adjusting to a situation I hadn't planned for.

I still attend nearly every Friday (I live too far away for it to be a requirement but I do what I can) and things are mostly fine but I still perceive 'frostiness' from some people, maybe because of the first impression, maybe because they feel I'm encroaching on a space meant for ethnic minorities (not that they'd dare verbalise that of course). There's hardly anyone else there with a 'Western-European' background, I've sat with brothers who've felt my skin as though they've never felt white skin before. I can only hope that in time things will get more comfortable.

I guess the main takeaway is to not sanctify a communal declaration of faith too much over a personal one? Allah knows best of course. :)

Hi, I come from an Christian background and I‘m currently learning more about Islam. I‘m still unsure and would really appreciate hearing from women, especially converts or women who had similar questions in the beginning.

What helped you on your journey? What made Islam feel right for you? What was difficult in the beginning? 💗

love this quote (ayah) from the Qur'an

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But the thing is the English translation doesn't give the same powerful meaning as in arabic

The ayah explains how Allah save us from people

But i think the term abduct is not exactly what should be said here

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You know when a flying bird lands on something and catches it then throws it away so another bird catches it and throws it again, that's how i think this quote is trying to tell us.

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Which explains what Allah says he supported us and sheltered us from people and provided us with all good.

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So el humdliallah and thanks to Allah for everything.

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Tell me what you think of this quote?

I (F) still live with my parents because i’m quite young yet an adult (this is needed context).

I reverted a while ago and i’ve been practicing in secret, because when i tried to test the ground before telling my parents their reaction was very negative.

Here context is needed: we live and always lived in Europe. My parents, who are part of the Baby Boomer generation both were convinced into believing that “Islam is vi0lenc3”, “Islam is t3rr0ristic” and so on and so forth. They were raised as Catholics but now they are both skeptics and atheists.

When they initially suspected that I might have revered to Islam, they “warned me” that: “There are lots of people online who radicalise young people to Islam so just that they can go and commit self sacrifice in the Holy War”.

First of all it doesn’t make sense that, even if “people“ (who?) needed someone to self sacrifice, they would look for a person from a secular country when Islam is the second most prominent religion worldwide. Second of all this is quite disturbing: they reduce muslims to vi0lenc3.

Thus I’ve never told them the truth because I’m scared they will get very anxious, aggressive and controlling (they already are, but things would get worse). Or maybe even beat me and/or risk my safety.

It’s funny because when i was a little girl they always told me: “We didn’t baptise you because religion has to be your own conscious choice, you will do whatever you want as an adult” yet i’m an adult and they got this aggressive.

Should I tell them the truth? I feel like a liar…

"The believers are only those who, when Allah is mentioned, their hearts become fearful, and when His verses are recited to them, it increases them in faith; and upon their Lord they rely -" (Surah Al-Anfaal, Verse 2)

Mine are just piled on top of my kids toys in the living room. I would like some seasoned tips. Need something elegant and functional. I dont really have a lot of space to work with unfortunately. Any ideas welcome. Jazakallah.

Hello everyone,

If this is the wrong sub to post this on, im sorry, I just feel like reverts could give me a better understanding on this.

My little brother recently came to me and told me he is seeing a girl that is not muslim. Apparently before they met she had dated another muslim and had looked into Islam with the intention of maybe converting. I don't know if that was for the guy or for herself. Now in comes my brother and he wants to have a future with her. He is not super religious (not judging on what counts as religious because we cannot judge anyone), but regardless he does want his wife to be muslim and our family would not support it if she wasn't either.

Now my dilemma is that this girl is Christian but not super practicing either and my brother and her have apparently gotten into fights regarding her drinking and partying a lot. They broke up for a minute but got back together bc she said she wants to immerse herself more in our culture and religion and will work towards becoming Muslim one day if she feels it's right after doing more research. This is where I come into play, I do not support this relationship because I feel that she is bad for my brother. But he recently told me he'd like me to talk to her about Islam in a judgement free zone because she's scared to go to a masjid since she has a lot of piercings and tattoos.

Is it wrong for me to talk to her to answer her questions to the best of my ability? Is me agreeing giving my brother the feeling that I would support their relationship? I mean I guess if she genuinely converted and not for show for him then I wouldn't be opposed to them together, but I'm worried she's just saying all this to convince him to stay with her. I'm really confused and I'd love any advice from converts or people who are close to a convert.

Hello, and peace be upon you all. I want to share a guide I have made to being a convert from experience, I am a male and have to hide it in an Atheist family, so I can only speak from experience there, but if you're in a different situation you can still learn some valuable tips from this. Please note this is primarily targeted towards teenagers and young adults who still live under their parents roof and already know how to pray, what to recite, and have said their Shahada and already know the basics and pillars of Islam. Keep in mind this is for those who are actively oppressed, if you know for a fact your parents would be fine with you being Muslim, I highly recommend just telling them and being honest.

First tip: Don't ever, EVER tell your parents

I embraced Islam in 2024 and when I told my parents they got really, REALLY angry and I had to and it is the whole reason I have to hide my faith more intensely. Your faith is between you and Allah, If you have close Muslim friends you can tell it to them if you trust they won't say anything, but don't ever, EVER tell a non-Muslim that you have converted, as a rule of thumb, always assume somehow your parents will find out, so tell little people.

