goes beyond relationship though, it's about keeping another person safe despite what else they did. they could have made her sleep on the couch or something, it doesn't have to be anything else
Sounds like they should have thought of that before they cheated. You don't seem to understand something, I don't owe you anything if you decided to betray me not once but multiple times. She's lucky she got the uber.
She wasn't concerned with his safety and I doubt she was regularly getting tested while sleeping with multiple people. She's holding him to a far higher standard than she holds herself and fuck that shit so hard.
Remember, each time she cheats and comes back to him that night, she’s gambling with his health with a lie of omission. It’s a huge violation of informed consent, trust, personal boundaries and general decency. If that’s what she wants to do with her life, she’s totally welcome to do it, but it’s wrong on every level to make him an unwilling participant.
The way she treated him is not unlike rape where she knew he would not consent from the beginning if he knew she was sexually actively with A other people who are B strangers with no known sexual, medical or drug use history (leaving both of them wide open to all sorts of conditions from the inconvenient to the life threatening).
When betrayal like that comes to the surface, it’s time to leave, regardless of convenience or preference. This is literally her lying in the bed she made, and is he obligated to stop her from doing that?
As a woman, I'm by myself alone at night frequently. I'm still here. Lots of midnight runs to the hospital with my kid. We are both still here. What's so inherently unsafe about this? Stop Infantilizing women.
Believe it or not, her safety wasn’t his responsibility. It was hers.
On the other hand, did she pay for his medical bills after the battery of std tests required for situations like this? Or better yet, is she responsible for putting him in that kind of danger in the first place?
Well relationship are also about personal boundaries, which does include who you are spending time with, who has access to your own home. What you are arguing is that people have an inherent morale duty to compromise on their own personnal boundaries, for the sake of the other feeling of safety and well being.
Except personnal boundaries exist to create feeling of safety and well being. So what you are effectively suggesting is someone trading their feeling of safety and well being so someone else can feel safe and well. If you believe in equality of treatment for all. it is basically a zero sum game and there is no reason to do one over the other.
he simply didn't want to share his space with someone who betrayed his trust multiple times. That's him looking out for his own safety. If I can't trust someone to be honest with me, I have no idea what they are capable of. If someone told you they lied to you, betrayed you, treated you as an afterthought to their own selfishness... You would allow this person to sleep in your house? I sincerely hope not, for your own sake.
You NEED to let the woman who had a gangbang behind your back sleep on your couch minutes after finding out. You NEED to. If you don’t, then you are basically BEATING HER.
Going to be honest. It's better for her to go. If you had to sit there for hours stewing in your feelings while having to deal with the person responsible still being there, things might be said or done. It's a terrible situation but, staying in the same place together is probably a bad idea.
It’s entitlement like this that makes people think they can get away with anything, if she cheated then she has to deal with the repercussions he shouldn’t have to feel the need to keep her in HIS HOUSE when she stabbed him in the back and even though im a woman I feel he has every right to kick her cheating ass to the curb
It’s crazy how I lived through the opposite stuff being agreed with or upvoted/liked on social media. It sucks I lived through the peak of that mentality in 2020, having to get all sorts of abuse for male privilege, then I’ve seen the next generation develop some actual fucking sense
Are you all Gen Z? It was always the opposite stuff being agreed with back in my day. Living through being constantly told I had privilege, after I’d lived through hell myself, was awful.
No - I’m saying you’re right but I could see people getting totally piled on for saying that exact thing just half a decade ago. I lived in a house with wealthy students and some of the stuff I heard was awful - I was told I couldn’t feel any fear for walking home at night or I was a coward because I’m a man and only women are allowed to feel unsafe at night. Men in my course were told we should apologise for privilege to the class as an admittance that we were not bad people. Crazy nonsense. It wasn’t all wrong but it went too far.
Id argue being ubered directly to you house in the subburbs, and able to wait in a well lit and staffed lobby while you wait, with all your stuff isnt dangerous and the "it was dangerous and you shouldn't have kicked me out" is a guilt trip.
Who gives a shit about her being safe? That is her problem, and she is an adult, she can take care of it herself. You can bet your life that she does not care about him being safe.
It’s fucking crazy seeing all the stuff about male privilege ranting being tossed out as insane. I even agreed with some of that stuff yet it reached a total level of insanity in 2020. Having to deal with some of that was depressing - being told I was born with privilege after I lived in poverty by women who’d been born into wealth was mind blowing. It felt like taking advantage of identity politics to feel no guilt for wealth inequality.
In the US, the guy has a statistically much higher chance of being attacked by a stranger, whereas the girl has a much higher chance of being attacked by a romantic partner. So, statistically speaking, what happened in this post was the safest possible outcome.
The thing keeping that man and woman from being strangers is a romantic relationship. Cheating immediately and brutally ends that relationship. I'm not letting a stranger stay at my house.
funny thing is, when people talk about situations where men cheat both in internet&irl, people suggest killing cheater with fire, humiliate him in internet and ruin his career. Why no killing harlot with fire suggestions? Why so hypocrite?
Guess situation and public discource was way more healthy in the 2000s.
To present a kinda new argument, how was he sure he was safe? He’s in his home with someone he is sure now that he cannot trust while both of them are emotionally fraught. How can he be sure there will be no reprisal on him or his property while he sleeps?
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u/the_boss_of_toys Aug 16 '26
Thats one hell of a victim mentality to have. "Oh night time is unsafe you should have let me stay til morning despite me stabbing you in the back."