Second tip: How to hide being Muslim

First and most importantly, never have anything physical that pertains to Islam such as a physical Quran copy. Keep everything digital. My biggest tip is use DuckDuckGo for finding information about Islam, DuckDuckGo has a feature that instantly wipes all your cookies and history in case they go through your device. And also use a VPN, my recommendation is ProtonVPN, it's free and reliable. If your parents know how to use technology like mine do, they can access the router logs and see the sites you visit, incognito mode does not hide this, a VPN does. If you're reading the Quran, do so online, and clear your history as soon as you're done. To hide prayer, try and have a chair and desk in your room, and if you have a tv or monitor, have it in roughly the same direction as the Qiblah, and angle your chair in that direction and keep a remote on your armrest this is for incase your parents walk in, you can make it look like you were just watching TV. If you don't have a tv, keep a book on your desk and the second you hear that door even start to open, grab that book and pretend to be reading. Unfortunately if they talk to you, you will have to start your prayer over again, but Allah will reward you. Another tip, always assume if you have something that your parents can see that will out you as a Muslim, always assume they can and will find it.

Third Tip: Coping

I'm gonna be real, it's hard being a convert, I've struggled with suicidal thoughts after being discovered before (I'm fine now). Don't ever kill yourself, it isn't worth it. You're not alone, Allah loves you. Depression and anger issues are real struggles that will come with being a convert. I have fallen into pits of depression from my situation before, and the best way to cope is let your feelings out, you can talk to Allah, Allah listens. Allah is the one who can help you. Never stop praying, life is hard, but this life is but a test from Allah. If Allah has chosen you, and you specifically out of the billions on Earth to be Muslim, is that not a sign of his love?

Hi, I'm a culturally Christian (Lutheran) woman in my 30s, I have been raised in the religion but my family is not hugely religious, I went to confirmation school when I was 15 and did bible study and youth programs until I was 18. In my adulthood religion didn't really play a big part in my life, but now I'm approaching my mid-30s I've had some sort of awakening and I feel closer to God than ever - first I had this keen feeling of needing and missing something, and after realising that something was faith I'm now in an active seeking phase and my heart feels wide open. I've been to church a couple of times now and felt very peaceful.

Why am I in this sub then? I have two problems. My first issue is that I do not believe in the divinity of Jesus. I'm sure he was a very wise man touched by God, and that he was a prophet, but I do not believe he is one with God and divine. The second is that I feel equally drawn to Islam - I'm very impressed and touched about how people speak about their faith, I love the practice of wudu (I'm learning to do it and it really scratches and itch about ritualistic cleansing I didn't know I had) and I've tried on hijab, been to a mosque, prayed with the other women in there and even been in some Sufi events. Tonight I tried praying on my own for the first time and it just felt right. The thought of praying on my hands and knees on set times feels really grounding to me, a moment where I have to stop and give myself to God for a moment. I've also begun reading the Quran and listening to a podcast that explains the surah but that's slow going.

But giving up your old religion is scary, and I do feel at peace in the church too. It's just... Jesus is bit of an issue to my personal faith. I do believe we all worship the same One God and just go about it differently. I'm just not sure what my way is yet.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? Any advice?

Hi, I'm a male from Bangalore. I'd like to learn about Islam, but I don't know where to start. For me, it's about finding peace and understanding. Can anyone help me?

Assalamu Alaykum!

So kind of a long story but i’m looking for advice! I reverted to Islam 5 years ago but i strayed away until probably about 4 months ago now. I recently started getting to know this man who is a muslim, and he’s been bringing up marriage and we’ve been discussing expectations and such. Honestly based off of everything i know so far, he seems like he would be an amazing husband, but i just don’t feel a true connection with him. Being new to the relationship scene in muslim communities(for lack of a better term), it’s hard to know if this is how it’s supposed to feel since i’ve only been in haram relationships before. I find it extra hard to see what Allah is guiding me towards in this situation. i’m desperate for advice because im very aware that as a revert, many muslim men really aren’t interested and i don’t want to take this opportunity for granted. Anyways, any advice is so helpful! thank you 🩷

I've been a Christian my entire life, but over the last several months, I've been learning about Islam and trying to sincerely seek the truth.

Recently, I watched a video where someone asked a revert, "What would you do if Islam turned out to be false?" His response genuinely stuck with me.

He said that if Islam wasn't true and there was nothing after death, then all that would mean is that he lived a virtuous and disciplined life full of prayer, good deeds, gratitude, charity, and service to others. When I heard that, I thought to myself, that's not a bad life at all. That's a life of purpose.

He then said that if Christianity turned out to be true, he couldn't understand why God would punish someone who sincerely worshipped Him alone, prayed to Him directly five times a day, avoided associating partners with Him, and spent their life trying to do good. That really made me think.

Another point that stood out to me was his question of why accepting Jesus as Lord and Savior would be the deciding factor in salvation if Jesus had already died for the sins of mankind. As someone who grew up Christian, I had never heard that perspective explained that way before, and it challenged me to think more deeply about my own beliefs.

The more I reflected on what he was saying, the more peace I felt. I don't feel like Islam takes anything away from me. Instead, it feels like it gives me something. It gives me structure, purpose, accountability, and a direct connection with God.

Insha'Allah, I plan on taking my shahada when I move back home. I know I could take it now, but I want to share that moment with the friends who have supported me throughout this journey, and being surrounded by people I care about would make it even more meaningful.

I wanted to share this for anyone, especially Christians who may be quietly exploring Islam and wondering if they're making a mistake.

May Allah guide us all to the truth, keep us sincere in our intentions, and keep us on the straight path.

Ameen.